OK, my husband has been planning a GUYS ONLY trip for a few weeks now.?

Question

When he first came to ask me if I minded, I told him, not as long as he doesn't need the Suburban that I drive to go. His truck is too small to tow the boat...so he siad no he wouldnt need it. So now, he isn't even taking his boat, he is taking his friends new one, and his friend wants to tow it out there with his won truck...so there really isn't a need for my truck...(yes I call it mine, he has his..) Well, now he is all PO'd over me calling it my truck and telling him no that he can't take it. We have 4 kids, and if he takes my truck then I'll be at the house stranded for 3 days..and he says its cuz he doesnt want to smash three men in a single cab. He says I'm being selfish...if I am, OK, then I want to hear it from y'all.. Also, I would like to go out with one of the other guys wives, and my husband automatically assumes I'm going out lookin for guys..when in fact, I'd just like a little fun...if he can I can too right? BTW..he is going to a major hook up spot

I see a lot of ppl think he is going to cheat on me...Believe me, nothing could be further from the truth..plus he is going with his brothers so there is no way that could be hidden from me, and too, I wouldn't ever cheat on him...to me it is all about respect, and his whole macho its my truck too..(Um..I make twice as much money as him and I PAID for it thank you! lol) is bullshit. He could have had a huge truck too, but no, he wanted the new dirtbike, he wanted the trophy truck, the new boat..so there is trust, I completely trust him..i just can't stand the idea of he having his own set of rules ya know?

Answer 1

Okay! Be married, kids, work, bills is more than enough stress. But you guys shouldn't make it so stressful. Let him go out with his friends don't give him lip about it. Now, when it comes to you then he needs to shut the hell up! You both are intitle to get a breather and it shouldn't matter if its with your girlfriends or alone. That's none his damn business! All he needs know is that your not with another man if thats going to cover his insecurties.
Another thing, You are both parents............you didn't have these kids by yourself. So, if he wants to go out with his friends.......fine! Tomorrow comes, you tell him to stay with the kids just like you did. And don't pick up your phone.
Everything has to be 50-50 other wise nothing, I: would have serious conversation with him or else - forget, he'll think everything is okay. Put a stop to it now before its late. Thats what I did with my husband and now we don't have that problem. Thank god.

Answer 2

If you even have to ask that question your relationship is over. You have TWO vehicles if he takes the suburban you still have the other truck so you are not stranded. but like you said you have 4 kids so you should get dibs on the extra seats in case of emergency. he has a buddy pulling the boat with his own truck. I assume that it has room for 2 people so they can just convoy. some in one truck and some in the other. That way no one is smashed and you get the suburban. He is just being a baby because he wants the cool car. P.S. there are only three reasons he would think you are looking to hookup while he is "gone Fishing"
1. He is thinking about doing it himself. so he suspects everyone of doing the same thing.
2. He knows/suspects you've done it in the past and he doesn't trust you.
3. He knows the other guys wife can't be trusted.

Answer 3

I don't buy that he going on a trip with his guys bodies. That's BULL and he knows it. He is just going to have fun and let you stay home with the kids. You should not let him take your truck. If he can't fit all of his bodies in his truck, what about his bodies don't they own any cars or truck too. They can use their right. You are definitely NOT being selfish. He is just trying to make you feel bad because he in fact is the selfish one. When is the last time he let you go on a trip with your friend huh. Think about that.

Answer 4

Just take all the vehicles and all the wives, drive multiple cars there and then everyone can have a break and the kids can swim in the pool. There are problems between you and your hubby that are deeper than this specific issue. You are suspicious of each other. It is a real problem. The truck thing isn't the real problem.

Answer 5

Tell him, he needs to think about his kids...what if there is an emergency? You need a vehicle big enough for all the kids.
Second, yeah, a guy's weekend is needed occasionally, just get away, fish, drink, lie to each other and laugh.
By the same token, plan a women's weekend with your friends, go to a spa, go fishing, whatever...and make him stay home with the kids....and leave the bigger vehicle for him when you do.
Compromise people, that's the key...compromise and trust.
Going to a major hookup spot? You trust him? He ever given you any reason not too? Or vice versa?

Answer 6

Well......you have a right to call it yours. You are the one who uses it the most to cart around all those kids. I have six children and I have a minivan. I call it mine. My husband has his truck! That's just the way it is. Men can just be stupid. Something can be yours for the longest time but as soon as they need to use it they decide that it is both of yours. If you ask me, it sounds like your husband wants you to be stranded at home so just in case you get a wild hair up your butt and want to go look for him....YOU CAN'T! So, do NOT, under any circumstances, let him use your vehicle. The whole situation just sounds a little fishy to me.

Answer 7

There seems to be a trust issue, you can't have a healthy marriage without trust. Why don't you bring that up to him. As far as the truck thing, doesn't any of those guy's he's going with have a larger vehicle? You will have 4 kids to try to drive around, that's not cool of him. Good luck

Answer 8

I think he is being selfish and not thinking about his kids. Ask him how you would get to the doctor if one of the kids hurt themselves? Or play role reversal and plan a weekend out with the girls and take the suburban and leave him stuck at home with 4 kids. But on a serious note you and him need to sit down and talk this over.

Answer 9

Sharlala, lets face it you both dont trust each other. He knows he aint gettin some like he used to...4 kids & all! And you aint puttin out like you use to either...so...going out with the guys and having some fun could be a remedy for Mr. Neverpullsout. If your still in the real estate business, then go out with your lonely frustrated real estate cohorts thats not doing much business - get drunk and get stupid, cuz he'd never pass up a chance to get laid either.

Answer 10

Yeah, you are being selfish by telling him he can't take out the suburban and calling it yours - especially when he probably pays for it. Also, women aren't to be trusted to be going out and having "fun", I've slept with a couple of wives whose husbands thought they were just going out with the girls to have some fun, and they did, while they were riding me.