Who or what comes first in your home life? And why?
If you are Christians, do you follow the teachings of the hierarchy the Bible sets out?
2006-06-30 11:49:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God first, Husband is the head of the household, but wife is one with the husband in all things---then comes the children. Yes, God set this up----if you have a problem with it, take it up with him.
2006-07-13 06:01:58 · update #1
I totally agree with you; God is first above all things. The husband is the head of the household and is responsible for providing for the family. This is not to say that women should be in the home all day, simply read Proverbs 31 to see that women are responsible for providing and making prayerful decisions as well.
Whenever I have a problem, I pray about it. God WILL provide, but we still have to be responsible and pray about all aspects of life.
2006-07-14 10:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Luveniar♫ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hierachy....boy where are you coming from. I don't think the bible teaches dictatorship!.
In the old testatment the man was to be the head of the household.
In today's society where both husband and wife are equally employed supporting a household together, making decisions together the hierarchy as you put it is of an equal status.
Compromise is also factored in!
So many Christians (so called) take this hierarchy thing to a level of being almost like Hitler....dictatorship. As you know the Dictatorship was over ruled and HITLER is DEAD!!
2006-07-12 07:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a thought: The Bible has no idea who you are, or who your spouse is, or what your family and situation are like. Asking The Bible to provide an appropriate hierarchy for family life is like asking the government to act in your best interest: it can't, because it isn't focused on you, specifically. It's a guideline, it's lowest-common-denominator, it's a place to start from.
Here's the rule that my wife and I use; we developed it over time, and eventually realized what we'd done and articulated it -- your mileage may vary.
"Whoever cares more, wins."
That's it. That's all we need, and it might work for you, too. If you're trying to make a decision and one person cares more, let 'em win; if you both care extremely strongly, get outside help, and if neither of you care very much, then flip a coin (or don't make the decision at all.)
Good luck.
2006-06-30 18:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even some christians don't have a "happy" family. Christians say you put Jesus in the center of your family, everything follows. Not true all the time, but its true some of the time. The issue is practice. If you can't follow the practices set by the Bible, then its useless. If a christian is only a christian during worship but is a total asshole to his wife and kids - go figure. It isn't a happy family no matter how often they worship together.
2006-07-12 12:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are a religious family.. not fanatically, but we go to church and believe in god.. I am a stay at home mom, and my husband works. BUT I am the ruler in the house. We both see that I am the one that is here all the time, and since I know schedules and what needs to be done when , I usually make all the decisions. We talk big things through together, but basically, I'm the lion of the den..
2006-07-12 07:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually the bible states God first, then the husband if he loves his wife like Christ loves the Church. Then the children. So if the husband follows Christ, then the rest of the family will be in order.
But, if he does not follow Christ, then you are most definitely unequally yoked and you must do in the natural what you have to do to make it. It takes a lot of prayer.
2006-07-14 00:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by Seeking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it difficult to accept that social standards and hierarchies that are more than 2,000 years old should still be accepted today. Personally, I think women have been placed in subservient roles to men long enough. In a healthy, happy home life, spouses should be on an equal footing or as much so as they both agree and want. Children should be respected and guided but not treated like chattel or slave labor.
2006-07-09 17:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by writerboy69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A happly family is one that is understanding to everyone in the homes feelings. Don't say things when your mad that you will later regret. Plan family outings and spend time together. No one is more important than anyone else. Everyone is equal.
2006-07-13 10:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by Bobbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children make the family work because the more you have the better it gets. Live for your children and that to me is the happy family.
2006-07-10 15:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD is the first one, then comes my family
2006-07-14 02:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by christy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋