I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and some, I love this guy with all my heart and we get along great..however, his kids still believe that mom and dad...will get back together. The kids are 23, 19, and 16 years of age...I am having a terrible time dealing with their rejection of me...I am in school most of the time and working the rest of the time..I have an ll year old. I am loving, kind and generous. I know that he loves me deeply and I haven't really been able to give all that I can to this relationship because I am in school trying to improve myself and create a better life for myself and my son...I w ould love to give everyone all that I have but I can't right at this moment because school is intense and I cannot fail...I want his kids to like me and accept me...but i can't fight his ex-wife and his (3) kids..I want to be happy...and I can't if I have to deal with rejection..I haven't done anything to make them hate me except love their father...help me understand
2006-06-30 10:46:22 · 3 answers · asked by sonya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Children never want to see their father with anyone other than their mother. You and your boyfriend have to decide what your relationship is and then discuss it with the children. Tell them that you want to include them in your relationship and hope that you can all find a way to do that. You will have to be prepared to accept their answer whatever it may be.
2006-06-30 10:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by nonna57 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're gonna have a tough time. But keep everything in perspective, the relationship is between you and him. Everything else must stay in the outside.
2006-06-30 17:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/2nd_wives_club/
a remarkable source of information and sympathetic ears.
2006-06-30 19:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋