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I would like to know how many parents have actually talked to their children and teenagers about NOT having sex and why they should NOT have sex? I would like to know how many parents have told their children that work is not as important as their family?

2006-06-30 11:48:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Most parents hope to equip their children with the knowledge and alternatives to making choices in their life. We discuss the pros and cons of a situation and hope they have the maturity to make good choices. Our children have to live their choices .We have to love our children enough to let them live their life and should go to bed at night knowing we have done our best. Like I say "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him tapdance."

2006-07-04 06:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 0 1

Don't know how many parents actually do it! Would be interesting to compare the number and the results in those children's lives for the better. But our society would for sure benefit GREATLY if we all as parents would teach so.

Values and standards are extremely important, moral values and respect for marriage, familiy and also work are SO important. In the midst of searching and growing and learning, children and youth need guidance and standards. We can't leave them to get trapped in the nowadays popular way of sex whenever 'as long as protected'.

Is there a way to protect the heart? the mind? the lives of our children and their children one day? We use car seats, we have all these measures to keep our children "safe", yet when it comes to marriage and family we sometimes take lightly what has the potential to do most harm. From a Dr.'s exposure seeing the consequences of children not being taught and expected to not have sex until marriage, the results and numbers don't lie... you sign up for trouble, when parents don't teach right and when children are left to choose from themselves.... risk of not choosing wisely. Do we constrain or do we facilitate?
Waiting for sex until marriage as a very special and sacred part of it, does not mean 'life without trouble" either.
Life is challenging. But if we are to teach our children moral values in a more extensive way, we would save our society a lot of trouble, pain, misery, broken homes, millions of dollars in social services to fix what could have been preventable.

2006-06-30 20:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by townsizz7 2 · 1 0

It seems that is 2 different questions. Yes I have talked to all of my childen about sex and waiting. And the reasons why. But it had nothing to do with work coming before family. And I do not believe that work does come before family. I am one of ones lucky enough to have the ability to stay home with my kids and I enjoy every minute of it. I put nothing before family. Without mine I would not who I am today and want to be as much of an influence on my children as my family was and is to me.

2006-06-30 18:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia W 2 · 0 0

I've talked to my son about the benefits of not having sex until married, but in this day and age kids are going to do as they please behind your back if they really want to. Best thing you can do is make sure you know they are armed with all the information they need, the pro's and con's. You have to let them make their own decisions then. You can't pressure them to do what you want them to do, or you risk the possiblity of them rebelling.

2006-06-30 19:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0 0

I have spoke with my daughter about it. These days girls are falling in love more with the sex act of a person not really getting to know them. To me if you love that person the sex is good anyway. Thats with real love. It also teaches her not to limit herself to sex. She should also be known for who she is. Sex is just a part of Marriage its not everythung. As far as work. If I were not a SAHM and had to provide yeswork would be first and they both go hand in hand. You have to have money to provide.

2006-06-30 19:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mom of 5 3 · 0 0

I have talked to my 16yr old!!!!!
told her she shouldnt have babies or sex till married or till she had her own place and paying her own way and have her career on track. if she wanted to get married then that is ok. her mom(I) have not gotten married , I lived with the guy.
i told her its ok to be married or to live together, the choice was hers.
if she wanted sex it should be with the guy that would marry her. and she used condoms at the time.
I told her her career is her way to pay for what she wants and needs. so yes work is important. you can have a family and a career.

2006-06-30 19:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0 0

I HAVE NOT DISCUSSED THIS IS ISSSUE WITH MY CHILD BUT I HAVE HAD SOME SORT OF SEX ED TALK WITH HIM. I BELIEVE THERE SHOULD BE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE BECAUSE I FEEL YOU SHOULD FULLY KNOW THE PERSON YOU ARE MARRYING BEFORE YOU MARRY THAT PERSON. SO TELL MY CHILDREND TO FULLY KNOW SOMEONE BEFORE YOU MARRY.YOU HAVE TO HAVE FUN WHILE YOU ARE A TEENAGER BUT YOU CANT HAVE FUN WITH A BABY AT 14 YEARS OLD SO YOU MUST WAIT TO HAVE KIDS UNTIL AFTER YOU HAVE DONE YOUR SCHOOLING AND HAVE A HOUSE TO HAVE YOUR FAMILY IN, MY SONE IS 12 AND THE THING WE TALK ABOUT MORE TAHN SEX IS ABOUT WHHICH COLLEGE HE IS GOING TO, THATS THE CONEVERATION WE SHOULD BE HAVING WITH OUTR KIDS RIGHTS NOW NOT HAVE SEX AFTER MARRIAGE. TALK TO OUR KIDS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO HAVE A HAPPY HEALTHY CHILD, TEENAGER AND ADULT

2006-06-30 18:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 6 · 0 1

i have a daughter that is 4 years old.... when she will turn 18 i will suggest to her not to buy a car without a test-drive and not to get married before trying her boyfriend.

a girl i know got married and had no sex with her partner, just to discover that he was impotent....eventually they got a divorce

2006-06-30 18:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by lovephoto 5 · 0 0

My parents did what any good parent would.... left it up to me because at the end of the day, my life is my own, not theirs.

2006-06-30 18:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by Elvendra 4 · 0 0

MINE WERE GOOD IN THAT AREA. A JEWISH MOTHER AND A DOCTOR. I WOULD HAVE SAVED IT BUT I WAS IN A CLINIC FOR SOMETING AND I WAS RAPED. THE NEXT MAN I DID MARRY I GAVE MY TRUE VIRGINITY TO HIM. 11 YRS AGO, BUT NOW IM WITH A WOMAN. ALL THE MEN I HAVE MET IN MY LIFE LOVE A WOMAN THAT WORKS. BUT TO MAKE A HOME, IT DOES NEED A WOMANS TOUCH.

2006-07-09 02:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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