I have been married for the last six months and i have been able to make climax during sex only twice. My husband has good timing.He holds it upto 15 to 19 minutes but still i cant make it. I can feel the sensation coming in but cant make it happen.Is this normal or do we have any problem?Guys can you help me with a good website but i count on real experirnces!Help i am confused and worried!
2006-06-30 07:52:42 · 8 answers · asked by sana 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I used to have the same problem. It sucked. Badly. I could really enjoy sex and get 'close' but never make it... over. The most intense feelings I got were from direct stimulation of my clit. I could go nuts... moving all around, never being still and just enjoying that. Which is just what you have to do. My guy... did everything he could do... He talked soothingly to me to keep me calm and relaxed... he rubbed the spot, licked; did everything that is possible to stimulate me... He MADE me be still... I had to learn to let the flow of excitement and the orgasm take me... you'll feel it build up and up and up... and then as it feels like its going to take you... just let out the tension.., After learning how to orgasm at all... I used those techniques during only vaginal stimulation and have been able to make it almost every time.
2006-06-30 08:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree... Do not panic. It isn't easy to orgasm sometimes, especially if you are tense and trying so hard to have an orgasm that you forget to actually enjoy the sex. For me, I find that it is all in my head. It's not always about having an orgasm - don't get me wrong, climax is great - but enjoying being with the one you love and who loves you. Get to know your body and what works for you as well as what makes you so excited that sex with your husband makes you feel like you are going to explode. Every woman's body is different and you just have to get to know yours and also your moods. I have to confess that I do not always have an orgasm when we have sex, but I still enjoy it. Then sometimes I have 4 orgasms and he doesn't even have one. I think the most important thing is to keep at it. Your local bookstore may be a good source of information about sexuality. Books such as the Joy of Sex series and some of Dr. Ruth's guides are excellent sources of information and ideas on exploration and positions. Plannedparenthood.org is also a great resource for sexuality information.
2006-06-30 15:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by RiverGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, sometimes it takes you and your partner time to learn each others bodies. I am now 42 yrs old and married 23 years. Took us a while to get it. And it is NOT the important thing in a marriage, HOWEVER it is very much appreciated. I am sorry I can not give you a web site to check out.
Maybe the talksexwithsue.com She has a talk show on cable/dish TV. Very nice lady who knows the body. I think her last name is Johanson or something like that. Might try a web search for her. Hope this helps.
Just don't take any silly pills or potions that people suggest without talking to your Dr first. OK?
2006-06-30 15:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by B. B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, first of all DONT PANIC!! :)
What you are going through happens to lots of women, actually for most women is difficcult to climax only with penetration and they need direct stimulation of the clitoris while their partners penetrate them so i would suggest to use your hand to stimulate it, try oral sex, and lots of foreplay.
Actually, 15 to 19 minutes might just not be enough time for you to get excited enough, 15 minutes is the minimum time for a woman to get to the climax point, and for most of us it takes much longer, so i would suggest you work with your husband to learn and hold it for a longer time.
2006-06-30 15:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. It's said that 80% of women have a hard time with the big "o" with just intercourse. You need clitoral stimulation until you climax, then go for the intercourse. Show your man how you like it done. This will help you be more relaxed about your sexuality.
2006-06-30 15:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. I experienced that too. You are right before the climax.... and then..... nothing happens....
I would say it happens because you "force yourself" to climax.
Try to drink one or two glasses of wine before you sleep with your hubby, then you will be really relaxed and won't think about it. And after some "normal" climaxes, you won't have this "forced to climax - thing" again.
At least, this is what helped me.
2006-06-30 19:58:18 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ sannah ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he gives you oral sex will you climax?some women have trouble reaching climax through penetration.try different positions and dont think about it let it happen if its not on your mind it will happen easier.
2006-06-30 15:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by butchdalton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normal rub your cl*t while he is pumping and don`t stop untill you climax it`ll work.
2006-06-30 14:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by *~*dragonFly*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋