my daughter is mad at me for not answering the door right away, I had a boyfriend and we were in the middle of

Question

you know*** and she started yelling mom,mom, so I had to answer the door and she just wanted somthing, she is mad because I said what do you want???? is this my fault or should she chill out

Answer 1

Never ever let your daughter think that other things and people--particularly the men in your life--are more important than her.

I'm not saying to allow her to manipulate you. But, if it was a test of your loyalty to her, you failed miserably. Children--especially when they are young--believe that there is no one more important than their Mommy. She needed you, even if it was just for a glass of water or for comfort, and you barked at her.

Any man worth his salt will understand that you'll need to attend to your child(ren). If he doesn't, kick him to the curb. He can let the door hit him where the good Lord split him!

The better solution for this is to try to time your liaisons when your child is at school or at a friend's house or with her father. Don't disrepect her by having a guy stay over at yourhouse, especially if you are not in a commited relationship of many years. I know it's inconvenient, but it CAN be done. (Been there, done that. Had a four-year old son when I divorced, and it was another 14 years before I married again. I made mistakes, and it wasn't perfect, but I know what I'm talking about.)

Take the time to plan your time together when you and he can be together without interruption. You will both be happier and much more satisfied, if you get my drift. Make sure to also have just daughter/Mommy time, too, where the guy is not constantly underfoot. Make sure that you and she jsut do some real fun girl stuff together. Your daughter needs to know that no one can come between you.

Do you understand the words that are comin' out of my mouth???

Answer 2

i don't think you should be messing around with some guy in your room while your daughter is around and in need of attention. you also should not be introducing random guys into your daughter's life. imagine what that makes her think of you. i would be upset too if i were her. it sends the message that your date is more important than the time and attention you give your daughter.

a mother should be someone to look up to and aspire to be, not someone to set an example of how-not to treat your children.

i was in an office recently, and i young girl (maybe 13) was waiting in the lobby for her mother to pick her up. she was on the phone with her friend, and told her friend that she didn't know who her real father was and that her mother was "a slut" and that she "pretty much sleeps with everybody." i thought that was pretty sad that that young girl would talk to her friends about her mother like that, and considering i was also a girl that talked about her mother in similar way, i can only imagine the environment she is in, and how her mother probably doesn't realize how her actions affect her young daughter.

Answer 3

she'll get over it. you probably shouldnt have said "what do you want" cuz she doesnt know what your were doing or that you were interupting her. Next time say youll be there in 10 minutes. give an exact time. She will sit by the clock waiting, just make sure you bf hurries hehe!

Answer 4

She should definetly chill. You could get her a key to the house, but that situation was not your fault. Teach her to respect you while you're at it.

Answer 5

she should deff chill i think that the only reason that she freaked was mabey because she got worried