First time moving in with my boyfriend, is it hard ?

Question

My first time I will be moving in with a boyfriend. I am concerned and nervous. Do things change? If so what specifics?

Answer 1

Marriage first is always the best,but it's each individuals choice. There are statistics that show people who live together first, have a higher percentage of breaking up before marriage,and if they do eventually marry, many will end in divorce within 5-7 yrs. It doesn't mean all will. The research was based on couples who lived together first,and the outcome of it.

Answer 2

Things always change when u move with ur mate cause u see things only his mom saw and dealt with but it is fun chasing each other around the house, taking showers 2gether, having breakfast in bed but just make sure he respects ur boundaries, doesn't have a bunch of guys ova after you've gotten off from work, that he will have to clean up, and u 2 decide as a couple who pays what have fun trust me u will and try to go home at least 3 times a month cause you'll miss it every now and then.

Answer 3

Moving in with your boyfriend will be good the first couple of nights, however, its not a sleepover type thing, this is the real deal and there are going to be issues that are going to come up that you should have already figured out before you move in with him. If not, here are some things you should talk about:

1. Money:
a. Are you splitting everything 50/50 if not, what he is he responsible for and what are you responsible for.

b. Creating a household budget will help ease any finacial worries

c. Do you both keep seperate bank accounts and have one joined account for household things or do you just have your seperate accounts period?

2. Time:
a. If he is a party guy, can he still have his monday - friday poker game at the house with his boys drinking and smoking until 2 am if you have to be up at 7 am to go to work

b. Plan ahead on doing things away from him, give him his personal time and talk to him about your own personal time.

c. If YOU are a party girl, can you still go out with your girlfriends and comehome drunk at 2 am every weekend when he has to work weekends?

3. Household duties:
a. Does he expect you to cook, clean and play hostest? What about you, do you expect him to do his half of the housework.

b. Are there pets involved? If so, who is going to carry the bulk of the responsiblity of taking care of them?

c. Dont forget this is a guy and guys have habits you might not have seen, be prepaired to deal with the socks around the house and the dirty undies on the floor. Also, remember, HE IS A GUY, washing out your ummm... monthly panties in the sink, is not cool. PERIOD.

Mines/OURS/Yours:
Respect each othersspace and privacy, just because you live together does not give you the right to go and dig through his secrect box and does not give him the right to read your diary. Yes, it is now both of your's space, but dont take that as the green flag to go through his cell phone and delete number and names who you are not familar with.

Know that he still has stuff that he wants to keep for himself. So if he bought a 6 pack of beer and there is one left, ASK before you drink it.

Just because he gives you permission once to use his car, cell phone, debit/credit card, that does not give you full access to his accounts. Always ask when using something of his.

Make couple time, just because you live together, doesnt mean that you ARE together all the time, so make time every couple of weeks to sit down and have dinner and relax with each other.

Good luck!!

Answer 4

yes things do change.For instance what u want to watch on tv may be different from he wants to watch. So my advice is to get 2 tvs. Im currently living with my boyfriend and it has its good & bad days. Expecially if he comes home in a bad mood & i try to be nice to him but hes just pissed off. thats when the hard part comes in because i dont wanna deal with him all mad.

Answer 5

It is a new thing for the 2 of you so of course things change! You will probabley still love each other just learn from each other and things will be fine. Don't fight over silly things like the toothpaste cap not being on the toothpaste. It is silly things like that that can break the relationship up!

Answer 6

You will have to get used to his bad habbits! That usually takes a while. You may not know about any of them yet. Eventually after so long, you will get used to his ways, and he will get used to your ways. Just remember that you must both be willing to compromise. Also make sure you are ready to commit. Once you live with him, it's all you and him. Not much more girly things, and girls night outs. Make sure you are ready to settle down. Good luck...:)

Answer 7

No it shouldn't be hard, if you love him then he will enjoy being around you, but he may make you do some cooking/cleaning, aso be perpared to do sexual stuff, because if you're living with him then hes gonna do things with you, thats just how guys are, good luck!

Answer 8

Eh things can change, but you never really know a person until you live with them, that's for sure! So if you're interested in making a committment with him, like marriage, you'll need to do it eventually anyway.

Answer 9

Don't do it!!
Marriage first is best!, believe it !!!! then it will be hard still, but you have a committed person, who hopefully is your best friend and loves you dearly so it's more manageable. But marriage first is best!!

Answer 10

i dnt kno yet from personal experiences but i hope everything works out. jus remember that you two are two different persons and that moments might be tough at times..esp. since its ur first time.learn his ways the same way he should learn yours. respect his opinions, decisions and space and he should do the same. and have patience!!!! - its the key to everything
i wish you the best and hopefully you have a blast ! good luck...