he never wants sex unless I service him, but if I go shopping, ect... he jumps on porn sites, I've caught him, what gives? They aren't gay sites either, so i don't feel that is the thing.
2006-06-30 10:21:26 · 12 answers · asked by kelly m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he gets satisfaction there
2006-06-30 10:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet porn is an addiction. They have 12 step programs to help people with this. What happens is they find more enjoyment out of fantasizing. But, the problem is, eventually the fantasizing isn't enough and they will want to act out. This can lead to many things, all are no good. Talk with him, try to get him some help. Most men think it is perfectly harmless. It isn't.
Just like some people get addicted to alcohol, yet others can drink on occasion and never become an alcoholic, the same holds true for porn. If he is trying to look at it any chance he can get, he is addicted.
Good luck.
2006-06-30 18:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by wn_all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you make a movie with the 2 of you and tell him to watch that instead of looking at other people tell him to look at the 2 of you or take pics of you together... If he doesnt do that then he has a problem... I think all men look at porn but if you have a problem with it then he should at least be kind enough to try and hide it from you or something to spare you feelings. Maybe you should initiate sex more often and see how things go maybe hes just "sexually overcharged".
2006-06-30 18:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being on this Yahoo Answer thingy is a kind of addiction. Maybe for your husband porn is his addiction. Not be crass but you're not a whore so you shouldn't be "servicing" him. The two of you should have a sex life that's enjoyable for both of you. You should wait until there's some quiet time for you to bring this up with him and without arguing tell him how you feel.
2006-06-30 17:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET THE HELL OUT. I am not just talking walking, I mean run. I have been married twice to men who got off on the internet. The first traveled for other women, the second got into sick and disgusting. I finally caught him at it and threw his *** out. He became so ingrossed with his disgusting porn that it was better than a real person. He could not get it up for 3 years unless it was by the internet and other. No real live sex!!!!!!!!!!!!
Send him packing and save yourself years of anger, frustration and god knows what else his addiction will evolve into.
2006-06-30 19:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by julieann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you taken the time to discuss your feeling with him. Express to him how you feel when you come home to find him on porn sites. Tell him what you need sexually and ask him what he needs. If you are both active in church it may be a good idea if the two of you decide to seek marriage counseling. It may help if you write him a letter.
2006-06-30 17:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by tfcmagnificant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has an addiction, and it sounds like you need to give him the option of choosing real life and responsibilities or his little world in another home without you, and the children if you have any.
2006-06-30 18:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least when you go shopping he isn't jumping into some elses bed...Look at it that way...That is the way I have to look at it...
2006-06-30 17:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex did that. girl get out before you are 80 and can't enjoy life.he has a problem.. and you will suffer for it.it appears he does not respect you at all. you deserve better
2006-06-30 17:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by sparklesevilcarebear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds kinda lazy, n probably only has u serve him bcoz it turns him on. id rather hav him, watch porn than in another ladys bed. although id also rather him n me take turns serving 1another..:O
2006-06-30 17:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is called addiction-just like drugs, just like alcohol. it may be that he has a stronger desire than you or it could be that he potentially will someday be a child molester, rapest, or whatever.
good luck.
2006-06-30 17:27:58 · answer #11 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋