im ready to keep my baby my b.f is not?

Answer 1

Not knowing the full extent of your situation here is my answer:

If you want to keep that baby - keep it. You may loose the boyfriend. He may call you names, say you're trying to ruin his life and pull every guilt trip in the book he can think of on you. Stay strong. If your heart tells you that you want to keep your baby, then follow your heart.

It won't be easy. Being a parent is the toughest thing you will ever do, but so wonderful. Being a single parent has its own special challenges. But if you are in a place where you can do what is right by that baby and you can give it the care and nurture that it needs; if you have the support of family and friends (because it does take a village to bring up a baby) then you keep your baby. But know that there are challenges ahead. There will be days when you don't think you can go another day on your own. But if you are healthy, mentally prepared for the long hard journey ahead, and loving then you should follow your heart.

My heart goes out to you. My boyfriend didn't want our baby. I lost the boyfriend and have a fabulous little one instead. I wouldn't trade for anything!

Answer 2

Tell him you don't need him and raise that child with more love than he ever could, times might get rough depending on your age but remember things get btter as they go along. Give your baby a lot of love and he/she will grow up fine. But remember one thing screw your B.f over and demand child support because if he can't man up and take care of his child he is not a man at all. He helped to make that child now he should man up and take on the responsibility to help raise you guys baby. Trust me he might come along when he see how much fun a baby is plus the are so adorable.

Answer 3

it's is your body and your choice.. a woman knows when she is ready to be a mother, in her heart... if your ready then you should do it. i am a single mother myself and i can say that is a tough job but the most rewarding thing you will ever do in your life. you seriously don't know the true meaning of life until you have a child. my sons father wants to have nothing to do with him and i am the only parent in his life, sometimes it gets hard and stressful but i love my son more than anything in the whole world and it makes it all worth it!! he makes me strive to be a better person every day and has brought nothing but good things to my life. there are so many programs to help single mothers.. wic gives free formula and food. you can get on healthy families, it's a low cost heath care and there are lots of support syetems you can hook up with being a single mother. you will be surprised how many other women are going through the same thing and are there to give advice. you can always get child suport also... just do whats in your heart and know that you'll be okay. being a mother is the best thing in the world whether your doing it with someone or going at it alone.. i hope that helps. good luck!

Answer 4

First of all how old are you? Second if you are still living at home and a minor have you informed your parent? Third if you are an of age adult do you have a means of support to raise this child? When I say support I don't just mean financial, I also mean emotional, you are going to need this. How far are you in your pregnancy and are you seeking medical care? I would also enlist they help of a professional therapist or a County Women' Group in your area. Most of the time they are listed as DuPage County Women's Clinic, ect. Check your local phone book and don't make any decision based on your boyfriend, he is obviously not ready to commit to this child or you. At the Women's Department they can also assist you with legal and financial, assistance and making him accountable for his fathering this child. If you are afraid of being abused as a result, contact your local Police Department and they can assist you with further help.

Answer 5

Look I went through the same thing My ex BF did not want me to keep it and I did. We had are fights and I mean we argued and argued. He put it on me said that I could have easily gone up to the health department and gotten free birth control. I told him he could have gotten condoms just as easy for free. he told me to leave. So I did and I am doing fine. The government is helping me. They have all sorts of programs out there to help low income single mothers. Yes it is scary I know but you can do it. I am. I have an 8 month old daughter and I would not give her up for the world. Don't give up on that baby it deserves a chance to live. Give yourself the chance to be a wonderful mother to that baby. You have it in you we all do. That motherly instinct.

Answer 6

i suggest you keep your baby to hell with him and what he don't want, this child might turns out be the best thing that ever happens to you, do you know how many people in the word today want to get pregnant and don't get the chance to, keep your baby because you might not get the chance to be a mother for the second time some people are made just to have one child, you don't know if you are one of those people at least you can say you have experienced mother wood its a wonderful feeling I know because I am a mother give your baby a chance to live.

Answer 7

If he doesn't want your child then you need to leave him and raise the child yourself. It will be so hard to raise a child by yourself but you can do it, people do it all the time. Just make a decision based on you and your child's best interest, if he will not be a good father then it is not worth staying with him. A child is a true miracle, a gift and if he can't see that then it is not worth it.

Answer 8

I was in the same situation i am now a very happy single mum with a two year old. You are better off not having somebody like that in your life. My sons father and i broke up the day i found out i was pregnant - he now sees him very irregularly but pretends to his friends, my friends and his family that he loves him to bits (but can go up to a few months without seeing him). Her does pay child support though! I love being a mum and being single doesn't bother me in the slightest - i know i made the right decision for me and my son!!

Answer 9

It all boils down to how you feel, and if you think you can support the baby yourself....the thing is, he may change his mind after the baby is born....I wouldn't count on it, just because then you are prepared to take care of the baby if that is what you choose....then if he does choose in, you have more support that you planned for....

Don't know what else i can say...do what is loving for you, and trust what you feel, don't make it about what anyone else thinks

Answer 10

aww, I know this may be tough...well my suggestion is to go with what your heart says, forget what everyone else has to tell you. From the sounds of it, seems like you want your child. I have not yet given birth, but I believe that its a beautiful thing. Something that not all women can do...well yeah I tend to ramble a lot.

Good Luck on what ever you choose to do