My boyfriend latley made a new addition to our relationship by getting a whining human lap dog named Pete.
And my wonderful boyfriend is greatly attached to this new addition to our happy family. But it's getting very aggrevating and I don't think I can put a smile on my face and look the other way for too much longer.
We don't have the money to go out and do these things.
What do you say? How do you get your boyfirend to TAME the leech thats SUCKING???
Theres something a couple needs, alone time. Im sick of coming home only to find I can walk around the house naked because of Peter. I can't watch a movie, argue with my boyfriend, or just take a night to relax. Im getting sick of it.
Now hes offering his boyfriend a job where he works... and drive him to and from there... and just christ ya know?
How do you get your bf to tame his lapdog, or realize the whole thing is freaking creepy. I mean leave for the wknd and have 4 messages from the boyfriend creepy.
2006-06-30 07:49:22 · 6 answers · asked by Poestalker 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NOT a boyfriend, a bestfriend
2006-06-30 07:57:55 · update #1
Pete is after your husband...big time. You know it and I know it. That your husband is falling for it says a lot about your husband. I have only your side of the story, but....your husband is a closet case, OR has already come out of the closet with Pete. No straight man is going to allow another man to come between him and his wife. I am not a basher, I am not prejudiced...IN FACT, I AM GAY! Trust me, there is nothing good that will come of this for you. You may already have lost your husband. Now is the time to find out. If so, be prepared to divorce and find yourself someone who puts you before his friend(s). And for everyone's sake, do it nicely. Your husband, if he has come out, didn't expect this to happen...he is as much a victim here as anyone, but it is just the lay of the land. You CAN maintain friendship through all of this, even with both of them. IT really is not necessarily Pete's fault either...some things are bigger than the whole, and this just may be one of them. In this perspective, it is not really creepy, just how things are. I would seriously talk to my husband, and IF Pete is always around, I would talk to them both! I would tell them what you suspect, that if this is the lay of the land, all of you get on with your lives in whatever form it is going to be. The threesome you describe seems NOT to suit your taste. So, do something about it. Be warned...you may not like the outcome, but ... it is out of everyone's control at this point. The best of luck to you...if you need more info, you can email me.
2006-06-30 07:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your are jealous that you are not getting all the attention, I agree with you, dude needs to give you some privacy. At least he didn't move in with you, my ex-h gave his "buddy" a key to the house and he moved in!! Once he almost got me naked! I hit the roof then and gave him an ultimatum, but of course, the circumstances are different.
This is my advice. Talk to PETE! In a VERY NICE calm manner and with the biggest smile on your face, tell him that you would appretiate if he would give you guys some privacy to get it on! Smile and blink playfully. You'll see how the guy will probally be nice about it and leave. That way, you don't have to fight with your boyfriend or make a scene. You get more bees with sugar than honey, be smart and play your cards well! Good luck
2006-06-30 08:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"greatly attached"...humm; maybe he's more attached than you think; like sexually. Put an end to the nonsense. Are you paying part of the bills? If so, tell bf to ask Peter to leave or you will. Tell the bf if he prefers Peter's company to yours, he can take a hike. Something is fishy here, honey.
2006-06-30 08:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be creative. Put yourself in a position where this guy can come on to you. Use body language, etc. to encourage him to think it would be successful... all without you actually crossing the line of coming on to him.
When the guy does make the play, which he will, slap him down and tell your boyfriend.
2006-06-30 08:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by antirion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask hime if he has notice the change in the relationship since he came along
2006-06-30 08:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by BlueRoseWinter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats gross. your boyfriend has a boyfriend and u are still his girlfriend? get one too I suppose.
2006-06-30 07:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by kathleen c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋