Is this a good plan for my girlfriend, age 15, that is pregnant and our soon to be born child?

Question

Right now I have a job and I plan to keep my job all the way and either drop out of school or go to home school so I only go to school one day out of the week and only for 1 or 2 hours while my girl friend goes to regular school... My Girlfriend and I live together now and are gonna stay living together for our son or daughter... I am gonna support my girlfriend and our child no matter how hard it is so no one can stop me and say give it to adoption I will love my child to much to do that... Im only 16 but im willing to take the responsibilitys for our actions... but is this a good idea if not give me a couple of pointers and dont say give it up for adoption or abort the baby.... Please critisice my idea and give me a couple of pointers........

Answer 1

If you guys really love your child and eachothe and want to be responsible then take the time to carefully screen adoptive parents and although it will be the hardest thing you ever do , give your baby the life he/she deserves rather than one with teen parents who are strugging day to day to survive. Sometimes adoption is the most unselfish , loving thing a parent can do for his/her child.

Answer 2

That sounds like a hard, but good plan. The only thing that will come back to haunt you is the schooling part. You should definitely both finish high school. You should check out online schooling. That way you can do it whenever you have time and get ahead in your school work so that you can work at your job. She should probably also look into this since she'll probably have to be home with the baby during the day instead of at school, unless you already have made arrangements for the baby during the day. I wish you luck and you guys will be in my prayers!

Answer 3

Maybe you should both homeschool. It's a great idea..you could (if you wanted to) get two jobs because you'd have time if you were homeschooled and that way you could have alot of extra money just in case. (I was homeschooled, it only took a couple of hours a day). Anyway, even though I'm tired of all these teenage pregnancies, at least some of them are happening to people like you who seem to be a little responsible. Just make sure you're always there for the baby and your girlfriend...thats the best advice anyone can give.

Answer 4

Good luck. You are going to have a hard life. Being together now at such a young age it probably wont work out in the long run. I cant imagine being stuck to any guys i knew when i was 15, 16 and 17. Better to give the baby up for adoption and have a normal fun life.

Answer 5

ok nicely i'm sorry you have human beings condoning you for what you have completed. no rely if or no longer they trust the area they do no longer seem to be helping so i'm sorry. being pregnant at 15 is a little greater complicated then say a woman in her previous due 20s or early 30s. Her physique will nonetheless be coming up so there are particular factors to a teenage being pregnant that may no longer happen in customary pregnancys. - an larger possibility of a untimely start. - the potential of an underweight toddler, that should added mean progression issues of the toddler. those toddlers also have a some distance better mortality fee. - larger possibility of severe blood rigidity for the mummy, that should mean issues on the start and yet another blood circumstance - anaemia, that's a diminished point of iron interior the blood. i do no longer think of you need to get married. - you're nonetheless youthful. - you won't be in love together with her. - how are you going to help your spouse and toddler? - many unmmarried mum and dad have raised surprising toddlers. - you're nonetheless maturing and you won't be a similar human beings you at the instant are in 5/10 years time. its greater easy just to chop up up, than to break up. - you shouldnt be forced via your loved ones. reliable luck.

Answer 6

I don't hear any parental support here. It doesn't sound as though there is a responsible adult in your life. If you are sixteen and she is fifteen, who is supporting you two children. Dropping out of school is not the answer. Maybe night school. Homeschool suggests a responsible adult to supervise you. You don't have that in your life. (Obviously)

I commend you on wanting to take responsibility and think that you should. It will be hard as hell. You will give in to what others are saying really soon. Stay the course. This may make a man out of you yet. E-mail me if you need more help.

Answer 7

I've seen people do it, but my best advice is stay in school. Also accept help, don't turn people away. Alot of young parents try too hard to "make it on their own", and in reality it takes a village to raise a child, even in America. Accept help, and do not be afraid to ask for it, in fact embrace it. Sign up for financial aid if you think you will need it, medicare, and welfare. WIC is also a good option. Also children learn vital things when they are young from their parents, read to your kids, and make sure you help them see what is right and wrong early. Afterall I've never stolen anything from a store because when I was six my mother made me return a chapstick that I had taken, it still sticks in my mind as one of my scariest and vivid memories. Good luck, but don't worry, life will still only come a day at a time, even though it may seem tough sometimes all the hard times will pass. As Bob Marley said "Everything's gonna be alright..." and trust me, everything will be just fine.

ps. take lots of pictures. One thing you will never regret, because it may be hard but this will be one of the best times of your life when you look back, children are amazing blessings.

God Bless!

Answer 8

Hey, its pretty hard. But you are doing the right thing. Think of this in America you are too young and in other countries , you ARENT. Somehow they mange to have alot of kids and care for each one. Becuase they ar about the love they have for thier children and mate. That is whhat is going to keep you rolling. My best thing to say for you, is that to in planning is to look at your options for a job, you are legal and you can get a decent wage. I am a nanny, I find the job to be rewarding and good for wanting to get skills with children. You still got friends! and as real friends they should support you. even some family, baby showers help for the begininng. Stay strong, a baby will change your relationship with your girlfriend some. It can be good or bad. But you'll learn if you love her that much. Good luck!

Answer 9

I THINK IT'S A VERY GOOD IDEA.. YOUR G/F IS LUCKY TO HAVE SOMEONE LIKE U.. YOU SEEM LIKE YOU ARE GOING TO BE A GREAT FATHER.. JUST DON'T DROP OUT GO TO HOME SCHOOL OR SOMETHING. DO NOT ABORT OR PUT UP FOR ADOPTION NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS.. YALL MITE BE YOUNG BUT NOW DAYS EVERYONE HAS KIDS VERY YOUNG.. GOOD LUCK ON THE NEW BABY.. THEY ARE VERY FUN AND THEY CAN ALSO MAKE YOU TIRED. BUT JUST BE A GOOD FATHER AND KEEP YOUR JOB AND EVERYTHING WILL BE OK...

Answer 10

First off, kudos to you for stepping up to take care of your responisbility and taking charge of your actions. I dont believe dropping out of school would be a good idea, because the idea of parenting is to go to school, be as educated as we can be, to provide the best future for our children. If you only graduate high school it will do you a world of good. Alot of jobs require at minimum a diploma for employment.

If you're living with one of your parents, that may be easier to do, however there is nothing easy with parenting except the sex part to make the baby. (haha) But in all seriousness, its amazing to see a boy at your age stepping up for his responsibility.

Congratulations on the baby and may you both be the best parents possible!