Ive been married for four months.I have an account with my ex-wifes name on it, we share no money, in times past when she had my son I used it to send money, cheaper than western union. now I have custody of my son.The only reason I keep this account is because my insurance is drafted out this account automatically.Sure it would be easy to change but I work to take care of my pregnant wife(with twins), my four step children and my biological son six days a week, this isnt high on my to do list. My wife on the other hand has yet to change her last name..oh, no not her maiden name, her ex husbands last name.She says she is not working anymore and has no money. She has gotten her hair done, her nails, and we even went on a vacation that she paid for.....but no money for this. Her other reason is she got to much money from social security for one of her children, now they want the money back.If they see shes married she will definetly have to pay it back or more. Which is worse?
2006-06-30 12:09:04 · 7 answers · asked by Massa Bruce 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wrong is wrong; neither of you ahould be worried about whose more worng than the other. If you both love each other, then you both should take care of each other's concerns. Both of you should be more worried about making each other happy!!! You are upset because to you it sounds like she is making excuses but you are doing the same. You are trying to take a speck out of her eye when you have a beam in your eye; Translation: Fix whatever you can fix wrong on your side in the relationship. When you have remedied what her concern then reapproach her about your concern about her changing her married name; try to come up with solutions to her financial dilemma. All of this will make your relationship stronger (if there is a want for a relationship) and help you guys build up communication, trust, and respect with each other. I hope that this helps and I hope that all goes well.
2006-06-30 13:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by camels 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Worse? I think if you are raising you child, you're working and taking care of step-children and a pregnant wife you are doing your part. If the question is over an account, take her name/or your name off of it and open another one. it's not that hard to transfer your insurance payment to another account. I wouldn't worry about what my ex was doing, Dude. You've got enough on your plate already. That's her problems. Get a good lawyer and work it out.
2006-06-30 19:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this is stemming from an argument you are both having. If this is the case, then the actual worse thing is that you are having problems in your marriage over something that can be solved so simply. Just change the account AND the name, and then you will both be much happier and it won't matter who was more in the wrong!
What is the "most" wrong is that you are both being stubborn and causing each other pain! :)
2006-06-30 19:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worse is you keeping an account with your ex wife. Cut the cord sweetie and don't fuss about your wife and her name. She is yours legally and who knows she may change her name when you dump that account. It says you still want the other woman.
2006-06-30 19:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not honoring the marriage by no tgetting her last name change....sounds fishy to me(???) However man...( i know you don't want to admit it , BUT) You need to close that account and get youself in order too. Marriage = Compromise....What a Concept? lol
2006-06-30 19:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife unresponsibility way of spending money that she doesnt have is worse and it get worsen because you have to pay for it.
2006-06-30 19:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by BelleVie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is worse, people like her is the reason wy people like me wont have social security when i retire
2006-06-30 19:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋