My boy friend and I have been dating for 3 years. We moved in together about 6 months of dating and then had a baby, thing have gotten really bad, and we fight all the time and don't agree on anything, I asked him to move out and that we could still date and work on our relationship but not live together. He said that was crazy and if he moves out then we are over and he did not want to talk to me again.... HELP
2006-06-30 08:12:36 · 8 answers · asked by mbg25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe it's time to move on. If he doesn't want to take your suggestions on how to make the relationship work, then maybe he isn't trying hard enough. My relationship w/my daughter's dad got worse after I had her and I really struggled to make it work. After I realized that he wasn't doing anything to make it better, I decided to end it. It was hard and I cried alot. But you know what? I got over that pain. I shudder to think what my life would be like for my daughter and I, if we were still together.
Or maybe after some time apart, you will two will become stronger, or you may realize it would be better to go your separate ways. At any rate don't waste time trying to make things better if he isn't doing the same in return. It doesn't make any sense that he would not talk to you if he moves out. That wouldn't prove anything. He needs to decide if we wants to be a part of our life or not.
2006-06-30 08:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't married you by now, and probably wont. You should not have moved in together, and should have waited for a wedding before having sex. The result is a baby as you are fully aware. The biggest problem you face now is that if you stay together, you and your boy friend fighting around the baby is very unhealthy for the baby. You are actually teaching the baby that fighting is normal and acceptable behavior. It is not, and it is actually a form of abuse for the child. I would like to suggest that you move out, and look for help from a family member. See if your parents will allow you to move in with them so that your child can have some stability in his/her life. You need to rethink the dating scene and you also need to get a ring before having sex with another guy. Don't rush into anything, and don't live with another guy until you have dated and gotten to know each other for a while. I actually recommend that you date for at least 2 yrs before marrying someone, and then after that you will be more apt to have a healthy and successful relationship that will be safe for you and your child.
2006-06-30 08:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try counseling. You guys probably need a third party that can teach you how to get along. You do have a kid so it makes sense to give this a try. If he moves out that will not fix your problems.
2006-06-30 08:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a baby changes everything its the hardest time in the relationship. If you love him try to working out
2006-06-30 08:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by beba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe sitting down and talking about things would be the first thing you would want to do before making such decision...... thats if havnt alreay...... him moving out should be like the last straw..... consittering theres a child involved...... You think about it though you dont want to completely lose him now do..... think about it... GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-06-30 08:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a lawyer. First, restraining order. Second, child support. Get this clown outta there!!!
2006-06-30 08:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by U. N. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is being immature about the situation. Thats how most guys are tho.
2006-06-30 08:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what to tell you.
2006-06-30 08:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋