2006-06-30 10:45:59 · 27 answers · asked by sasi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it depends what you did to her
if you hurt her feelings um...then say what i say"um...im very very sorry i shouldnt have done that will you accecpt my apology?"then give her the present...if she still sayd no then you probly said somthing mean .....or what you do anyway?
2006-06-30 10:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by Grack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky situation because it really depends on the girl and on what happened and how things were left.
You might want to send a b-day card to test the waters. The only case in which I would not do this is if she needs space. You know her best. Have you been making overatures and she is pushed into a corner and wanting you to back off or is she just still really hurt and wanting you to make it up to her?
If she wants space (and when a woman says,"go away" it doesn't always mean that.) then you need to practically disappear and that means do not acknowlege her birthday in any way.
If she is just very hurt than you need to plan a campaigne. The lengths you should go to will depend on what you did. Even if you didn't do anything, take at least partial responsibility for the argument.
If you did something pretty bad, here's what I suggest: 1) One week before her birthday send her a card apologizing. Tell her that you are such an *******; she has every right to be angry; you wish you could take it back; she must have felt so --------(fill in the appropriate emotion;) you feel terrible every time you think of what you put her through; you would like a chance to make it up to her even if she never wants to see you again, you do not want to leave her with a bad feeling. Send flowers with the card and make sure you know what kind she likes, or have the florist help you.
Each of the remaining six days before her birthday make sure she gets some little present from you in the mail. If you have to deliver it, do not try to see her. Drop it off when she isn't home or leave it on the back porch, or in her car or perhaps even put the package on the front stoop, ring the bell and dash off before she sees you.
Creativity, thoughfulness and presentation are important. Make sure the gifts are beautifully wrapped, enlist help, if necessary. Begin with the "smallest" gift and end with the best gift. You don't want the whole thing to be anti-climactic.
Some ideas for gifts: gift cert for something like a manicure, pedicure, massage, her favorite store, horseback riding, hot air balloon ride,etc. Anything she mentioned she wanted ages ago and still doesn't have. You'll be a hero for remembering. A great book, or CD, or DVD. Something sweet to eat. Make sure it is not left mouldering somewhere. Jewelry, if you know her taste. Do not get her lingere or the like, this is about her, not you. Add more details to your question asking for other ideas.
Let people know what kind of budget you have to work with. We're all routing for you; now go and get her!
S.
2006-06-30 11:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend doesn't want your friendship, then I don't think that she'll accept the gift, but there's no harm in trying! If she is angry with you then I think you should let her cool down a bit. If you keep bothering her, then she'll be even more mad. When she's more calm you can give her the present then.
2006-06-30 10:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only give her a birthday gift if you really want to but don;t expect anything in return. If you feel that the two of you are due to get back together soon, make sure to get her a gift or she will hold it against you later
2006-06-30 10:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by tfcmagnificant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the gift is intended for her, why not give it to her? Whether or not she accepts, you'll be the bigger person. Return it if she doesn't want it. No use to trying 100% if the friend won't give you 1% effort.
2006-06-30 10:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by jade11378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me do not get her ne thing i know you are thinking that buying her a gift is way to show her you are still there for her no matter the situation and one she will realize that you are the guy for her. and she should her never left you. but it will back fire and she will only see you and some to get her things. and of course she'll accept shes not dumb.
2006-06-30 10:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jason E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all why is she angry with u.If u did something wrong say sorry to her.Sure u can give birthday gift to her,make her happy n she will be yours once again
2006-06-30 13:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Dotting 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on what you did to her because like they say gifts don't buy friendship
2006-06-30 11:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can - and believe me - she will accept it - who wouldn't accept a nice gift. Good luck to ya.
2006-06-30 10:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by You'llneverguess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can, but she might not take it.
Why not try to invite her out for a walk down memory lane instead, take her to lunch or on a picnic...
hopefully, that will help
2006-06-30 10:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by *meh* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋