not even 15 I'm Pregnant HELP?

Question

first of all I don't need to be looked down and scolded I need help. My mother was 15 when she gave birth to me.she raised me strictly and taught me to wait until marragie for sex and to be careful if I choose to do otherwise.Over this summer break I decided to sleep with my boyfriend like I promised my self I never would and I did so without a condom. I'm pregnant now.to top it off my best friend who happens to be my boyfriends little sister is pregnant with my boyfriends best friend.I told my boyfriend that I was pregnant, it scared me he was happy.he told me that I needed to keep it that we can rase it together and that I should tell my mom.I'm scared I've seen how hard it was for my mom rasing me.I'm the highest ranked student in my entire school and am being sought after by some of Americas top prep schools.I don't know what to do. I don't want to give up my life, and I realy don't want to tell my mom that I'm pregnant by my best friends 17 year old brother.What are my options.

Answer 1

you have to tell your mom. of all of the people to tell she will be the most understanding because she went through the same exact thing! you have to tell an adult that you trust!

Answer 2

When I first told my mom I was pregnant, she kept saying Oh Andrea..and obviously she wasn't happy ( she had me at 17, i just turned18 when I got preggo, so I guess I followed in her footsteps too ). But after like a week she would start bringing home baby stuff she stopped and bought on her way to work...and she even did a whole nursery for the baby, and she always tells people that she is a soon to be grandma ( she mentions she is 36 too though lol )

My point is, with your mom, you never know how it will turn out, after some time she could be really excited and happy about it too...or if she decides that she doesn't want you to live there or whatever, it sounds like your boyfriend is willing to take you ina nd take care of you and the baby..

Whatever you decide to do, you have to tell your mom......I mean I use to think Abortion was ok....but now ive seen stuff, and read stuff on it, and it will seriously make you sick, and I bet it will give you tons of guilt...I mean you did have sex, and you did get pregnant, nothing can change that, and everything happens for a reason, so maybe you were meant to have this baby or something ? If you absolutly can't / don't want the baby then adoption should be the way to go.

I don't know where you live or what it is like there, Im not from like a huge town, but at the school I went to ( and alot fo other high schools) have programs for moms and moms-to-be .. some even pay you for every day you go to school ( its $20 a day here, but thats also if you attend all your classes and are in a parenting program)..and I know some bigger schools even have a day care type thing......Now a days almost everyone has kids, and there are tons of people who are smart and have all these chances to go to great schools and they get pregnant and have kids.......AND they still go to school, and have careers.....just because you have a baby doesnt mean your life will be over, it might even add to it..........and alot of people say its harder to do if you have a baby..well it is hard but also alot of people want to help you, so in some ways its also kind of easier.

Answer 3

I also got pregnant for the first time when I was just 15, so I know exactly how your feeling. You do have several options open to you. You can have an abortion (which I am against personally), give the baby up for adoption to a loving family that will love and care for it, or keep it. All these choices will need serious consideration, dont make any hasty decisions. I would strongly suggest telling your Mother as soon as possible. Im sure she loves you and will want to help you. You could also consult with a counselor, preacher, or adult friend... someone from a pregnancy hotline might also be able to help and go with you when you do tell your Mom. I truely wish you all the best. It was very very hard to raise a child at 16 (by my self, he left me). But it can be done if you have a good strong bond with your family and they support your choices. Keep me posted, I will say a little prayer for you, your boyfriend and your baby too... Good Luck.

Answer 4

1. Tell Mom because although she may be disappointed -- she does know how you must feel.

2. Maybe she will say she will help you by contributing financially, emotionally, or even able to babysit while you go to college.

3. If not, maybe your BF parents will help him take care of it if you all decide to keep the baby.

4. Give the baby up for adoption -- but with one of the open adoptions so you can keep contact with the child and know he/she is okay.

5. Have an abortion (if) that's an option for you. It's your body and your future.

6. By all means continue with your plans to go to college no matter what because whether you keep the baby or not -- you will need a decent career.

Getting pregnant isn't the end of World and there are so many options and services available for young mothers and fathers. It can be done -- but you have to honestly feel you want to do raise a child (and maybe without the help of a the father). So consider all.

Be an adult and be true to yourself and honest to your loved ones.

Answer 5

First, did you find out by home pregnancy test or a clinic?
Sit down with your mom tonight and advise her of what is going on. She will probably be extremely angry @ first but explain to her that you know you made a mistake and ask her what you need to do at this point. Anger and yelling does not change what has happened so you 2 need to put your heads together and decide what to do next. You need to go to the doctor or a clinic to find out for sure and @your age, you will need your mom with you to sign for you and for support. Having a baby does not make you give up your life though it will change it some. You can still have your dreams but the time frame may be different. Talk to your mom NOW! Prolonging it will not make the situation go away.

Answer 6

Wow! you really need to talk to your mother.
I'm not judging you. I had my daughter when I was 19 and I understand your feelings, but my girl is now 15 and to be honest I don't know what I would do if she came home pregnant.

Talk to her, right now you need someone with a good head on the shoulders to give you professional and reasonable advise. Your mom will help you sort your emotions and figure out what is best for you. She may be angry at first, understand this is OK. You are her treasure and she warned you so and most important: SHE LIVED A HELL to raise you. This doesn't mean she doesn't love you... give her time.

don't do anything crazy.
Good luck.

Answer 7

First off I wish people would not get on here and be rude. If you don't like what she wrote don't respond you don't make it better that way. What's really sad is they are on here writing crap about other people and they can't even spell!

You should tell your mother and family they will understand it might take a while but they will. Baby's are very hard but very wonderful, please don't get an abortion it's not the baby's fault. You were old enough to know what you did then your old enough to grow up and take responsibility for your actions. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 8

well you have it some what easier than i did , long answer and story but hopefully helpfull

im 14 and im pregnant
first of all when i was 11 i got rapped by my uncle then at 13 i met Carlos when i went to El Salvador once, from then on i went out with him for a year over the phone, then i went again in december and came back . at the end of february he came to my house with his mom and sisters here in california. my dad was gone and i slept with him without a condom and well got the same results as you did. I found out in the worst way possible. i went to the school nurses office. i am also rated one of the best in my school which comes to be 8th in the nation( the school not me im around the 3 or 4)i was given councelling on how to tell my parents but it didnt help cause my dad was the one that i believed to be the harshest dad in punishment. what i did is first i told my mom with the company of a friend. she got pregnant at the same age i am of my oldest sister so she understood.we waited since my dad was leaving that week she told him, and my sisters two hours before he left so he wouldnt do anything to me. he was forcing me to abort but since you need both parents to agree so i didnt. my mom left it up to me.after that he calmed down and now hes very helpfull. now the suffering is on me because my boyfriend just left me.i hope that you can decide on what to do cause my answer is this
YOU decide if you want to abort, give it in adoption or keep it
if you feel happy doing an abortion go ahead
if not tell your mom she will understand you. make it easy on yourself first tell a friend and have her be with you when you tell your mom or write it down and give it to her
dont count entirely on your boyfriend like i did for a while because you never know
trust your heart and your mom
good luck

Answer 9

You stress the fact that you're a great student and Prep schools are looking for you. A baby is a huge responsibility. I hope your boyfriend isn't your age because I doubt he'll be able to provide for you and your baby. I'm sorry, but that's the truth. I would abort. I don't know if you have strict beliefs about abortion but you're 15 years old. You're still a baby yourself. You have so much growing up to do. You have so many more people to meet and things to experience. I'm just saying... I hope you're not offended.

Answer 10

i think yu should tell ur mom she rlly needs toknow and u really need er at this point because right now wu have a baby in u and u will need at the help u could get and out of everyone ur mom knows how it is tor aise a baby so young so nomatter what she will understand eventually dont be afraid deal with it and u will see itb will give u more time to focus on u and the baby good luck wish u the best of luck

Answer 11

Oh my,
I know exactly how you feel. I had my oldest son when I was 15 years old also. Please, you have to let your mom know. My parents raised me very strictly also, but sometimes you do things that you seriously regret later. I don't mean I regret my son's birth at all I just wish I could have waited. There are so many, many people who want a baby who cannot have one. Please do not abort your baby, it is not your babies fault that you made a mistake and he/she should not have to pay for that mistake with it's life. But you must tell your mother. You may be surprised how things turn out if you just tell her. Hopefully, if you decide to have your baby things will work out wonderfully for you. But if you do not want your baby, please, think of your babies life, and of all those loving people who would love your baby just like their own. It is a long and difficult road, but you can do it, everything will be okay. And whatever you do, stay in school, that is a must! I didn't stay in school and I have always regretted it so much. I feel for you, please have the strength to tell your mom. IT WILL ALL BE OKAY.
Please e-mail me and let me know how things are going.