My wife and I are struggling with this. I will birth the baby, so the child will call me Mommy, but what should my wife be called? I don't think it is respectful for children to call their parents by their first names. Help Please!!!!
2006-06-30 10:38:31 · 26 answers · asked by Fairy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Come on guys I'm serious, Mom1 and Mom2 WTF, I need something better than that. Lesbian haters need not respond.
2006-06-30 10:43:17 · update #1
Mom and mommy, mommy and mama, mom and mama.
2006-06-30 10:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
First off, I just want to congradulate you! I hope your child turns out beautiful and healthy.
My best friend growing up had two moms, and she called them both mom. Actually as a little kid she called them mommy, but even now as a young adult she refers to her parents as mom and mom.
If a child had a mom and dad who divorced, and then the dad remaried, the kid would have two moms. Presumably the child would call both of these ladies mom. (Maybe step-mom, but not always) I think it is a very personal choice if you both want to be consitered the mom (which I believe is how it should be) or if you would like to be the mom, and have your partner be the 'dad' (which I have heard of before) I would advise against having a mom1 and a mom2 however. Simply because their is no need to rank youselfs, and your kid would probably not ever call you by your 'name and number' anyway.
I wish you the best of luck, and I am sure that whatever you end up having you child/children call you everything will work out fine!
2006-07-02 13:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by JB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't your "Wife" be Mommy? I thought a marriage was give and take. If She was giving birth, what would you want the child to call you?
Since you are giving birth do you also get to name the Child too? Doesn't sound like you are very committed to you partner. You get to have the baby, you get to be called mommy, you get to take maternity leave...What does SHE get? To pay the bills?
What if you two decide to split up in a few years? Will she have to pay Child support? Will she take the Child? Will there be joint custody? Have you thought about these things? What if she "remarries" will the child call her new "wife" step mom?
2006-06-30 22:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, we have three kids, one original, one adopted, and one preadoptive. They call us both mom, somehow we just know who they want- its great. I also thought it would be nice to have Mommy and mama, or Mammy and Mommy. You are both Mom, go with it and just listen to your heart.
By the way, get a doula, you will really have such a better birth with that extra support, the benefits are unbelivable. Plus, she can help you two feel more connected during the birth. I feel that both moms need to really experience the birth and a doula can help your wife just settle in and really be there just for you, baby and her own birthing experience as you become parents together.
Also, consider a midwife with a mother centered approach, typically midwives are much more empowering and its never too late to change providers. All the best to you too.
If you would like to chat email me.
2006-06-30 22:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by Intuit Birth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mommy 1 & Mommy 2
2006-06-30 17:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have heard that one mother is called Mom and the other Mommy. Or something else in a loving tone, like a made up name close to Mama. But using her first name is fine too. It's not a diss to call your parents by their first name, it is their name you know.
Cute picture of two kids with a sign about their two Mommies-
http://i38.photobucket.com/albums/e140/WaterGoddessNim/2MomsPridePhoto.jpg
2006-06-30 19:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. having a son we have a answer for you. from day one we told him mommy and momma constantly 24/7. when he was 8 months old he said mommy then he put his hands on his other momma and said dada. So it really doesnt matter what you want them to call you they will decide. I can tell you this mommy and dada for two lesbians confuses everyone else.... and it is hard to get use to saying she and dada in the same sentance.. Also you need to get to book the lesbian guild to raising a child and heather has two mommies. Also outwright books has the best baby book we bought it you fill in all the stuff and it is very gblt friendly:) by the way CONGRATULATIONS!
2006-07-04 05:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to adopt children, and I think my wife could be called Mom, or mommy, and I decided I could be called Memaw, Mother, or Oma. Something along the lines of that. I think it's disrespectful to call a parent by the first name too.
2006-06-30 19:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to be called Mommy, then maybe your wife could be called some variant of that like Mama or Ma. Another option is that you are called Mommy, have your wife be called Mommy Mary for example. You know, insert her own name for Mary.
2006-06-30 18:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by Girasol 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect when someone is guy but to bring children into it is a different story. I had a friend who had "two Moms" when I was growing up and she was an outcast and teased constantly. I felt sorry for her and use to help protect her because she was so shy.
I am sending my angel to a parochial school. I want her learn family values and God created Adam and Eve. And having a family takes a man and a woman that are in love.
2006-07-01 00:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by angelsmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends kids call their birth mother, mommy, and they call their other mom, mommy Chris. Try that, or maybe with both of you it could be mommy followed by your name. I know that will change as the child gets older, but it will then be what they choose and are comfortable with.
2006-06-30 17:47:25 · answer #11 · answered by NoBoysAllowed! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋