would you forgive your man if he told you??

Question

that he was gay b-4 and had lots of relationships with men???and why would you forgive him if you did??

no plez i was just asking that question,lol my husband isnt gay!!!BUT THANKS FOR CARING ... THATS SO FUNNY I CANT WAIT TO SHOW HIM THIS LOL

Answer 1

i wouldnt! cuz thats just plain nasty!!! ewwwwwwww

Answer 2

People don't change from gay to straight...you're one or the other...if he was gay, then he still IS gay...so why is he with you? If he's not gay now, then he never was...

What's to forgive though? Being gay isn't a crime or a bad thing. Someone's sexual past, whether he had sex with a lot of men or a lot of women, has nothing to do with your present relationship...so what's to forgive?

What he did in the past, had nothing to do with you...he doesn't need your forgiveness nor should you feel that he owes you an apology. It's what happens while the two of you are together, that matters.

Answer 3

Wait a sec....gay before? Before what? He met you? Maybe you're his cover up. I don't understand how somebody could be gay in the past, but not now. I don't think I would forgive him because I would be A) embarrassed that some people may have known I was dating a gay guy unknowingly B) angry at him for keeping such a big secret for so long and C) I would think that if he was gay before, he must still be somewhat gay. (actually the last one's not a reason for not forgiving, but just a reason to REALLY think about being with him).

Answer 4

It depends on what your beliefs are. How long have you been with this guy? Shouldnt he have been honest and up front with you from the get go if he really cares about you. Are you sure that he isnt still interested in guys. Like any relationship, when someone is cheating there are so many risks involved. Think about this really hard. There should have been no lies from the get go. Can you move on and let go of the past? If not leave him, your relationship will never work.


P. S.

As anyone who has had several partners get yourself tested.

P

Answer 5

You've got yourself and eccentric one there. See heres the thing, im not sure why you "forgive" someone for that, it's the way he is. If you feel you need to "forgive" him, your definatley not built for one another.

Heres the true catch in this story. As a womyn we are obligated to feel jealous almost everyday, it's built into our minds and it isn't something that we can ignore. Knowing your man, who could very well be the future for the rest of your life is attracted to the same sex, can you handle this? Imagine, when he goes out with his best friend, will you wonder if hes cheating on you?

When he has his bachelor party, whos exactly going to be turning him on? When he reaches his mid-life crisis, will this issue rise again? Will he find your brothers, or cousins attractive?

If you can handle worrying about womyn and your man, are you sure you can deal with that x2??

Most can't. Thats why when you go gay, you normally don't go back.

Answer 6

no...i value my life and my own personal morals and beliefs wayyyyyyyyyyy too much....

he has the possible chance of giving you AIDS right now...i would not forgive ANY man, regardless of how fine he looked, how nice he was etc.....if he shortened MY LIFE SPAN AND PREVENTED ME FROM HAVING CHILDREN by giving me AIDS simply because he didnt tell you from the get go that he was bisexual

theres not enough forgiveness in the world if I took a test and found out I got AIDS from my Bi sexual boyfriend.....you just dont go cold turkey like that...he probably still swinging on both sides and then coming home and snuggling and sleeping with YOU afterwards.....

but hey if you like the fact that you could possibly have aids or get aids from him then thats your choice, your life, your death sentence....you dont know how many men the men your boyfriend slept with, slept with.....and not everybody wears condoms......

so no i wouldnt forgive him...i would slap him silly and get an AIDS test and if I tested positive..well lets just leave it at that...

I sincerely hope you used condoms with him..its not 100% protection but its a whole lot better than none.....

Answer 7

That's a hard question. I don't know. I would like to think that I could forgive him. But, then I would feel like I was his cover up for his secret life or something. Or worse he could continue his gay lifestyle and not call that cheating or he could endanger me by bringing home a std. Hard question. But what I do know is that I would be pissed!

Answer 8

Sure I would forgive him...but he would NOT be my man anymore. Get tested for everything esp. HIV. Look he is Gay, and I doubt he was being safe out there, and you both probably weren't being safe together. I hope this has been a learning lesson for you and not a tragedy.

Answer 9

Gay before? What does that even mean?
It's one thing if he comes out to you....you can find something to forgive in that...because he's coming to terms with himself. What I find perplexing is....if he was "gay before", what's to stop him from going back?

But you know every situation's different, but this would be a tremendous opportunity to get some real dialogue going. make sure all your questions are answered, andmore importantly, make sure they make sense to you.

Answer 10

You can't undo the gay. If a guy f*cks another guy, he is gay forever. Nothing to forgive though, so what if he likes the sausage? He likes you now, so what is the problem?

Answer 11

I might be hurt that he didn't inform me earlier in our relationship.
But I'd forgive him, because he might want to leave this in his past, and would feel I might reject him. But if he has really changed around his life and is making me happy what the heck, I'd forgive him. I'd make sure we get tested and every thing is OK.