I walked out on my ex (with whom I have a son with) 5 years ago to go with another bloke, since then I have split from this man and I am obsessed with my ex again. I get annoyed when I try and ring him and he isn't home. I have asked him back and he said no, not surprising really, but why don't I just move on?
2006-06-30 08:58:56 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We split because he never wanted to spend time with me, just his mates or at work and we hardly ever saw each other even though we lived in the same house.
2006-06-30 09:08:48 · update #1
Letting go isn't easy.
The best thing to do here is to let go of all committments you've had with this ex of yours and begin to learn how to trust yourself again.
Once you've learned how to trust yourself again, give every new person that walks into your life from then on a fair and equal chance at getting to know you as a person and to know your heart once again.
You never know when the next person will enter your life and if that new person is the right one for you.
2006-06-30 09:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Everything in life happens for a reason at the time I am sure it was right for you to leave.. Understandably he was hurt by that.. If will not help to look for reasons why it happened back then or why it cant change now.. It is just the way it is.. When you look at a odd shaped tree you don't thing I wish it was taller or straighter you just except it.. Life is a little like that.. One day it looks wrong and the next you learn to cope.. Its not easy but it can be done with time.. You are upset when he is not in for a simple reason.. Jealous.. This is a powerful emotion which left unchecked can ruin many thing... Think long and hard if you want him back because you cant have him or if you really do care.. If you really do care.. don't show him the side of you that he wont learn to love again.. Find the fun lovely bits and shower him in your good side.. If on the other hand you really are just clutching at it because its unavailable and everyone does it.. Find a new past time.. Hobby, social meeting Any THING to spurr the next part of your life.. I wont take long if you actively look for it Hunny..
:-) KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND BE KIND TO YOURSELF AND HIM.
2006-06-30 09:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I think you are to be blamed if you know that you were in love with this man then why the hell did you go ruinine the relationship for? or may be the other person didn't mean you any so now you expect your ex to just take you back. I think you hit the nail right on the head you are obsessed, take my advoice just give dating someone else a try you don't know you might like it.
2006-06-30 09:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by QUEEN.B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are one in a long line of a-holes. You want to control everyone even though you cant. You are a control freak and a person that is never happy with anything...you my dear are a dime a dozen nowadays....face the facts...you blew it...not only for yourself but you've fucked up your kids life as well....
Guess the grass wasn't really greener bbitch
2006-06-30 09:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its natural for you to revert back to your ex after the other relationship falls apart, thing is he was had plenty of time to get over you. You don really want him, he is someone you are comfortable with. move on, let some time go by and you will soon feel the same way he does.
2006-06-30 09:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you still have feelings for the ex. Your emotional response to his behavior demonstrates you haven't let go - people you have no attachment to cannot elicit emotions in you.
It may be possible you also have control issues in general in your life, listen to others close to you if they complain about similar attempts in your relationship with them.
Just a shot in the dark, are you the kind of girl who absolutely has to have a man in your life, in order for life to be "in order"?
2006-06-30 09:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you still feel he is part of your life. Plus you have a son with this person. I say you need to find someone to spend time with or simply do more with your child, forget about your ex. There is a reason why he is your ex. "EX"
2006-06-30 09:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by angelica v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that you still have feelings for your ex not only but you have a son with him....
the last thing you should do is try to control and pick fights with him b/c he then will really not want to be with you try to be friends with him and maybe little by little everything will work out
if not just try looking for another man that has father qualities that will treat you and your son well
2006-06-30 09:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by nikkig813 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a shrink, sounds like you have some control issues that could possibly get out of hand and push a lot of people away.
2006-06-30 09:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by bkemt6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you have low to no self esteem and are grasping at straws. it's very healthy to stand on your own without needing a companion as you can learn about yourself and love yourself. take a breather from men for a few and get back to center. you'll be much stronger and happier.
2006-06-30 09:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by bbq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋