do you believe in marriage?<for youngsters>?

Question

in our days young people dont really wanna get married.but is there any chance at all, that words said and plans made out of love between teenagers (17-18years old), to become true?if they have a realistic plan , and they truly believe in in?(*when i say plan i mean: finish , school , go to colleague, find a job and only then to find an apartment to move in >>last but not least marriage....<<>

Answer 1

Yes, those words can be true, but you need to set goals and make sure you stick to them as best you can. Love is a wonderful thing - but being married means you need to be able to work well with the person you love. They become your partner for life. I met mine when I was your age, and we married in our twenties, so I know it can work. We were good friends first, and then fell in love, and didn't move in together until we married, but we spent many, many hours working on projects and eventually working together in a store and learned that our personalities really meshed well - which rounded out the love we had for each other. My advice:
First, both of you go to college (either 2 yr. or 4 yr. - depending on what you want to do for a living.)
Second, save as much money as you can if your folks are paying your way through college.
Third, work while you are in college and also when you finish college and THEN start making wedding plans. Life is a lot about "getting your ducks in a row". In other words, make reasonable & wise plans, and act on them in the best possible order. If you throw caution to the wind and skip making life plans together and just get married without either of you having advanced training beyond high school, most likely you will live very poorly and will have lots of fights about money that you don't have to pay the bills. The biggest mistake people make is NOT making plans for the future and just "winging it". BIG, BIG, mistake. Best wishes to you!

Answer 2

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I am almost 31 yo and from experience of listening to Friends and experiencing love at 17 and 18 I can say this.... True love happens at the weirdest of times; and for some people it works, but for the majority it doesn't. Out of all of my friends that got married when they were young (early 20's) ended up divorcing or not being happy. This is because they never got to experience what is was like to be a "young adult". When you are a young adult, that is the time where you become who you are and venture out into the world. When you get married at a younger age; you don't experience that freedom; and suddenly you go from being a teenager to an adult within a blink of an eye. Have fun and date and be in love... But, don't rush into things and get married right away. I hope this helps.

Peace
J

Answer 3

I personally believe that if two people love eachother enough, they can marry if they want. I just celebrated my 3 year wedding anniversary two days ago. We got married when I was 18 years old. We have been together since I was 15, and couldn't be any happier. We all know that in todays society, love can get you through alot, but not everything. Having a square head on your shoulders and realistic expectations of eachother is a good start. Know what you want out of life, and if there's room to do all those things you dream of for a spouse, then I say, "Go for it!" Was this any help?

Answer 4

Pretty much in love and sounds like you know exactly what you want to do in life. But marriage is a life long commitment. i suppose it would be OK if you were friends all you life. But I would say to wait and see what else is out there for you guys before you go off and get married. Sometimes in the future like 10 years some one else might catch your eye and then you might cheat, or vice versa with your bf. Its something to really think about. Some times it works out and some times it don't no matter what age you marry, or how long you've been together. Good luck and hope that things work out for you two. I really don't see a problem with you wanting to get married and have thought things through. But what will happen if you get pregnant? yeah there is birth control but it is not 100%, you'll need to add that to your equation.

Answer 5

I do believe in marriage for younger people. I am only 17 and I am about to get married. I am still in school and I have a job right now so that I can go to college.

Answer 6

You are in love, but it is sweet. If you finish school, finish college, find a job and then move in together and are still together then yes you have a shot at making a marriage. You have about 5 years of dating in there before all of that happens, so if you have dated for that long and are still together you will be in good shape.

Answer 7

So when would the marriage take place??? after you find a job?

Usually people finish college at around 22-24... that's a reasonable age to get married

i'm getting married at 24

Answer 8

I'm 18 and Ive been with the same boy since i was 13. I would marry him in a heart beat but we have decided to wait till our 10 year anniversary. I say you should be together for a long time before you decide to stay committed forever regardless of your age. Good Luck!

Answer 9

I think you have so many experiences that you are yet to have that I think your views will change over the years. Its good to have a plan, just make sure to stick with the plans for school and work and hold off on the marriage till you have all that worked out.

Answer 10

Love believe it or not, dose not conquer all. Life has a lot to offer, its not the same experiencing it with a partner and its harder to finish school and move up while married. Intentions are always good in the beginning, but trust me life always gets in the way. I can also say life is to short to not do whatever makes you happy, you love him? go ahead.