im married but things arent working out and a past love has popped back into my life, he is the father of my 5 yr old. should i go back, we just decided that time wasnt right at that time and lost touch until now.
2006-06-30 08:47:30 · 14 answers · asked by frog lover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the father of my duaghter and i havent been seperated for 4 yrs, so my daughter doesnt really know her father, hes in the army and gone out of state for the past 4 yrs.
2006-06-30 09:03:50 · update #1
my babies father and were never married.
2006-06-30 09:06:18 · update #2
Do what it takes to be happy
2006-06-30 09:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you to divorce your spouse for someone else. I know what you are going through. I am married and someone from high school (30 years ago) came into my life and wants to get together again. I love my husband, and eventhough we fight, argue and such it is no reason to leave him for the past. If it were ment to be in the past, then it would have been. Maybe you should concentrate on this thought for a while and maybe the past will remain where it belongs.
Now on the other hand... If you spouse is treating you badly (such as beating you) then I would suggest you leave him immediately and seek shelter. After divorcing him on those grounds would I maybe consider the other guy. How is he going to treat you and your child? How does he feel about your child (his too??) ? Please think about what you are doing before you act upon it. I did and I am still with my husband. The other guy has gone on to someone else from high school who also dated him.
Good luck in whatever you choose.
2006-06-30 15:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by iwuzslickb4grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hindsight is 20/20.
Current sight is...married.
Why did you marry this guy? What made you decide that the 'time wasn't right' back then. What makes you think the time is right now?
Think about it....back then the time wasn't right for you, cause things jsut weren 't working out. Now all of a sudden, things are working ou for you with your new husband, and ex pops back up. Sound familiar? What makes you think that 4 years from now, you're going to be 'not working things out' with your ex, wondering why the hell you didn't stay with your current husband and try to work things out.
You flubbed up one marriage, whether it was mutual or not, because you didn't try to work it out then, but think you can now. I'd say you owe it to yourself and your current husband, and your kid, to try and make this marriage work.
2006-06-30 16:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married. You need to work on your marriage before dropping this one for another. Things didn't work out with him before, and now it might. You married your husband for a reason, you wanted to spend the rest of your life with him. What happened to that. Because things aren't the same as in the movies. That's not real, this is real and you need to work and fight for happiness. Now if your husband cheated or beats you, then you should leave and see what this guy has to offer. But if its not like that, then you need to stay with your husband seek counseling if needed and work on your relationship with him instead of this other guy.
2006-06-30 15:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by sweetsugakb24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say NO... But you have to decide that for yourself no one can make that decision but you but let me tell you this...I have done this a NUMBER of times... If it didnt work the first time why is it going to work the second time around? it may but not likely. I didnt figure this out til yrs later but with time and you get older you get wiser and realize how you should have done things different and i know if i was faced with the situation again i would DEFINITELY NOT do it again...
2006-06-30 16:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that it is easy to idealize a past relationship because it seem so much better than the one you are in at the moment. I would make sure your marriage is truly over before you do anything with anyone. I would also take a long look at why you aren't with your past love anymore. There may be more to it than you think.
2006-06-30 15:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a "past love" for a reason. If you're married you should try to work that out first. Don't look for a reason to leave. Find a reason to stay - love.
2006-06-30 15:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by amee2you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what your heart is saying. Did you really love this man? Or are you looking to try and go back and try and find it, when it was never really there? Think long and hard, and go with your heart. You don't want to put your child through a mess. Good luck...
2006-06-30 16:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by Emily :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not beleive that is a good idea. He sould be a father to your child but you should leave the past in the past.
2006-06-30 15:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by dolphin29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u need to re-evaluate ur life.. and your morals.. before you can answer for sure on what to do, u have a child involved that is going through this whirlwind with u.. stop making hasty decisions.. think things through before making things a further mess not only for yourself but for your child..
2006-06-30 16:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is all about taking a chances. only u can decide if u should go back to him. just rember there will be things u do u will regert and there will be things u don't do u will regert
2006-06-30 15:52:06 · answer #11 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋