Im not even 15 I'm Pregnant and thats just the beggining. HELP?

Question

first of all I don't need to be looked down and scolded I need help. My mother was 15 when she gave birth to me.she raised me strictly and taught me to wait until marragie for sex and to be careful if I choose to do otherwise.Over this summer break I decided to sleep with my boyfriend like I promised my self I never would and I did so without a condom. I'm pregnant now.to top it off my best friend who happens to be my boyfriends little sister is pregnant with my boyfriends best friend.I told my boyfriend that I was pregnant, it scared me he was happy.he told me that I needed to keep it that we can rase it together and that I should tell my mom.I'm scared I've seen how hard it was for my mom rasing me.I'm the highest ranked student in my entire school and am being sought after by some of Americas top prep schools.I don't know what to do. I don't want to give up my life, and I realy don't want to tell my mom that I'm pregnant by my best friends 17 year old brother.What are my options.

Answer 1

You are very young and you are right, raising a child at such a young age IS an every day struggle!!! You saw it first hand with your mom raising you! You are smart for not wanting to give up your dreams and your future for being a mom at such a young age. You could carry the baby to term and then give it up for adoption, or, since you sound like you are pretty scared about the whole pregnancy thing, you could consider getting an abortion. Dont listen to everyone else that says you are killing a baby inside you....at such an early stage it is just a ball of cells that is COMPLTELY undeveloped. I dont believe in abortion past the first couple months, but you sound like you have a lot going for you and have a bright future to look forward to and you dont want to ruin that! Dont listen to what your boyfriend says, it is highly unlikely that he will end up staying with you after the baby is born anyway.....You need to do what you think is best for YOU...not for your boyfriend, or friends, or parents....YOU! Good Luck...and I hope you figure out what is best! =)

Answer 2

First of all, tell your mom NOW. If she finds out on her own, she will be very hurt and angry. Secondly, are you prepared for what it takes to be a mom? It's a long, hard road. You will be responsible for this child for the next 18 years. I'm not looking down on you. I had my son when I was 16 and another when I was 18. Their dad and I broke up when the second one was 6 months old and he didn't help me one bit after that. I was on my own. I finished high school (pregnant with #2 at graduation) and worked like a dog to keep a roof over our heads. It was very stressful and difficult. You need to make the decision, but think long and hard on it. Your mom can help you. You have plenty of time to grow up and have babies, though. Remember that.
My life now is great. I got married, had another baby and I went back to school, became a Vet Asst. I have a house and a new car, but for many years, I didn't have a pot to piss in. Think about your future and how you will be able to provide and care for an innocent little child. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

Hello, well first tell your mom, its not like she won't find out in a few months anyway, and no matter if you give the baby up for adoption, or if you keep it getting proper care right now is real important.

You made a "grown" up choice to have unprotected sex, since as you siad you decided to do it, so you knew what the chance was, so you took and made the choice that you could get pregnant, so now you have to grow up some more very fast, and that will include telling your mom.

Then ( ok she may get upset when you first tell her) but give her a day or two to catch her breath and then the two of you talk about what other choices you have.

If you decide not to keep the baby, there are 1000's of great people out there who would love to adopt a child.

Answer 4

I would not put it up for adoption. I was adopted and I don't even know my real parents. I am 15 and still trying to find them. Keep the baby and raise it. The baby is better with real parents. Adoption would be last resort in my book. Although, I think there is one reason adoption would be good. My parent's didn't have the money and now i live with a rich family that can support me through school, food, and a roof over my head. Now i got lucky and have great step-parents, but i still think everyday. Why? Why didn't my parents ever send me cards, or be in my life. They didn't do anything to get involved in my life. If you can not support the baby because of money, please put up for adoption but someway stay in the baby's life. This is the only answer i can give from my own experience. Plz think this over and give it great thought don't just think one answer is the best without thinking about the others. Good Luck and I wish you the best.

Answer 5

Seriously look into an open adoption or possible foster care for your child. You have no idea how important it is for you to FINISH SCHOOL. High school graduates make on average over 75% LESS than a university or college graduate will make. You might have to sacrifice a bit now for a bigger pay off later but if you get a good education you'll be able to provide a better life for you and your child later on and not have to struggle like your mom did.

Abortion is also an option that a lot of people will not talk about, but it's also a very PERSONAL decision and a hard one to make. Educate yourself about it and make your own decision.

Your 17 year old boyfriend isn't about to quit school and get a job to support this baby and you shouldn't quit school either. Hopefully once you talk to all of your parents about this they'll be able to put you into contact with different social agencies in your city/state and you'll be able to come up with the solution that works best for you and your child.

Answer 6

I would tell your mother. She also make a mistake at a young age, and yes she will be mad for a while, but then that madness will go away. You also need to tell her because if it is to late for a abortion, you need to see a doctor and get your prenatal. vits. After you have done this, you need to sit down with the father, his parents, and your mother, and talk about everything. Not only will your life be changing, so will everyone elses around you. If ya'll cant handle a baby, then you need to contact a adoption agency, and start looking for a couple that you would feel good about raising your child. You also need to think about if you want a closed or open adoption. Its all up to you and the father on that one. Good Luck, and i hope everything turns out for the best.

Answer 7

You need to talk to your mum, she is going to understand how you are feeling because she has been though it herself. She may be angry at first, but she will calm down. I've told my 15yr old daughter to come to me if she is ever in this situation.

I think you already know your options: have the baby, have a termination or have the baby adopted. Again your mum will help you to reach the right decision for YOU - this is your life and nobody Else's. None of the options are going to be easy and your mum will be your support, somebody to lean on.

Please speak to her sooner rather than later. The longer you leave it, the harder it will be and your options will be lessened.

And ignore all the vicious comments made here by the bigots who think that they are entitled to say what ever they like, no matter how hurtful it is. Everybody makes mistakes.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 8

Well that fact is that you are pregnant. That's not going to change now. Your options would either be give it up for adoption or keep it. Abortion is wrong in my opinion- it's not the baby's fault! And there are lots of different couples that have tried and tried to have a baby. And your boyfriend is only 17 and your only 15! There is no way that either of you are ready to have a baby!! Give that baby a chance and a life with a family who can take care of it and not have to worry about having it!! Good luck! I hope you do the right thing!

Answer 9

Oh honey, I pray God be with you and help you during this time.
You need to tell your Mom. If she lived through this, surely she will understand. Parents can sometimes be of great help during times like this. If she isn't helpful you might need to find others to help you at this time. A pastor, a doctor, a social worker a teacher or a guidance counselor. I am so glad the young man is happy, that will be helpful. Maybe his parents will be supportive as well.
This is not the end of the world although it might feel like it. Girls have had this problem since the beginning of time. My own grandma went through this at age 16, married the guy and was married 68 years when she died. God be with you!

Answer 10

No matter how "scared" you are... tell your mom... the sooner the better... she was about the same as you are when she had you... and all these strict lessons she's given you are from her experience and her desire that you not ever go through what she did... but she's also lived the experience of being a very young mother and, once over the shock, is most likely the very best person in this world to help you make your decisions... p.s., if you were my daughter, I'd want to know...