hello im 24 yrs old im pregnant my boyfriend is not sure if we should have da baby?

Answer 1

Well you boyfriend or yourself shouldve though about this before hand. The decision is ulimitaly yours. There are alot of options out there. Ofcourse you can always keep the baby and raise it yourself or there is adoption. Plenty of couples out there that cant have babies that would even pay the hospital bills for you.
I would definitley think long and hard about your decision. Hopefully you have someone other than your boyfriend to confide in. Good luck to you in whatever you decide.

Answer 2

I was in this situation, though I'm the boy (25) and the girl (27) had similar thoughts. However, my advice would also be to pray hard about it. Plus, simply think over the options.

Abortion -- many people think this is a simple procedure that rids your body of a growing organism. You've seen all the billboard signs about fingerprints and heartbeats, so I'm not going to mention it. But, what do your heart and mind say? Are you going to wonder, 5-10 years down the road, what that beautiful baby could've looked like? Abortion also has many negative side-effects, like intense bleeding and the possibility that you won't be able to have children.

Adoption -- This is a very honorable process. You go through the entire work of having the child, then give it to parents who truly want it but are unable to have children. That is a wonderful thing! However, I personally can't imagine going through labour, seeing the beautiful baby, and then giving it to someone else. I would have to think that would be heart-wrenching.

Keeping the baby -- Your boyfriend is not sure if you should have the child, but it's a little late to start thinking about that now. Sure, you're both going to freak out and stress, but accepting the fact that you are pregnant and keeping with it is the best choice (in my opinion and experience). Look on the positive side -- you are 24, not 14. If your boyfriend chooses not to be supportive of your decision to keep the child, you are old enough to take care of things yourself. You're not stuck with a child while you're in high school.

Keeping all this in mind, understand that a child is a small sacrifice in your personal time with extremely wonderful benefits. My wife never thought she wanted children, and when we became pregnant, I was scared out of my mind. However, being the strong support for her through the pregnancy was a good skill for me to learn and build on. It helps me to be a good father today. Also, reading books on parenting helps. Learning to take (or leave) the advice of others is a bit of a battle, but it's worth it because it makes you more confident in your decisions as a parents.

If this many is only a boyfriend (not engaged or married to you), there can be several outcomes. I think a man's biggest fear is two words: child support, if the relationship doesn't last.

If you loved this man enough to have him be your boyfriend and to impregnate you, love him enough to marry him or get rid of him, for the sake of your growing baby. If he can't be supportive, then his stress will cause you stress, which is not good for the child.

I guess I could go on and on, but I just wanted to present you with some facts, options, and some of my own personal insight into the situation. I am praying for you and wish you the best of luck in your decision.

Answer 3

In my opinion this is something that is more the woman's choice, sure he should get a say but at the end of the day its your body and your the one that has to live with the consequences for the rest of your life! You need to make the decision whether to keep the baby and then if you choose to keep it and he doesn't want to be involved then you can tell him to go, i am a single mum with a two year old son and I've been single since the day i found out i was pregnant and i wouldn't change anything for the world.

GOOD LUCK FOR THE FUTURE!!!

Answer 4

I think they should make abortions legal only if medical papers are shown first..like, say the female went to a doctor and they said the baby was oging to have this disease where he would suffer his whole life or die soon after birth. Then I believe an abortion would be okay. But abortion is NOT a form of brith control. People are so heartless. There are people in the USA who would pay thousands and thousands of dollars just to have a baby. There are people out there who are truing so ahrd to concieve, but cant. Why not put your baby up for adoption?

I know if abortions were illegal, people would do it themselevs..but I feel as though abortion is wrong and should not be used for birth control. That is foolish and selfish.

Answer 5

um how about you keep the baby and get rid of the boyfriend......

your 24 years old ( and im just going to assume you bf is around the same age)....there are tons of people ALOT younger then you who are great parents....

dont abort the baby, since YOU & BOYFRIEND made a baby, dont blame it.....give it up for adoption...

But if you spend some times and actually think that there is a little baby in you and start looking at baby stuff then after awhile, you will see it isnt as bad.....its your choice..if you want this baby, and the boyfriend doesn't ..too bad, he made the baby too and if worse comes to worse, take his money and take good care of the baby

Answer 6

The question is do u want the baby and if u want it then that all that matters and if he doesn't want ask him why because he's the one that got u pregnant.But if don't want the baby either u can always give it up for adoption and u can have a open adoption if u like and u can still see ur child. But this is up to u and no one can make u do anything u don't want too ur an adult and u just gonna have to make that choice ur self.

Answer 7

Do you want it? Are you financially secure? Do you have a home? Can you aford clothes, toys, food, and other things? If any of those is no then you shouldnt have it. If they are yes then it is up to you. Will your boyfriend be there for you is a main thing though because if he isnt then he isnt worth it and having the baby will be a horrible thing. Best of luck in your desion making!

Answer 8

Why would you ask total strangers this question? Talk to him. Talk to your family and freinds. It's very possible you are not ready to start a family for any number of reasons.

On the other hand, your BF may just be scared of the baby changing your realtionship.

Answer 9

If he's not sure that he wants a baby, then he should of never had sex, end of story. Dont kill your baby b/c you were careless enough to have sex without thinking that you could get pregnant.

Answer 10

That should be up to you! You do what you think is right! If you think you can give the child all the love in the world and will be able to provide for her/him then go ahead. A child is a blessing!