i have become really good friends with my soon to be husbands ex-girlfriend.....they were together for 4 years...i dont get along with a lot of girls....but i really clicked with her we're always chatting and gong out....my boyfriend hates it, do u think he still has feelings for her thats why he hates it so much?????
2006-06-30 10:23:39 · 15 answers · asked by muwah22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He obviously feels very vulnerable!.........thinks you have him at a disadvantage,..... as you two may be swapping notes about him....not a nice feeling! How would you like it if your bf and your ex got together....would you wonder what they are talking about all the time I think you would soon consider it was you!) If you consider this I think you will soon see his paranoia about your friendship.
Be friends with her......but don't let her come between you, keep a little distance between you. I've just had another thought! Maybe she has befriended you in order to get him back....and you are being so nice and enjoying her friendship...you just can't see it! Consider your position................and your bf's !!
2006-06-30 10:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by SheBiggles 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow bad idea, no I wouldn't think he has feelings for her but maybe they had a bad past together and you talking to her is making him feel like he cant get her out of his life. Shes probably even using you so she could get closer to your finacee. I really think this is a bad idea stay away from her it might not be so obvious now but maybe in the future itll show. never keep in touch with a boyfriends/girlfriends trash.
2006-06-30 10:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by LilSo1287 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be friends with this girl? She had an intimate relationship with him for 4 years. This was a serious relationship. Whenever you bring her around it of course would bring back old feelings. Even if he does want to move on, you are not allowing him to. You need to choose....IF you really care for this man, let this friend go. He needs to be able to move on in his life, and you being her friend by far does not help things. IF you care more about being her friend, than let him go. Then keep your friendship with her.Good luck...:)
2006-06-30 10:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do that....ur soon to be husband may not be feeling all secure with it...May be the first girl still have an eye on him and wants to get rid of u slowly....u never know....
Stay away from her :)
2006-06-30 10:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by AB12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's more likely that he is afraid you will become too much like her...they broke up for some reason, would hate to find that to be the same reason you two split up. Best wishes
2006-06-30 10:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
amazing....you should be the one disliking her,not him...they obviously had problems which is why they broke up.... but maybe she did him real dirty which is why he is so disturbed by your friendship. i dnt want to judge or say that his ex is a bad person, but be careful with her because you may never kno wat her intentions are. on the other hand she might be a great help because if she was with him for 4 yrs, then that means she really knows him....so she would be a great mentor in a way.
Best Wishes... ;)
2006-06-30 10:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by aos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants to leave the past alone and create a future with you. If she's around a lot, he probably feels uncomfortable. He may think you two are discussing him or something.
2006-06-30 10:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by Diva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be afraid that she will tell you something about him or his dealings, which he does not want you to know about.(or) He could also just not wish to deal with her, hence the fact that they are no longer together and he probably feels as if he shouldn't have to associate with her anymore.
2006-06-30 10:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by Oh My 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are always feelings left over from the last relationship. so yes, it is wierd. but i know how you feel. my ex, when he was my bf, his ex and me clicked real well. she would call me to talk about what was going on with their son. I respected him in a sense that this was his gf so to not make him feel weird cuz i loved him, i kept our conversations to minimal. plus we did not hang out. now that me and my ex are exes, me and her still chat, but dont hang out and me and him still chat but dont hang out. they chat too. she sees him sometimes so it is good to not hang out with either one of the exes cuz there are feelings invovled and tht makes things wierd. ya know?
2006-06-30 10:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure its because its just really weird for you to become friends with her. Would you like him to be friends with one of your ex's ??
2006-06-30 10:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋