i know this guy for 4 months now...he's been good to me.we were friends but suddenly he started showing signs that he liked me...i asked him strightaway why he was acting like this and he said he liked me....i cleared the matter that we are only friends.... and we then were ok...but suddenly for a month or so he is not responding to me....wat is wrong...did i do something wrong
2006-06-30 07:40:22 · 14 answers · asked by koolgal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, you didn't do anything wrong. But you may have done something he didn't like - that's his problem. If you can't get him to talk to you, see if you have a friend (guy or gal) who can get out of him what he wants from you. If he wants more from you than friends, he is very likely uneasy to show it - it's a risk to show feelings, a risk of rejection or invalidation (sorry for the big word but it is the correct one).
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Try to not worry what he wants or why he is unresponsive - there are plenty other guys who can show feelings or be a decent friend and appreciate your friendship. Me, for one - just ask all my woman friends. Maybe you need to figure out just what you want from a guy (or this one in particular). Life is a mystery, the opposite sex even more so. See if you find any other useful advice in my other answers.
Best of luck!
2006-07-05 05:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by im_a_fun_nut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you didnt do anything wrong. You told him the truth, and it was not a truth that he wanted to hear. Be proud that you spoke the truth, and understand that we cant always make everyone happy in life. He will learn to get beyond this and will eventually grow from the experience. He may also be hoping that by acting the way he is acting that you will change your mind. Don't. This behavior is a form of control, and if you give him control over your life, you will eventually resent him because of the things that he might want later in life.
2006-06-30 07:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate that a lot of guys aren't happy with being "just friends." They simply want more. There could be lots of reasons for this...a general need for mothering; a need to prove themselves to their guy friends; sexual release; they may be on a power trip. Some just don't know what it means to be "just friends."
I expect that after you told your male friend you were only friends, he hung on for awhile hoping you would give him more, and when you didn't, he's gone searching elsewhere. Don't give up hope though. One day he may see the light, and realize that you are a real friend. Good Luck.
2006-06-30 07:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by nifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did do something wrong, but you didn't
grils have a way of being nice to guys.. because MAYBE they like hanging out with guys.. GUYS on the other hand.. when they see a girl that is nice to them.. they take it as flirting, and the fact that you hang out on more than one occasion.. makes him think it more..
guys tend to be like girls.. depending on what type of guy he is.. some are overbearing.. over emotional. under emotional.. mean.. some just tend to take things harder when faced straight on.. and I guess that's why people don't understand why girls like having guys as JUST FRIENDS... the world we live in and the people who fill it.. make it difficult to just have a relationship that is based on being friends...
if anything you should ask him why he won't talk to you.. most cases they will be surprised that you just faced them head on with the obvious question.. he will either shy away or tell you flat out//
2006-06-30 07:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by duhblondeone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably really hurt his feelings and that he was just trying not to loose you for the time between when you told him you were just friends untill he couldn't handle being so close to you with no prospect of hope that maybe he would date you. if this is the case the distance between you two is good for him. if you can't handle the separation then you should think about how you feel for him. if you are trully just friends then respect his space.
2006-06-30 07:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by Butterfly Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that this guy isnt over you. I think that he didnt want to be just friends. After a month, i guess he realized that he couldnt do it anymore and fears he'll do something that might damage the friendship so hes choosing not to talk to you.
2006-06-30 07:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by daydreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are usually friends with you with the hope something more will delevop. Since it is clear nothing will...he has stopped wasting his time and moved on.
2006-06-30 07:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you did nothing wrong you liked him as a friend but he could not accept that and wanted to become more than friends
2006-06-30 07:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Sexy Business ;) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants some goodies for a change, try for cheek cousin Paul, he likes you. Do not go for sex until march 2008 (I feel it). Bye.
2006-06-30 07:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by Manny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just over reacting and looking too far into it. I am sure there is a logical explanation for his disappearance. He might just be busy.
2006-06-30 07:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by mandyunknown1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋