When in a relationship do you say....?

Question

I'm in Love with you, or We need to break up?

Gay Guys only please...Anyone deciding to bash or put an answer not related to this question will be reported.

Answer 1

I am afraid your question is totally sexist and any person, gay or otherwise had the God given right of fair comment. I am not Gay and resent the implication in your question that I will be reported if I fairly answer the question.
You should tell someone that you love them, when you truly do so.
You should tell someone 'we need to break up' when there is no possibility of a reconciliation.

Thank you and good night.................

Answer 2

Science has proven that love is a set of complex chemical reactions. It's left up to us to sort it all out.
Personally, I believe that communication is the most important component in a fledgling relationship. With that in mind, the rest should fall into place relatively easily; however, it's *not* always easy to say, "I don't love you any longer", but having established good two-way communication will help.
"I love you", if you're willing to take the risk, is a lot easier to say. We all want to love and to be loved, and expressing that emotion is a hell of a lot easier than hearing, "I don't love you".
What many don't understand is that we, as a [GLBT] culture among the Breeder's, have so much more to consider when we enter into a serious, longterm relationship.
Our lives are shaped and changed forever, and taking that relationship to a higher level can at once be risky and yet so exhilerating that the depths of it are fathomless.
Enter the Breeder [culture/society].
Our lives are uniquely different from theirs and we often have to reconcile on many levels to make our relationships successful -- something only a Gay brother or a Lesbian sister will fully understand.

Breeders have made their lifestyle choice ... and this is why they can't begin to fathom how we're often forced to make reconciliations and sacrifices. We wouldn't have to make these if we could change our lifestyle as easily as they.

Answer 3

My friend, I don't condone you for your lifestyle choice. It is a lifestyle you have chosen to follow. Ok, the question at hand. Like any relationship out there, those two phrases are the drastic yin and yang of conversations. Say the first one in a quiet special place where you can be alone with this person. The same thing applies with the other but with either stop and take a deep breath and ponder if it is really what you want to say. It is much easier to do this than have to try to retract the statement if you change your mind later.

Answer 4

I'm not a gay guy, but I have a few friends who are. It's not a gay guy thing, it's a human thing. We all have or hope for relationships in our lives. Some want strictly casual relationships and some of us want meaningful relationships that actually matter in our lives. You say "I'm in love with you " when you really mean it, not because you think it is what needs to be said (as in response to someone saying it to you). You say it when you realize that this person crosses your mind not only when it benefits you, but just "because". You say it when you realize that you don't have to be sexual with the person to have intimate moments. You say "We need to break up" when what you feel begins to hurt. When it brings you doubts and worries and stress. When it makes you think you need to be someone else in order to please that person. When you have tried/given your best, if that is what you want to give, and you see it has not really mattered. Go with your heart in all matters, just know that sometimes you may not get what you want, but life makes sure you get what you need when you need it, both positively and negatively. We grow from everything we experience, if we are open to it. Good luck in love! Peace.

Answer 5

This is a diffcult one as they both boil down to two things - Honesty and communication. You need to communicate your feelings, because otherwise a relationship becomes toxic and what is great becomes something nasty. Therefore say what you feel in the way you feel is best. If the other person runs a mile or takes offence then they must not have been worth the bother in the first place, because they can't accept you for being you.

Answer 6

i have gay guy friends as well as straight friends. you say it when you feel the tI'me is right. or you break it off if its not working out. sorry im a girl not a guy but i have many friends. so if a guy can answer better pick that answer. thanks Kat

Answer 7

You will know when to say those things. If it's been on your mind for a long time and you're wondering whether you should say it....you should say it.

Answer 8

just follow what your heart is telling you. Your heart is seldom wrong.

Answer 9

when it's time to go...go with a smile!!!

Answer 10

here here thomasrobins!!!!