i'm a saver he's a spender
2006-06-30 11:36:37 · 9 answers · asked by twisterbottle 1 in Social Science ➔ Economics
See theres your first problem, you getting him to stop spending.
Does he work? Does he earn?
Who are you to tell him what to do with his money
thats called being a nut clamper in my book.
Just what I think
2006-06-30 11:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Xae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way you can realistically expect to do anything is for the two of you to make an appointment with a Certified Financial Planner (not an investment broker or someone at your bank). Only that way can you both see if he really is spending too much. Also check out the links below to see where you stand on income and net worth. Maybe if he sees he’s behind he will alter his behavior.
As a married couple, you have agreed to build a partnership. If you think there is a problem you have a right and an obligation to bring it up… don’t let any one tell you it’s his money… it’s community property. Decisions and compromises must be made, but some times talking to an expert is the best way to come to terms with each other.
It may cost a couple of hundred dollars for a CFP, but you will both be better off for it.. I’m sure a CFP will tell you both things you haven’t thought of before.
http://www.census.gov/prod/2003pubs/p70-88.pdf
http://www.census.gov/
I need to correct myself, above I said it was community property. I said that being from California where it is true. But not all states operate under community law. Here are the ones that do:Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington, and Wisconsin. In Alaska.
2006-06-30 17:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by yeeooow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny I have the same problem. If I tell you what I did you would probably say thats not really a solution. I stopped getting mad about it. I would say that if you think it is a serious problem that you guys might be getting into so much debt because of his spending then you need counseling.
Sometimes the spending is a substitution for something else. Is there other problems in your marriage? Or does he he have some other issues he can't talk about and the spending is a band-aid for him for what he is feeling?
2006-06-30 11:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by Black O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Limit hes spending. Give both you an allowance. That way it is fair.
2006-06-30 11:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by ☺stacy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good relationship you should be able to talk to him. A true relationship doesn't have his money or her money when you marry it becomes both. It doesn't matter who makes the most.
2006-06-30 14:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easy take money and put it away so he can't spend it.
2006-07-01 05:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by King Midas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take his wallet away from him and have his pay check direct deposited into your back account
2006-06-30 11:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him an allowance!
2006-06-30 11:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend more than him !!
2006-06-30 11:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋