We spent like all our lives together, we were ok with each others boyfriends, but her new one is horrible!!!! He doesnt like me (dunno y?), he never looks at me, and he get mad at my best freind for being around me! I love my best friend but i hate her boyfreind. Like the other day we went to the park to play basketball and he showed up and they starded making out, so i left. The next day she said she was sorry, and she'll make it up to me by both of us watching movies at her house, just the two of us. in the middle of a scary movie, he started text messeging her and told her to go outside.....and so they met up again (really suxed cuz she promised me) When i got home, i starded crying sooo much, it hurt so bad that that ur best freind, since we were little, could ever forget about you!!!! it really hurt!!!! I still want to be her friend....shes an amazing person but i dunno how to deal with her new boyfriend!!!! (sorry i wrote so much, just had to say it)
2006-06-30 08:06:25 · 9 answers · asked by koo_koo_cupcake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hey sweety, it sucks. i know.ive had two friends that were really close, my one that was like my twin actually hurt not only me but my family also. my grandparents invited her to live with them in havasu because well she didnt have the best parents, and she lived with my grandparents and went to school and work, didnt have to pay rent or food or anything. they treated her just as they would me and when my grampa died, she let her stupid boyfriend come in and sleep in the house and basically live there with her against their wishes. that hurt my gramma like no other. all because her stupid bf pressured her into doing it. people will mess up. i had a best friend since kindergarten be mean to me too. well, i had this boyfriend and she knew him for like a month cuz they had met and what not and then told him some lies about me and then we broke up. but all the while i was at her place "healing" (i wasnt as upset as i thought id be-it was actually a blessing in disguise), she was talking to him. telling him, oh ill call you back cuz i got her over here right now, and blah blah blah. not cuz she liked him, believe me i know that, but just cuz well there really is no good excuse for it. but you know what, ive had so many friends that i thought i could count on and trust. its hard to think anyone could trust anyone nowadays. as for you, sorry im gettin on a tangent.....its bad that she's neglecting you but honey, just keep your distance and once that boyfriend messes up and you know he will because he's not man enough to respect her for being friends with you, she'll be left with whom? she threw away her best friend for a guy. BUT, itll be up to you as to what you do. you could and should be there to just pick up the pieces....because everyone makes mistakes and she's been ur friend since pre-k and unlike my best friend, she didnt hurt you in the same way.....boys are stupid. they come and go, sooner or later she'll realize that.
2006-06-30 08:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by sball124 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel about him. Maybe she'll talk to him about the situation and things will get better. I can tell you this though: You probably don't like him for a reason. That was the case with my bf's ex. I couldn't stand him from the time I laid eyes on him, but I couldn't figure out why. It took almost 2 yrs., but it came out eventually. I just had to learn how to step back and let her be her. That was hard, since we've been friends for over 20 yrs. and I'm only 26, she's 25. But remember never to let a piece of meat come between something as wonderful as having a friend for a lifetime. I almost had to lose mine in order to recognize what a blessing she is in my life. And we've both learned not to let that happen again.
2006-06-30 08:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by Nille 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst mistake a girl can make is by letting a guy come between your friendship. Remember chances are that he will not be in her life for the long haul. Make amends while there is still time and just so you know, you don't have to deal with her boyfriend, just be cordial to him for her sake. Don't put yourself in situations where it will be the three of you, this way you will avoid confrontation with him and you will lessen the strain on your relationship/friendship with her. Men come and go, true friends are forever.
Good luck
2006-06-30 08:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by Shikibeeks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i went through a similar situation except in this story i was the best friend with the boy.....well my best friend didn't like hanging out with me and my boyfriend so she talked to me and we worked out that i wasn't going to change what i like to do for her but id make a limit that i would only go see him 1 time while she was with me......so maybe you can ask her to put him on hold for a few hours just for you....if that don't work then try coming up with something else
2006-06-30 08:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anna G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about that. But it seems your friend does'nt realize that guys can come and go but friends like you stay forever. explain that to her tell her you feel your loosing her maybe she'll realize the effect she's having on you. Good luck.
2006-06-30 08:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the similar problem w/ my best friend.i think u need to sit down and tell her how u feel about her b/f cutting into yalls life...but this thing is going to happen,i never expected it o w/me and my best friend but all thru life there are going to be problems but u have to get thru them no matter how hard they are...this is just one example of ur problems!But most of all i think al 3 of u should sit down and tlk!
2006-06-30 08:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how u feel about her bf tell u r tryed of being pushed around by her u love her and all but u can't take it anymore
2006-06-30 08:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by koumba s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FRIENDS ARE HARD TO COME BY. Let her do her thing do yours always be there for her coz one day he will break her heart
2006-06-30 08:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel and if she cant except it shame on her give her another chance and if she screws you over again shame on you
2006-06-30 08:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋