My friend wants to get married in a court first then have a ceremony later. Has anyone did this???
2006-06-30 09:53:43 · 22 answers · asked by **What??** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know a couple that married in court,
Reason why they did it that way,
Was parents really didn't have the money for the so called,
( DREAM WEDDING ).
They took allot of burden and guilt off there parents.
The money they saved during the engagement,
Was saved for a House,
Not spent on a wedding.
Then 1 year later,
They went to a church, with family all there,
Dressed in casual cloths,
And said there vows,
The church called it renewing there vows~ !
They did it on the same month and day, as in court , so they wouldn't have 2 wedding dates.
They then had a gathering after,
Everyone gave envelopes with money,
And between the money they saved, and the money in the envelopes,
Not only did they have enough to buy a nice big home.
But also money left to furnish it.
Now they have a real wedding gift,
A nice home, to remind them everyday of there wedding day ~!
Not having a huge party ~ paying for food~ drinks~ band a hall~ a dress~ a tuxedos~ brides maids dresses~ and all the other.
To me, it was a smart move!
And they are very happily married.
I asked her, if she every missed not wearing a wedding dress,
She holds arms out a the home and says,
No how can i when i have this ~ !
A wedding dress i would wear one time, this i have forever ~ !
Think about it,
If you was to get a divorce,,,do you go to a church for it, or does the court make it final.
So why not marry in the court!
~*~*~*~*~*~Peace
2006-06-30 10:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Brat-tett & Brat Pack's 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with getting married in court. I know people that have done it. They either didn't want a big ceremony or couldn't afford it at the time. Besides it's the legal documents that are important; the ceremony is just for show.
2006-06-30 16:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by paranoid_much 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I did, but we never got around to re-doing the ceremony. As long as you're willing to run that risk, there's nothing wrong with it.
We look at our wedding fondly. A few family members crashed the ceremony (my mother included), but as far as we think of it, it was OUR wedding.
Big weddings are for everyone BUT the bride and groom. It's about the dress and the food and the music and the flowers and the bridesmaids and the mothers and the quests. My husband bought me a beautiful white linen dress, I baked our cake, and my husband made me a wedding gift of homemade rose wine.
The court asked if we were religious, and we said yes. To our suprise, the ceremony was lovely, with religous themes and vows that sounded a lot like a ceremony preformed by a preacher.
In the end, my only regret is that we didn't think to have anyone videotape it. I would have liked to have had that. But when I think of my wedding, I remember the warm feel of the wood-paneled courtroom, the love I felt looking at my handsome husband, and the overwhelming excitement at the vows we were taking, and at the prospect of joining my life with his forever.
Our wedding was for us, and it was everything I could have wanted.
2006-06-30 17:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I got married by a Judge. The price and stress of a wedding was something we just didn't want to deal with. We are currently planning a church wedding for our anniversary this year...20 years. Our 17 year old daughter will be a bridesmaid.
Absolutely nothing wrong with having a Judge marry you.
The only thing I regret is that my inlaws have passed away and won't see the church wedding. They were present at our first.
2006-06-30 17:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by oneidacarpetguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married in a court house and our immediate family was all there. After we went out to eat with everyone and had a great time. We said it doesn't matter where we get married as long as we are both happy with that decision. So no I don't think it is a bad decision.
2006-06-30 18:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by NICOLE D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married at the court house. We are still married 6 years later and never had a big wedding. I didn't miss anything.
2006-06-30 16:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of people get married at the court house ,nothing wrong with that,if you want to save a lot of money it makes sense,the big
fancy ceremony's are just for show,you are married either way!
2006-06-30 20:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by C J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that. In fact my husband and I got married at the really lovely home of the marriage commissioner because we could not afford a ceremony. It does not really matter.
2006-06-30 16:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by lmjones_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people choose that option. My parents did it a few weeks prior to their real wedding date back in 1961. Whether performed in a church or by a court the marriage stille needs to have legality. Therefore the law is always involved at some point.
2006-06-30 16:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. I married the love of my life in a court room. Of course my side of the family didnt like it at all but I did it and im very happy.
2006-06-30 17:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Piper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋