Mine did not. We have a gorgeous 3 month old, and I still cry because even though I know he loves her, I watch all these shows like "the baby show" and "bringing home baby" and all the men ball their eyes out at the joy of having a new life, a new son or daughter born and healthy...or struggling to make it in the NICU. It's all a blessing of life. My man is so loving and sweet, i just wanted him to show that emotion when I was in delivery of our daughter. It has hurt me so bad, I never want to have another child with him again because I feel so unappreciated and like he just was "there". yes, I am jealous of all you whose men balled like babies in the delivery room. I wish mine did. You women are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO lucky. I cry everyday watching the baby show seeing all those big macho men cry when they see their newborns for the first time. I just want to melt away to another galaxy to ease my pain, with my baby, since daddy doesn't appreciate his blessings.
2006-06-30 07:42:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My husband didn't cry but he had a smile from ear to ear ( for DAYS!!!) when both my boys were born.
2006-06-30 08:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jess F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that men don't appreciate their children as blessings, it's just that they're put together differently. My husband cried at the birth of our first daughter, but not at the birth of our second. My daughters are 7 & 17 months & I still cry when I see babies being born or shows where children are hurt. Men don't have the hormones that we do & are just NOT emotional creatures. So, don't be too hard on your guy. Besides, alot of what you're experiencing is due to post partum stuff. Take it from me - it'll take a good 6 months before the emotions & water works even start to calm down a little!
2006-06-30 08:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by Beanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how your man was raised. Many boys are raised to think that it is unacceptable to cry for any reason. Some men also just don't know how to show their emotions, even if they are feeling them full force. It's not entirely their fault, society has conditioned them to feel that way a lot of times.
My mom said that when she was having me my dad was bawling his eyes out even before I was actually born... and that it really kinda irritated her cuz he was crying and she was the one screaming in pain. But my stepdad, on the other hand, is like your man in that he showed absolutely no emotion when my little sister was born. Everyone is different. Congratulations on your beautiful baby though, my friend recently had a little girl as well.
2006-06-30 07:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine did not. I know for a fact that he is a loving person and loves me and our children very much, but he just doesn't cry. So please don't feel bad. I'm sure its not that he didn't feel the overwhelming joy on that special day, he just may not cry just like my husband. Maybe he had too many things running through his head to even give himself a chance to cry. And have you talked to him about it? I know from experience that if something is bothering you, its best to talk about it with him. He is the most important person in your life besides that child and you need to make sure you guys both know how each other feel. Don't base how you think he feels on whether he cried or not. Plus, on TV, they want to show you all the daddy's crying, b/c they want to get you to watch and get that feeling while you are watching. They don't show all the daddy's who don't cry, its not as good for reviews.
2006-06-30 08:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband got sick when our daughter was born and he yelled out that she was a boy. He mistook the cord as a penis he was so embarrassed, but I think he did cry later on when it was just the three of us in the room. Don't let it bother you that your man did not it doesn't mean he doesn't love you our the baby, but maybe it is hard for him to show emotion. As long as he treats you guys good, and you know he loves you both don't sweat it. Not everyone's life is like a TV Show.
2006-06-30 07:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you wanted that TLC moment, but sweetie, nothing is TV perfect. Here's what happened to me. I gave birth. Was exhausted and feeling weird. My husband broke down crying was holding me and telling me how much he loved me. Cue the music, right? No. I tried so hard to listen to him. Instead I had to interrupt him and say urgently with what little energy I had left, "I love you. I need the throw up pan." And then puke! Yup. So, sweetie. You say you have a loving and sweet man. Appreciate YOUR blessing. And you may want to talk to your doctor. If you are crying over this, you may have some postpartum depression issues. Hormones do wacky things to us. Take care.
2006-06-30 17:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by MamaAmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first my husband was on the cold , insensitive side the entire pregnancy then as soon as the doc held up my son and said " Look what we have here!" my husband started crying. My son was born on a Saturday and I swear my big , tough husband broke into tears over everything to do with our baby through the following tuesday.
We have 2 more and he cried in delivery but managed to control himself after that.
2006-06-30 07:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ended up with an emergency c-sec and my hubby was so sleep deprived that i don't think he did but he did later that day when he held her. she's 2 1/2 now and sometimes when she's sleeping he'll hold her in his arms like a baby, stroke her hair and cry and tell her how much he loves her and how she's such a big girl now.
2006-06-30 07:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by Brandie C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he didn't cry doesn't mean he's not happy and he doesn't love you and your baby. Life for him (as it is for you) is totally different now. Major changes have occurred, and men just deal with stuff like this differently than women do (most of the time).
2006-06-30 14:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether he cried or not has nothing to do with how much he appreciates you or the baby, just how emotional he is or how he shows his emotions. A lot of men just don't like to show emotion like that. Try to think of the good things about him, like if he is a good father and partner. Is he showing his love and appreciation in other ways?
2006-06-30 07:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by Concerned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋