If you had been married for a few years and your wife went fron 120lbs to 230lbs....would you still find her attractive? Would you still want to make love to her? Would you cheat on her?
2006-06-30 10:25:08 · 33 answers · asked by luv_me_truely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes yes an no
2006-06-30 10:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, I would still love my wife.
In fact, from the time we got married till now (a little over 2 years), my wife has always been heavier than I am. I was 220 pounds when I got married and I am about 198 pounds now. She had gained 50 some pounds shortly after we got married. Because of health reason and the fact that she wants to get pregnant, she had to lose a lot of weight. She has lost about 30 pounds now and I am so proud of her. At the altar, when I uttered those words saying "for better for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, till death do us part," not only that I said it as a vow with God being my witness but also was a declaration to the people there that I will commit in this relationship. I do plan to and want to live my life with my wife forever. Her weight may have changed but she is still the same woman that I married, the same woman that I have vowed to love for the rest of my life. So, to answer your question, yes, I find her attractive, in fact, more and more attractive everyday. I would still make love to her and would never cheat on her. I love my wife too much to do any stupid things that may jeopardize my relationship with her.
2006-06-30 10:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by knitting guy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case that's exactly what happened.
1) Do I still find her attractive?
Most of the time, somewhat. Guys go through cycles just like girls and there are times when the weight issue bothers us more than other times. I do have a hard time sometimes because I've always been repulsed by fat and the things that come with it (like facial hair, sitting around watching tv and stuffing yourself).
Would I be more attracted to her if she lost all the fat? I bet it would be like falling in love again. Just the thought of being able to pick her up and carry her turns me on, but then what are the chances of that actually happening?
2) Absolutelly. I would not ever abstain from making love to her because she gained weight. Fortunatelly she's not a ***** about sex like some other women and she almost never refuses, so we have in my opinion a decent sex life. Sometimes the huge belly does get in the way and it gets annoying that it's pretty much impossible to kiss during, but I can't complain. On the other hand I don't really know what it's like with a real skinny woman.
3) Would I cheat on her?
No, not if I can help it. But sometimes it's tempting to keep from fantasizing what would it be like with someone that I can actually pick up, someone that I could enjoy some of the things that we can't really enjoy together right now (like hiking, biking... outdoors).
So there you go, that's my answer. To bad women don't understand how men feel when they let themselves go to the point where it's pretty much clear to the guy that there are huge medical bills in their future, hip, knee surgery, diabetes, heart problems, lots of sitting around eating food (and paying for lots of junkfood).
2006-06-30 10:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would still love her and want to make love to her. But I would never Cheat on her. If I'm going to marry for a second time it won't be just for looks (obviously there has to be a phisical attraction) but also for brains, and personality. to me I Used to be all about how a woman looked that was until I fell for a woman that I was only a little attracted to. Now I just look for the Combination of the three with looks being dead Last. I hope this helps anser your question.
2006-06-30 10:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Deaddon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't cheat on her, but I'd feel cheated. I've yet to see a woman who doesn't gain at least 20 pounds the first year after she's married. My ex-wife gained 50 pounds while she was pregnant with our son and told me after wards that she had no intention of slimming down. People always say that it's what's on the inside that counts, but there has to be some physical attraction, and I just don't find fat women very attractive. They can call themselves big and beautiful, but they are neither.
2006-06-30 10:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard 1.... I mean i want 2 say that it's all about whats inside ..... but let's b real alot of people get married 'cause they r attracted 2 'em. Still some guys like a little meat u kno.I hope it all works out but maybe try 2 eat and do what he does that will bring u together and maybe help lose the weight.
2006-06-30 10:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Mellisa S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apperantly some of the people who answered this question before are shallow if they rely on looks to find someone attractive. If you truly love the person, and they have gained weight, it shouldn't matter. If my wife gained weight, I would still find her attractive cause she is the most beautiful woman in the world to me. I would still make love to her and would not cheat on her, because cheating is wrong.
2006-06-30 10:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by wes_borland80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be attracted to her, she would not be the same person as when I was first attracted to her. Why would a woman allow herself to pack on that much in the first place? Does she not care what or how people see her anymore? A 110 pounds is like have an 8th grade kid riding on her back all the time.
2006-06-30 10:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Alan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I wouldn't marry someone based on their physical appearance. I know that's a stereotype associated with men today, but we're just looking for the same thing women are. If my wife gained that much weight, I would not love her any less than I do today. I would, however, ask her to reconsider her lifestyle choices.
2006-06-30 10:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never cheat, I married her cause I loved her not cause I thought she looked hot. I would suggest sex with the lights off though. We and my wife are currently in good shape and make love with the lights on. Also I would herlp her to lose some weight for her health not for my own gain
2006-06-30 10:36:10 · answer #10 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that would really upset me. Not because I'm shallow, but because she thinks that now that she's married she doesn't have to at least TRY to keep up appearances. Sounds like this girl may have be getting a little too comfortable. I don't think I'd cheat though; I'm just not that way.
2006-06-30 10:30:58 · answer #11 · answered by inaccord18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋