I dated this guy for 5 years and lived with him for almost 3 years. Eventually, we got married and 4 months after the wedding, he cheated and I left him. I never thought I would be divorced...and especially at 23! Is that bad?
2006-06-30 09:26:26 · 24 answers · asked by TracieLacy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO!!!! that is not bad , you should NEVER let a man over come you . you are a women and stand by what you believe in , if he cheated on you and ya'll have been together that long then something is wrong with him , it really seems that he never loved you in the first place , you need to leave him and never look back because if you go back after he has done this , the thought of him cheating on you will always be in your mind , it never goes away!!! NEVER , and men now a days dont really understand the meaning of marriage , so leave him alone and move on with your life becasue there will be some man out there that will love you for who you are and not cheat on you and treat you right , so get over him .
2006-06-30 10:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 2⤋
That all depends on how you look at it. Did he cheat before the wedding? If he did, it was probably an irrational move to marry him, feeling how you obviously do about infidelity. If it was after the wedding, and you feel the damage has been done and the relationship is un-salvageable, you are doing the right thing. It doesn't matter if you are 18 or 85, if you think that him cheating hurt too bad and is the absolute end of your marriage, then you are doing the right thing. If you have any doubts about ending it for good, try counseling with him.
2006-06-30 09:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure isn't good. But obviously you have not been on the right track for awhile. Seriously dating at the age of 14 is not a good idea. Where were your parents? Do you mean to say in the 8 years of dating he never "cheated" on you? I find that hard to believe. Hopefully there are no little accidents crawling around, maybe you could get an annulment and start your life over, this time the right way. Get an education, don't shack up, and don't hop in bed with the next guy that walk by.
2006-06-30 09:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad at all. I mean, what would you prefer? Married and living miserably with a cheater, or divorced and able to find a better guy? Divorced is just a status, doesn't state a person's thoughts and feelings, doesn't state their personalities.
I'm so sorry that had to happen to you, but don't worry about being divorced at all... It's just a status. Perhaps someday you'll be married again, you know? It's just a transition between "single", "commited" and "single again".
2006-06-30 09:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by cucajoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It means you didn't really make the right decision when you chose to marry him. However Especially since you were cheated on you were right to leave. Cause even according to Jesus that is ground's for your marriage to be totally annul ed. And you are free to marry again without fear of committing adultery.
What's more is being divorced at 23 just means that you married the wrong person. Don't make the same mistake EVER again. choose more carefully
2006-06-30 09:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by 2Kleen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not Bad, my GF of 7 years just broke up with me...imagine if we got married and had kids and i was 40 and single??? (not the worst thing in the world to all the 40 and single people who read this) But i would be happy he cheated now and not down the road
email me if you wanna talk about it...im 23 too
2006-06-30 11:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by dave g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not bad at all. You can't help that the loser cheated on you. You did the right thing.I am 26 and i have been married for almost 3 months and if i found out that my husband cheated on me i would leave him in a heart beat I would not ask any questions it would be like magic poof I be gone. Just like that.
2006-06-30 09:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 24 and have been divorced for 2 years now. It's just how it happens sometimes. Don't feel bad about it, everyone makes mistakes. We learn how to move on and not dwell on past issues. I'm glad you left him:) Cheating is an awful thing to happen to anyone. I'm sure you will find someone to have a 25th anniversary with. If anyone say's it just awful don't listen to them because they are not and will never be in your shoes!
2006-06-30 09:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Blue_eyed_mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion 23 is too young to be married for most people. It is OK to be divorced - anyone can make a mistake and it's better to make your mistakes when you are young. Don't worry about it - but don't get married again till you are good and sure.
2006-06-30 12:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by Markie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not ok, but sometimes you don't have a choice. Be glad it didn't take you till you were 50 to figure out he's a moron.
My mother in law just divorced my father in law who has been a cheater, gambler and alcoholic for many years. How sad that she never got to be with a man that treated her right. Now it's too late.
2006-06-30 10:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋