My mother screwed me out of my inheritance and refuses to admit any wrong doing?

Question

My parents were married for 10 years, my mother divorced him and kept the 2,000 square foot house. I remained living with my mother. I was 10 when they divorced.

My dad moved out and used his money from the divorce settlement to buy a small condo and I moved in with him when I was 16.

My mother sold her house to move upstate alone and had no place to live while looking for a new house. My father invited her to live with us for two weeks. During this time my father died suddenly from immune system failure.

My mother remained living in my dad's condo since I was underaged. She kept the money from her sold house in the bank and paid the $500 mortgage fee for my dad's condo till I was 18.

She was appointed administrator of my father's estate since I was the only child and he did not have a will. She went behind my back and drug out probate and demanded the estate pay her for loss of equity since she never bought a new home and lived in the condo instead.

I trusted her but she lied to me and didn't tell me that she SUED my father's estate for $80,000. Since I did not have the money to pay her, the court awarded her 55% ownership in my father's condo.

Am I right to feel betrayed? I do not trust my mother anymore. Legally she was supposed to tell me if anyone sued the estate but she did and I found out the day probate closed. I did not sue her fraud because she is my mother.

Yes my father didn't "owe" me an inheritance but did he owe his ex-wife an inheritance??

She bled my father dry in the divorce and then she scewed him over after he died too!!!!

But I guess that's okay huh??????

Answer 1

My goodness what a sorted story but we hear about that all the time. Women who get accustom to living a certain way and when they see their chance to keep that way of life going they will step on anyone to keep it even their children

I am very sorry to hear that and I know that it i hard to go after her because she is you mother. Actually I don't think their is anything you can do. The courts are aware that you are on your father will. They still awarded her the I will say shares anyway. I think the best thing for you to do is talk to her about out now. You have to get it out in the open. Don't let it harbor inside of you. It will only make you more angry.

After you speak to her about it depending on her response then make your mind up on how to move on from there

Good Luck

Answer 2

Number one mother or not, you were wrong for not suing her. It didn't stop her even though you were her daughter. Either way this really is a pointless question, you and she both know she was in the wrong ,... so either she'll fess up to it and you to will mend your wounds together, or she'll continue to deny it and you'll turn bitter cold and stop talking to her, or perhaps maybe you'll even take another route and pretend it never happened. Those are your choices,...

Move on I say, harbouring angst over material objects is wrong. Perhaps she did it a a very weakened (on your behalf) state, but if your mother is like my mother, she is stubborn and will not admit her wrong doing, I hope it is some concellation, trust me it's not worth doing what I did which was not talk to my mother for 5 years. In that time my mother had all she had done wrong in her life come down on her ten fold, it always comes back to you trust me. She will get hers,... if you harbor resentment,...that resentment may come back on you. Life is too short for material things to seperate love and blood,... don't forgive her,...but do not hold it against her either.

I know it's not my business but you asked,...lol

Hope it works out for the best,...

Dora

Answer 3

Because you were a minor when all this happened you have no legal right to any inheritance. Depending what state you live in, if there was no will, a certain amount of your father's estate will go to the state.

Answer 4

i am not familiar with estate law, but if you have a bad mother, she should no longer be regarded as a mother. if you want to, sue her. if not, live a good life, be a good person and teach your kids the right thing. let losing you be punishment for her wrongdoings. if she doesn't care, those are her true colors. hopefully she will want to do something to merit the love and respect of her children. if not, you cannot make her a good mother and it is not your responsibility to do so. stay strong, and sorry about that

Answer 5

she was wrong. you should see about legal recourse. don't feel bad. what judge gave her that money. no one forced her to move into the condo and stay. she chose to. she shouldn't be able to sue because of loss of equity. she wasn't thinking about you when she took from you. remember that whenever you start to waiver.

Answer 6

I just answered another of your questions...So, let me get this straight...she stole from you AND she skunk mouths your deceased father?? Mother of God! This woman is a real piece of work, isn't she?? WTF?!

I don't even know what to say other than watch your back and watch your wallet. Good luck.

Answer 7

Sometimes life is not fair. Money comes and money goes. Get your own life and work for your assets. Don't hold a grudge or you will lose more than just money--your health.

Answer 8

You're not only right to be betrayed, but since she used legal means to screw you out of your own inheritance, she shouldn't object if YOU use legal means to get it back.

Answer 9

the will is everything, since he had not left one. he died intestate. you get everything since they were divorced. how was she appointed admin anyway? you're his heir if there's no will.
CONTEST IT in probate, everything her being appointed admin everything.
she agreed to the settlement made by divorce court ruling. she is entitled to nothing more. whats yours is yours, good stewardship is godly. its not greed to hold whats yours. it will be your children's inheritance one day

Answer 10

I would have taken her to court.. Part of that money was yours as you were living with your dad at the time of his death.