i cant talk to my mom about anything....every time we have a conversation either she gets mad or i do cuz it's not goin to the way we want it..she treats my sister better..i told her that an she claimed it wasnt true..i want to be able to talk to her about anything..i mean im at the age now where i really could use her advice an stuff..i mean it's not like im goin to talk to my dad about make up, an boy's....i only have two more years with her..then im gone to college...what can i do now so our relationship wont be bad forever?
2006-06-30 08:39:52 · 18 answers · asked by babydoll796444 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
when i talk i dont exactly raise my voice..but i can get mad real easy...an when she doesnt understand then i start to yell..an by that time im ready to jus walk away
2006-06-30 08:56:31 · update #1
Let her know that right now in your life you need a mom and her advice. Tell her that you try not to lose your temper, and ask her why when the two of you are talking and maybe that'll help.
She could also be afraid. You said you want to talk to her about makeup and boys... maybe she won't talk to you about that stuff, because that's a sign that you're growing up, and maybe she's not ready for that yet.
Just do your best to talk to her, and if verbal communication is difficult due to yelling and things like that, maybe you should try writing her a letter, or an email.
The best of luck to you and you're mother. :)
2006-06-30 11:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by i_luv_dogs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the two of you is going to have to realise that your own actions and reactions have consequences. It only takes one. Since you are the one asking, and the one I'm answering, I suggest it be you. You both are too much alike. You are each trying to control the other. There is no conversation happening at all. Bury YOUR hatchet.For starters just react politely EVEN THOUGH YOUR ANGRY! Calm your tone of voice. Follow her logic. If you see something incorrect in her reasoning DON'T POINT IT OUT! Instead just say something like, "Well how would that work if.....". Like you said, you'd like to get along well before you go to college. God forbid she should die while your away without the two of you working this out. Use your head to control your mouth. She will see the difference, and love it and imitate it.
2006-06-30 23:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by euhmerist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to communicate your feelings with your mom and if she still doesn't want to hear anything you have to say just keep doing the right thing eventually she will realize that she isn't being fair. If she doesn't remember that you'll be out of the house soon and your relationship with her will get better after you move out trust me. I was in the same situation and now me and my mom talk everyday.
2006-06-30 14:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by sheknows0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur mom tha way u feel or go out 4 a mom and daughter day and catch up on things or talk 2 another older family member that u r close 2. i wish i could tell u more but iam out of ideas. but i wish u tha best with u and mom stuiation.
2006-06-30 08:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by PERSONALiTY CAPTURES DA HEART 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think precisely a similar way with reference to the guy i like, this is the worst element ever! and whilst he does talk to me, i'm getting so worried and don't understand what to assert. i will in basic terms provide you each and all of the advice this is been given to me; you have basically have been given to choose for it, recover from your rigidity and start up up some chat. Lifes too short, and if no longer something comes out of it, c'est l. a. vie.
2016-11-01 00:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest that you two go out to dinner together or anywhere. When you are alone with her just be blunt and open up and tell her exactly what it is you want to put out there. Maybe she will be easier to talk to under more calm circumstances.
2006-06-30 08:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Nece 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah me and my mom used to be the same way..one day we had a huge fight and she wouldn't even talk to me.. I ended up writing her a note about how i felt and told her that I really needed a mom that i could talk to. then I left it where she could find it...she listens better now, she still dosn't listen all the time but at least she trys..
2006-06-30 09:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by mylifesarollercoaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her exactly what you just said. Maybe she doesnt know that you feel this deeply. I am sure she would love for you to tell her these things. Good luck
2006-06-30 08:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by momma2jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to raise your voice while you speak to her! think before you speak! for example: if you were going to tell your friend that she stinks! dont say:Becky you smell like garbage juice! the polite way to say it is: Becky, i have somethin to tell you that has been bugging me, umm becky you dont smell really good and i am not the only one that notices it either. so, could you please do something about it! what i am trying to say is speak to her with respect (whether you like it or not!) and she will listen and if things dont go your way (so what! you are her child!)! to me, you have an issue with your mouth!
2006-06-30 08:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a hard time talking to my mom... but i found out that if you write to her in a letter or a note its makes it easier! Hope it helps!
2006-06-30 08:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sammi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋