My husband asked me to pose this question since I "value the opinions of this forum so much". Anyway, I have not had a chance to change my last name yet, even though I have tried. He has told me that he has closed the joint checking account that he has with his ex-wife, and just yesterday, I found out that it is still open. He assures me that it is just there for his car insurance and that she would never go into his account and take his money. She does not work, but yet he tells me that it needs to stay open so that she can send money for their son who we have custody of. She has never done this. As a matter of fact, he is the one who sent her 300 from his income tax, even though we get nothing from her for their son. He is arguing with me because I want him to close it, telling me that keeping this account open is no different than me not changing my last name to his. Which is worse?
2006-06-30 10:04:31 · 11 answers · asked by candy0813 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think I read in another question you guys have been married for four months? Changing your name is a giant pain in the a** because you have to change not only social and drivers, but credit cards, utility bills, doctors records etc etc etc. I've been divorced for over two years and I still haven't changed it all back to my maiden name. In fact, I'm getting married in September so I see no need to mess with it now anyway! So with just being married for four months, it doesn't surprise me you haven't gotten it all done.
The deal here is INTENTION. You are intending to change your name. He is not intending to close this account.
I've noticed a lot of questions on here from you and your husband's friend. You and your husband may want to get into counseling to confront these problems NOW before you head for disaster in the end.
2006-06-30 10:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am curious why you have not changed your name yet. It is quite a simple process in every state. On to the more serious of the two issues: Your husband is completely full of crap. He keeps that account open for some reason other than what he has told you. The boys Mother can send you a money order or check. Desperate people do desperate things. If ex needs money, she will surely take it. And why would an accout need to be open just for car insurance? Hmmm? We are talking way fishy stuff here, sugar.
2006-06-30 10:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both equally wrong.
Wasn't your last name legally changed to his the day you were married? I do hope you're not still going by your ex-husband's last name, and that maybe it's just some accounts or something where you haven't changed it. Yes, I've changed my name before. Big deal, you take some time out and you DO it.
And get the ex-wife off of ALL financial accounts! This one isn't open for discussion.
2006-06-30 11:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Spyder Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-08 23:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by dufresne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-20 10:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by ohrmund 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 01:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by braye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well his is much worse, and I'm not so sure I'd be changing my name at all if he didn't get his ex-wife off of a bank account that YOU should be on if your married to this man. Not sure, how or why you didn't change your name, if you agreed to marry him, and kept your ex's name. But maybe an annulment will be cheaper, if his ex-wife keeps getting his money when YOU are raising HER kid..?
2006-06-30 10:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband keeping an account with his ex. There is no reason he can't change accounts. Sounds to me like he wasn't really ready to let go of her. This could become a problem. You should sit down and talk it out.
2006-06-30 10:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by luv_me_truely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband would say that one is just as bad as the other. I can see where you are comeing from.If my husband had a checking account with his x wife i would make him close it. I would be really mad if he lied to me and told me he closed it and i found out that he didn't.
2006-06-30 11:57:54 · answer #9 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His IS worse, and he full-well knows it! Change your name as soon as you can....and make him close the account!
2006-06-30 10:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋