So I'm in love with my best friend and I'm considering (POSSIBLY) telling him how I feel. But I don't want to scare him away by saying "I love you" even though that's how I truly feel. What do I say? And give me a reason why I should say that, please. Thank you so, so much.
2006-06-30 07:20:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you should not say that so soon just try knowing it first if he loves u or not. if he is then give him a chance to tell u he loves u. u can let him feel u too love him and then it will be easier for u if he himself says he loves u. all the best. u know when i say someone good luck it always works i m sure it will work for u too.
2006-06-30 07:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by p-s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're approaching this the wrong way. You'd be taking a huge risk you don't need to take. This guy's your friend. He likes you as a person. He cares for you as a friend. He enjoys spending time with you, sharing with you, being with you... all without the goal of romance and sex. (Trust me, he's thought about it. It crosses the mind of every guy on the planet.) You've got something pretty special here. If you tell him you love him then you are, in effect, offering him your love. If he doesn't accept, you risk rejection... and losing your friendship. The trick is letting him know what you have to offer, without offering anything. Without the offer, there's no chance of rejection.
He sees you as a friend. If you want him to see you as a woman, invite him to look. As a woman you have a heart, a mind and a body, all of which can attract a man. If you want him to see, show him. Let him know there is a heart inside your breast, a mind behind your eyes and a body beneath your clothes. Let him see just how wonderful those things could be if you chose to share them with him. Let him know what you have to offer without actually offering.
Show him your heart. Your capacity to love. Your compassion, your courage, your strength.
Show him your mind. Your thoughts, your judgement, your ideas, hopes and dreams.
Show him your body. (That doesn't mean getting naked). There are parts of you that are specifically designed to attract a man's attention. That's what the word "attractive" means. Dress to enhance them, to accentuate, to draw his attention there.
Touch is a powerful tool. Touch the guy. Lay your hand on his shoulder when you say thank you. When you lean over to whisper something in his ear, let him feel your breast against his arm. Give him a hug. Let him understand how good it could feel to have your body pressed next to his. Let him know you're comfortable with touching, and being touched. That's what your body's for.
If you do this, he will see you as a woman. If what he sees is attractive to him he'll respond as a man. You'll have both a best friend and a lover. If not... well, he's just not attracted by what you have to offer. But at least you don't suffer direct rejection, and you keep your friend.
2006-06-30 07:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say ""Best Friend" I have developed strong feelings for you. You have been my best friend for a long time and I think we should take it to the next level. If you don't agree, that's fine, but I wanted to be honest. If you don't feel the same way, just forget I said anything and we will go on with our lives the way we have in the past."
2006-06-30 07:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him and open with him about how you feel. Then find out how that makes him feel and ask him to be totally honest and open with you. Then you know you can move on if he doens't feel the same or you can have a chance with him if he does. Just tell him the truth.
2006-06-30 07:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen to what the first peep said. Tell him. It won't scare him, trust me.
Shy guys may never take initiative, sorry Amanda S.
2006-06-30 07:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by eddeshun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would not tell him that u love him right now , but i would till him i felt about him , and then later if everything doing ok i would tell him that i love him because u do not want to move to fast
2006-06-30 07:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited for my man to say it first. I always thought that it seemed desparate if the woman said it first. But that does not mean that it is true. Honestly, I think that you should wait for him to say it first.
2006-06-30 07:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU SHOULD GO UP AND TELL HIM THAT YOU DON'T WANT THIS FRIENDSHIP TO END SO TELL HIM THAT YOU HAD A CRUSH ON HIM FOR A WHILE NOW AND YOU WANT THINGS TO GO A LITTLE BIT FORWARD THAN WHAT IT IS NOW AND TELL HIM HOW MUCH HE MEAN TO YOU.
2006-06-30 07:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Eboni W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just face him and tell him straight up.If he gets pissed then it wasnt really meant to be because is must be a homo or just drop to your knees and say it as your mouth is full,he will understand and love it !
2006-06-30 07:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by bret_bartley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-30 07:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by nedwons32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋