im pregnant my b.f says he is not ready?

Answer 1

I'm going to answer that question with another question.

Why are you having sex if you are not ready for a baby?

If you or your boyfriend were not ready to have a baby - you shouldn't be having sex... the only reason sex exists, is to have babies.

Answer 2

I was in this situation, though I'm the boy (25) and the girl (27) had similar thoughts. However, my advice would also be to pray hard about it. Plus, simply think over the options.

Abortion -- many people think this is a simple procedure that rids your body of a growing organism. You've seen all the billboard signs about fingerprints and heartbeats, so I'm not going to mention it. But, what do your heart and mind say? Are you going to wonder, 5-10 years down the road, what that beautiful baby could've looked like? Abortion also has many negative side-effects, like intense bleeding and the possibility that you won't be able to have children.

Adoption -- This is a very honorable process. You go through the entire work of having the child, then give it to parents who truly want it but are unable to have children. That is a wonderful thing! However, I personally can't imagine going through labour, seeing the beautiful baby, and then giving it to someone else. I would have to think that would be heart-wrenching.

Keeping the baby -- Your boyfriend is not sure if you should have the child, but it's a little late to start thinking about that now. Sure, you're both going to freak out and stress, but accepting the fact that you are pregnant and keeping with it is the best choice (in my opinion and experience). Look on the positive side -- you are 24, not 14. If your boyfriend chooses not to be supportive of your decision to keep the child, you are old enough to take care of things yourself. You're not stuck with a child while you're in high school.

Keeping all this in mind, understand that a child is a small sacrifice in your personal time with extremely wonderful benefits. My wife never thought she wanted children, and when we became pregnant, I was scared out of my mind. However, being the strong support for her through the pregnancy was a good skill for me to learn and build on. It helps me to be a good father today. Also, reading books on parenting helps. Learning to take (or leave) the advice of others is a bit of a battle, but it's worth it because it makes you more confident in your decisions as a parents.

If this many is only a boyfriend (not engaged or married to you), there can be several outcomes. I think a man's biggest fear is two words: child support, if the relationship doesn't last.

If you loved this man enough to have him be your boyfriend and to impregnate you, love him enough to marry him or get rid of him, for the sake of your growing baby. If he can't be supportive, then his stress will cause you stress, which is not good for the child.

I guess I could go on and on, but I just wanted to present you with some facts, options, and some of my own personal insight into the situation. I am praying for you and wish you the best of luck in your decision.

Answer 3

unfortunately, you can't force him to be a father... (though the courts will force him to pay childcare)

all you can worry about is you. So either get ready to go through the heartbreaking experience of giving up a child, knowing you have flesh and blood out there that you won't get to know... youc an try to live with killing an innocent baby just cause you were horny, or you suck it up and learn to be a mom.

One way or another, if you think you're old enough to spread your legs, you damn well better be old enough to deal with the consequences. I just really hope a child doesn't die because you're too much of a slut.

Answer 4

I know how that feels my ex bf teated me like I was a princess But when we found out I was pregnant and that I wanted to keep it he pretty much told me to leave he said he wasn't ready. Who is ever ready for these things. I don't think any one can be. You can plan and plan but when it come you are so over whelmed. Who knows. All I know that I have a beautiful baby girl whom I love very much and I would do anything for her.

Answer 5

well if you want to you could have an abortion but that isnt a really fun thing to go through but when you have a baby both of you should be ready because you're going to need his help and if he's not ready then if you are then you're on your own but if you're not then i would say either abortion or put it up for adoption

Answer 6

Its too late to think about "I'm not ready". He may not be ready to be a daddy but he will have to be ready to pay child support according to the law.
Please keep your baby. Killing your baby is not the answer.

Answer 7

No one is ever ready. You have until baby makes there debut now to get as ready as possible.

Answer 8

you really ahve to think if you are rady to. If you are, and he istn, then you have to realize that you will be doing this on your own. He can not be ready...But he does have a financial obligation to the child if you decide to keep it.

Answer 9

TELL HIM IF HE WAS READY TO LAY U DOWN AND HAVE SEX WITH U HE SHOULD BE READY TO TAKE ON HIS RESPONSIBILITY!! TOO DAM IT LATE! HE SHOULD OF PUT A CONDOMN ON BUT HE DIDN'T SO F##k HIM! DAM LOSER JUST WANTS TO FLY THE COOP! HE MAY BE ONE THAT WILL FATHER MANY CHILDREN! GOOD LUCK AND PUT HIM ON CHILD SUPPORT!

Answer 10

Well, he needs to pony up and be a man. If you wanna play, then you gonna pay. Tell him to grow a pair and be a man.