You'll only find true love if you stop looking!!!?

Answer 1

Not always true. But it's like this:

If you stare at a light for too long, you won't be able to see the other lights around you as well. If you're focused on that light, you may not see any at all. And when you turn your eyes to look somewhere else for a better light, sometimes you're still blinded and can't see a thing.

If you spend time working on your own light, and making it better, and feeling confident about it...you'll attract more people, better people who respect you. I had to learn that the hard way. If you're single, the reason they tell you to stop looking, is that you stop seeming desparate, you become more happy, and more confident. You learn things about yourself that you could never have learned while in a relationship or focused on finding one.

Just relax and get to know yourself. Improve yourself when you are ready, but for you not them. Do what YOU want to do, and suddenly you'll run into someone who's ready for you, and like they say, it'll be when you least expect it. It might even be your best friend...

Good luck and I hope you can learn from my struggles over the past 8 months!

Answer 2

I see you already have a whole long line of answers so I'll try to be brief...

Love... real love, does not manifest itself on any given day or with a certain type of person. It may or may not happen when you expect it. Ignoring it or dwelling on it will have little effect.

My advice... for what it's worth, would be to work at life in general and hope that love comes as part of the complete package. Most of the time it does...

Best of luck :)

Answer 3

it doesn't matter if ur looking or not... That true lover u long for we show up when the time is right... So if u wanna search then go ahead, but if not then i'm sure u'll find that person sooner or later

Answer 4

Well so the saying goes, I heard that also, and stopped looking ten years ago, and I am still single, and true love has not found me.

Possibly to many people going Homosexual, or bisexual, or something, I would be very happy with just one person whom I was there everything, and they were mine.

People have become confused regarding love, and marriage, as when people whom are in love with each other and get married, and give themselves to there partner, and belong to each other out of love for the other person, and commitment, since it is often difficult for people to live with themselves, it is only natural then that there will be difficulty with in relationships also, the secret is to hold onto the commitment even in times of difficulty, and view each other as an extension of yourself because with respect to marriage you become one flesh.

With direct respect to the common lack of this simple understanding with in our society, and no fault divorces in which divorce is common place then I have little desire to ever attempt to enter into a marriage again until the laws have changed.

If you cannot divorce your own conscience, why then can you divorce your spouse in our society with out good reason?

I believed I had found true love, married, and my wife later divorced me because she found a older man with a nice car whom would let her drive it even though she had no drivers license.

I believed I found true love a second time, married, and my wife later divorced me so she could go drinking at bars and playing the field even though we had very yound children which we should have been parenting.

I often wonder if there is such a thing as true love, as perhaps it is only the true illusion of love.

Answer 5

You find true love when you feel and want to stop looking.

Answer 6

Yeah, it seems that way. I noticed that I enjoy life more when I'm not lookin' for someone.

Answer 7

That's one of my motto's

Answer 8

You can only find true love if u are looking in the right place.. If it is truely in your heart U will find the true love u search for so get out there and open up your heart and find true love it there if u truely want to find it .

Answer 9

it's true. that is how I found my future husband. go out, have fun with friends, meet as many people as possible. while you are having all that fun you won't be thinking about meeting "the one" then before you know it he/she will be there.

Answer 10

That is what people say. In my experience, people looked and found and some worked very hard to find. I think it depends on the person, circumstances, and environment.