I'm extremely bored with my hubby! Our sex life sucks! I've been talking to other men online recently and think that I want to pursue something with one of them. Something descreet. Does that make me a horrible person? I don't want to get a divorce or anything because I still love my hubby. I just want to know if I should cheat on him. And would it be better if I cheated on him with a woman? AHHH! I don't know what to think. Someone help me.
2006-06-30 10:07:00 · 32 answers · asked by luv_me_truely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you really love your husband? If so, do not cheat on him. Be sure to think of the consequences of cheating. He may want to divorce you if you do. Do you think you could handle the stress and financial burden of such an event? If not, then do not cheat either.
So, please consider alternatives. Have you two seen a sex therapist? This may help. Also, if you sex life sucks..perhaps you add more romance to your relationship..go on a cruise together..maybe you can rekindle your relationship.
2006-06-30 10:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mav17 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Getting bored from your life partner sounds me really ridiculous. If this was the case then you should not have get married and spend your life with other guys. getting married is a life time committment with ur hubby. You just think for a while that how do u feel once ur hubby cheats on u with some other women. Sex is not everything in married life but there are many other things which u may discuss with ur hubby which u may not be able to discuss with ur friends and family. So think once more before taking such a stupid step.
2006-06-30 10:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by ayub b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you gotta work on this step by step, there are many solutions that don't require cheating on your husband. Perhaps if your sex life sucks, you could spice it up more, with some lingerie, or a special treat, I don't know, there are plenty of ideas. I don't know, some people even share parters, or include a lover in their bed (that is, three people in the same room).
Not anyone here who answers this can judge you over if you're being a horrible person, or just a regular person. What matters in the end is that if you can live with it in your counscience? Think about it.
I would say don't cheat, it will taint your marriage, and bring it down on a freefall. But like I said, all that counts in the end is what your counscience can live with.
2006-06-30 10:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by cucajoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't cheat on your husband. You either love him enough to work on making your sex life better or you divorce him and find another. I'm sorry, but sex is something that you should be able to make better by communicating with each other. To chose to cheat means that your giving up on the communication in your relationship which could spell the beginning of the end for your marriage. Spice up your sex life and get him talking by going to a website like anywebcam.com.
2006-06-30 10:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just have one question. Why is sex the most important thing to you? Don't cheat!!!!! He could do the same thing. Love is more important and if he finds out you will lose everything. Just try and tell him the things that you want. Cheating will just make you nasty and honestly a person not worthy of having a good relationship because you can't work with it.
2006-06-30 13:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by lizzy_bear_2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love you hubby then you wouldnt cheat you would do things to make your sex life better with him not with other people.you marriedthis guy know he has the problem or you should have known, this is something you would have to deal with now and get offline and pay attention toyour hubby, you said you dont want to get a divorce over but guess what it will lead to divorce if you keep talking to guys online, one of them will try to convince you to meet him and then it will lead to other things and your hubby will find out, then what it is all over. if you want this relationship to work then you will make your sex life better by latting your huby know it sucks right now and you want it better. you ahve to talk ot your hubby not other people!!! good luck.
2006-06-30 10:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he know how you feel? Give him a chance to work this out with you. Maybe you will find new positions / toys / etc that will improve your situation. Cheating is never a viable option because it can destory the most important thing of the relationship with your husband: Love and Trust.
2006-06-30 10:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by Charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat on your husband. If you love him why would you want to hurt him like that?If you don't want a divorce then don't cheat. If he ever found out he would most likely leave you. You need to find way to make your sex life better with your husband.If talking to other men online makes you want to cheat on your husband then you don't need to be talking to other men.
2006-06-30 11:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are really serious about wanting to cheat on your husband than you are not in love the way you think you are. the best thing to do is talk to him, try to work things out between the two of you first. if your efforts fail, consider a divorce before you cheat. you took those wedding vows for a reason.
2006-06-30 10:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by *ilovemybabyface* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love your husband you would realize that you should suck it up and talk it out with him, fully make him understand that sexually he leaves things to be desired in the bedroom and by you cheating on him--you break his heart. That is one of the worst things to do to a person and the consequences on the relationship can be devistating. That leads to lack of trust, feelings of disgust towards the person who cheated, and it makes the relationship almost impossible to restore... Remember, things are forgiven but not forgotten. And is it worth it to you?
2006-06-30 10:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by WoWChick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋