what do you do if ur best friend is lesbian?

Question

my best friend is lesbian .... and i don't like it because she likes me... uuuuuuugh ... i feel sick when i remember it.... i really apreciate her frend ship but..... uuuuuuh i don't know what to do .... and what makes her think that i like her is me being polite and gentle with her while all the other keep making fun of her because she's soo fat... what should i do.... she holds my hands

Answer 1

So far you still call her your best friend! You can try to keep the frienship going. I think you should just tell her about the things making you uncomfortable and see what she says. You might also try to appeal to her to lose weight for her health's sake and maybe she'll find someone who wants to share her life.

If you can't handle her touching you at all and she won't stop, then perhaps you need to tell her that you consider her a friend but not a love interest and if she doesn't accept that relationship, you will just have to give up the friendship.

Answer 2

Tell her how you feel...that you love her as a friend, but not in a romantic or sexual way...if you can't communicate with her, then you don't have much of a friendship...she needs support of friends, because it's not easy being young and different than most of the people you know...

Hang in there...and make sure she knows you're there for her as a buddy, but don't feel bad about telling her the hand holding makes you uncomfortable...

Answer 3

If you're sure that's why she's holding your hands, and if you're sure you're not interested, then I think you need to talk to her, and explain to her that you like being her friend, you want to be best friends, but you're sorry, you're just not interested in other girls, and she needs to get over this because it isn't going to happen, and that if she keeps this up it's going to put a strain on your friendship. And you need to stop letting her hold your hand.

Answer 4

I would keep being their friend. If the holding hands thing bothers you, you should let her know. Don't wait till it's to late, because she might think you like her for more than a friend. Let her know how you feel. Good luck.

Answer 5

Friendship can be carried a little to far in your situation , where the feelings are one sided. You have to be up front with her. Be strong, be nice though and tell her where you stand with her. Still be friends afterwards though if shes cool with it. Everyone needs a friend and you sound like a good one.

Answer 6

I have the same problem, and it's sooo gross!! it's not as easy as these people say it is to "just hang in there" I told my friend I was straight and I like men and no other gender....and now I just let her have feelings for me but don't give in to it. When she holds your hands let go or pull away...there's not much more you can do.

Answer 7

If she likes you and you don't like her the same way, let her know it. No fault in that, but no fault that she does either, don't you think? Feels creepy probably to you, but it should be taken as a compliment. Just tell her you don't like her the same way. Not everyone's gaydar is accurate!

Answer 8

Always be gentle and honest with her, and be sure she understands your relationship with her. If she continues to "cling" to you in a manner that bothers you, suggest to her that she get counseling, (which can be had free), to find out why she can't deal with the truth about your friendship with her..

Answer 9

u need to let her dface the facts and just tell her face to face that I dont like you and im sorry im not that way i would like us to be friends but if this is goin to continue stop with the freindship!

Answer 10

the way you talk about her she can't be your friend calling her names like that maybe she should stop being her friend your not a true friends friends don't talk about friends like that