how do i get my ten month old to relax and be happier through the day?

Question

If my daughter hasn't got 100% attention, she is v grumpy and clingy, when i try to wash the dishes, she pulls on my trousers and crys! She doesn't seem to want to play with anything for v long and gets bored v easily! Shes into everything now she is crawling but once she has reached what ever she wants, shes bored. She is quite a sensitive soul and things get to her v easily, even a cough can set her off crying sometimes. She is v weary of new people and doesn't like to be held by many people. I am a full time mum and sometimes feel I have no one to help me. I want to start going to mums and toddlers but feel v nervous as she can b very unpredictable. The only way she can go to sleep, is if she is in her own cot.This is a nightmare if we are out and about. She also makes hmmmmmm, hmmmmmmm nosies all of the time, more so when I am not giving her my full attention. The noise can be draining as its a whine sound. Any suggestions on how my little girl can be happier?

Answer 1

Hang in there... Its just a stage she is going through... I'm sure it wont be the last. Babies from age 9-18 months experience separation anxiety and stranger anxiety. It is actually a good thing, it means they are developing "emotional attachments" It only lasts for a couple of months. The best thing you can do is to bring her around people as much as possible..( even to the park to observe other children) when you are with other people hold her for the first half hour or so and then have people approach her gradually. Does she have a transitional object? A pacifier or a blankie? that helps alot, it too is an attachment and will make her feel more comfortable around others and also when she sleeps. As hard as this is for you to handle, believe me, I know! remember, for the first time in her life she is feeling these emotions and doesn't know how to handle them and it frightens her! So if you do feel overwhelmed.. put her in a safe place and go outside and take a deep breath! (a cocktail works too... ha-ha.) Good Luck!

Answer 2

I think the best thing to do would be to take her out around other mom's and babes. I've seen other babes such as your daughter who have really come out of their shell if they get around other kids and people more often. Just try to go out with her more - this will help to develop her independence and also give you a little bit of social time! There are many government-sponsored or low-cost playgroups or play centres that you can take young ones too - and a lot of them have programs that you can participate in such as song times, music and movement, etc etc. These can be really helpful to break the ice with other mothers as well.

As far as the sleeping thing goes, for my daughter, she falls asleep easily in a baby carrier. You can get slings, Snugli's, backpacks - this way they are close to you and not taken out of the action and can fall asleep on their own time. My daughter (also 10 months) LOVES being in all of her carriers and it's actually the easiest method I have of putting her to sleep is putting her in the sling or whichever carrier we're using and going for a walk.

Answer 3

hey.. u r just describing my little girl!!! yeah i said it right...this's how my girl is..she too is 10 month old :) everything u've written... gosh.. line to line is the same with my baby!! i was wondering how cud this be possible!

well the best way to keep her happy is ATTENTION..and lots of ATTENTION!!! the only way out! and for u PATIENCE and tonnes of PATIENCE! i too get so much exhausted carrying her all thru the day... i can understand how much helpless u can feel!

one of the best way i feel is to keep her engaged. my girl wud get irritated when she's bugged up and feels all alone! she can get bored very easily. so i keep lot of play things around her. ikeep some of her play things aside so that she wud forget it and once i give it again to her she wud be interested.

the thing abt getting weary of new people..well its very natural with babies of that age. its the "stranger anxiety" she'll cope it up as she grows.

also watch her, observe what irritates her. try to be ahead of her so that she can't catch u :)) thatz what i do.

i hope this has helped u.

PS: These days my girl is liking Clifford the Big Red Dog. I think she'll love Teletubbies.

Answer 4

you must have been close to her since she was born. thats okay but its kinda like weaning her off a bottle. just let her know youll always be there and assure her that youll always come back. practice with her. have some one to help you. ask a relative to hold her or stay in the same room with her while you say i love you and assure her youll be back. leave the room for a couple of minutes then come back in and tell her i missed you and give her a kiss. practice this for awhile making the time you leave longer. as long as she knows youll be back. you may want to take her to see a pediatrition if this problem is worst. there are specialists that can help as well if this a problem that can not be fixed at home.

Answer 5

If the wellness care expert has intently looked on the 'screaming', then it sounds like it must be frustration.-(they're little tyrants you realize.) they're going to cry for leisure and interest whilst they learn that it 'brings on the floor instruct`, (and plainly such as you and your mum and dad have taught him that he's have been given a superb to it every time he needs and screaming is a thank you to get it). classic with a familiar born, surprisingly with Grandparents around. Sorry, i understand this is troublesome, yet you will basically ought to instruct him that commonly crying would not pay off for him to end doing this. it is going to take time, and basically putting up with it for even though long it takes. you will discover ways to nicely known the 'interest' cry as different from the 'misery' cry quickly adequate. till you do, verify him whilst he cries, and if nothings amiss, walk away.

Answer 6

i had the same situation with my son, he was only comfertable with me or my mother, who watches him while i am at work. what i did to help with his clinginess was to let him fuss it out for just a little bit before i picked him up.. not really cry, because i can't handle hearing my son cry, it breaks my heart but fuss a little. each time waiting a little longer. this showed him that i wasn't going to jump right to his attention when he wined. next was i tried different things toys and tv shows to catch his attention until i found something that stuck. he loves sesame street. elmo will keep him occupied for like an hour. last i just took up on any opportunity to socialize him around different adults and kids. any time i could i would bring him around others, i jumped on it. i let him be shy and cling to me until he felt comfertable enough to venture to other people. it only took about a month for him to go from an extremely shy baby to a very friendly baby. hope this helps..

Answer 7

Well, this could bea tough one,but I recommend taking her out and playing with other children her age. Even putting her in a daycare for half-days every other day could help her. Mingling with other children her own age will help her and also you. It is not healthy for you two to constanly be around one another. Try finding some Mom and Me play groups and joining along. She will realize that there is more to life than just you and her. I hope this helps.

Answer 8

, bath time etc. A routine is the best thing. Enforce regular sleep periods awake periods meal times and play times. She may resist at first, but both you and she will be happier long term!

Answer 9

Tellytubbies something abou tthat tv show that puts a child in a better state of mind...

Answer 10

have you tried carrying her in a sling? i put my son in a carrier when im doing housework and it makes him very happy. he's with mommy and i have my hands free. he also sleeps better at night because of that. try the website below for baby carriers (not the BJorn kind..those are bad for babies spines)