Do you think certain people shouldn't be allowed to have children?

Question

First off, this isn't a gay and lesbian issue.

I'm talking about the irresponsible people who have multiple children (5 or 10), by multiple partners. Not just the women, but the men, especially the men, because men can have multiple babies at the same time by multiple people so they can have a lot more. And, by irresponsible, i'm referring to those incapable of taking care of the children financially and emotionally. So that the kids are in foster care or other homes because of their parents, financial, jail, drug or alcohol problems. For people like this shouldn't their be a limit? And, at some point shouldn't we remove the capability of them to have children?

Examples:1. My cousin has 4 children, 2 of which are taken care of by my mother, and 2 others in the foster care system. She has drug problems and the children were born with drugs in their system, and they've had to suffer because of her irresponsibility.

2.I've seen 2 shows where men have 15+ children by 15+ women

Answer 1

easy answer: yes

HOWEVER...

how on earth can it be regulated??
people need driver's licences to operate cars legally,
businesses need business licences,
hell, DOGS need DOG LICENSES just to live with you...

but anybody, without sufficient sense or insight to understand what responsibility is, what children need, even what birth control is, they can go out and reproduce

people who are well off, intelligent, and prepared to give children everything they need will frequently go thru hell trying to conceive

other people, well, bunny rabbits come to mind

There are more than a few women who have several children by several daddies, none of whom are paying child support, and these children are supported by taxpayers.

Hey, if a woman leaves an abusive relationship and needs social assistance, THAT is what it's there for

if a woman chooses to be a single parent, with awareness of and ability to provide for the needs of a child, more power to her

I knew a woman on welfare who went and got her tubes un-tied as her youngest child reached school-age, because the rules were being changed that she would have to go out to work once there were no more school-aged children in the house.

I don't think SHE was the only one; it wasn't long after that rules change that our government stopped paying for the reversal operation.

I have a relative who is married, she and hubby both excellent jobs, and she just gave birth to her 7th child... all these kids are FANTASTIC, and this is a noisy, happy, well-run household. Not all of her children have the same father, but they are all equally loved, respected, and cared for. Her present husband is a wonderful guy, and I give them all the credit in the world.

This same relative has a step-sister with fetal alcohol syndrome, stepmum from a 'normal' appearing, middle class environment was addicted to alcohol and couldn't stop for the sake of a pregnancy

another case I know, a girl that was 14 drank and drugged heavily prior to finding out she was pregnant... child was born with severe autism and without eyes

there's always exceptions to these negative scenarios...
love and care and guidance in abundance, extended families helping each other and their children, good people emerging from bad circumstances.... "not much money, but lots of love", there's lots of successful people who start their life stories with that phrase.... there's intelligence and understanding and triumph out there...

no one is perfect, but if people can't give consideration to anything other than 'someone to love, someone to love me', or the size of a monthly cheque, or whatever they're thinking (or NOT thinking),if they can't understand what needs to be done, and take the effort on the very difficult job of child rearing, they shouldn't be allowed to become parents

and birth control and disease protection is so easily available, there just doesn't seem to be a good excuse for 'accidental' pregnancies (yes, I know birth control is not 100 per cent effective, BUT it's as high as 99 per cent) (and I don't believe that there are that many folks who would not use birth control before or after conception for religions reasons... otherwise, they would be MARRIED, because those same religions prohibit sex OUTSIDE of marriage)

our city just had a not-quite-three year old stabbed to death by his mother... she walked from her house to a main drag, with the baby under her arm like a sack, slowly bleeding to death...

that woman has two other children in foster care... how/why did she retain custody of that poor little guy?

I have thought so much about this topic in the past, but without becoming a dictatorship, how could this be regulated? who would make the decisions about who is or is not fit to be a parent? how would it be 'punished'??

I've been talking about women because ultimately it IS a woman's responsibility to protect herself and her body, she's the one who will bear and raise any unexpected, unplanned children..... BUT, the men who are sowing their seed all over their communities.. if they can't grasp the responsibility that goes along with making a new life and step up, well, neutering comes to mind...

politically incorrect closing quotation: "stupid people shouldn't breed"

it's a tragedy of major proportions, and the victims have no say or redress for where, when, or to WHOM they are born

Answer 2

It depends very much on the individual child, I suppose. It is a great series about the realities of war (some kids really do need to learn that war isn't fun and games), what the soldiers of the past did to secure our freedom and an excellent visual take on WWII that nicely compliments what's been learnt in school. That said, there are some sensitive children who might be too immature to watch it until they are at least in their teens. But if your son was able to watch it at the age of nine without any problems then why shouldn't he? You're the one who knows him best in terms of what he can handle. Equally, you might get another nine-year-old who would be better to watch it when they are slightly older so they can better appreciate the material the show deals with.

Answer 3

I certainly do, i live in the third world where illiteracy and poverty are two of the major problems.If you live in misery why have children and make their lives miserable, if you decide to have a baby you should be able to give him:education, a roof over his head, love and happiness.

Answer 4

I think this is best left up to God, and the leagule system. God allowed Israel to have 13 childre. The leagule system wants to take over the raising of our children.

Answer 5

Yes. The ones that come on here asking what to do in certain situations. ATTENTION PARENTS: They are your children. Not ours.

Answer 6

WHO DECIDES WHO CAN AND CANNOT HAVE CHILDREN?

Are you willing to be one who cannot have kids?

Do you remember that Hitler tried to create the perfect race by selective breeding of humans?

Answer 7

Yeah the K-Feds's

Answer 8

HOW DO U STOP IT?--FORCED STERLIZATION IS AGAINST THE HUMAN RIGHTS HERE IN CANADA. I DON'T KNOW ABOUT THE STATES.

Answer 9

rednecks and retards