Why did I make these choices in life?

Question

I wonder. Many teens realize having a child at their age would be an irresponsible thing to do, and that they are not ready for it.
Why do some young adults, not think and prioritize their life and realize these things.
I think it depends on how supportive your guardians/parents were and how much they accept you and your individuality.
But I'm not sure.
I'm a smart person who makes most of my decisions rationally, some out of emotion, and I realize that some people tend to "have it together", and some don't.
Why is that? Why did I have children at 22 and 24 years of age?
And now I feel as if I should've wiated, like they are?

FYI, During my teen years, I was rebellious, running away from my unloving, unnurturing, strict Muslim home, born in America.
I love my family but I never felt like I could open up, be close to them. They were never, I mean never involved in my interests at any time.

Answer 1

I would first start off saying that even though you made these decisions in your life long ago, you still have plenty of time to move ahead and live life to the fullest and make the decisions you deem correct. Another thing is that everything always seem easy in hindsight. Now for the meat: Being a teenager is a unique time for many ppl. These are the ages where curiousity, social conscienceness comes, and responsibility (for self and society) is developed. However, input is a great determinign factor to these things. External entities such as family, school, work, and friends, even society at large, mold how teenagers tackle these issues and how well they develop. When teenagers act on emotion (which most them do), they don't take into account what consequences will result from their actions. That's something that comes with maturity and a nurturing environment. It's good that you provide that for your children. Just remember, always be there for them, and always do your best to make them understand that what you do, you do for them and their best interest and if they choose to do the opposite, just be there for them (even if you choose not to tell them so...)

Answer 2

The choices you make are based on the tendencies that you have had since birth. Your ability to look at yourself and ask questions about why you do things is the most valuable tendency that you can have. The ability to honestly and sincerely question why you do things will lead to great progression in your personal life because you are not afraid to get to know yourself. By looking at the world you can easily see how many people do not do any introspection because they are most likely afraid of what they may or may not find. Honesty and sincerity with yourself is the most important thing you can do. By asking the question you have done here shows that you are a person who wants to learn and grow and are not afraid to do it.
With personal growth comes the best kind of trust and stability which is: Trust in yourself and Stability with yourself.
Don't ever be afraid to question yourself BUT also don't be afraid to trust yourself.

Answer 3

that's the way it should have been, and if u dont see the reasons now, eventually u will. everything happens 4 a reason. and u should think of ur children, who need ur love in its max. what sort of persons will they become if they grow up with a feeling that THEY are a cause of thieir mum not taking the best of life?

Answer 4

What is the point of these regrets? Don't you love your children? Things are different now than they were when you made those decisions. Don't look back and have regrets. It's a waste of time.

Answer 5

Your children chose to come to you. They are gifts of God, cherish them. Everything happens for the best. Forget about how you could have done things differently, forget the past. Live in the moment, live from day to day, be grateful for all you have and you will be happy. *Hugs*

Answer 6

I think everyone thinks their family is crazy. You gotta love em'. Although my sisters and I are all grown and out of the house, we still try to kill each other once in a while. Its all in good fun though right?

Answer 7

Well having children so early wasn't the best move but at least you waited that long! Maybe your rebellious spirit just never died. but it doesn't mean that you don't have it together.

Answer 8

things just happen, its best to ook at the positive side of it if youre unsure, think of the beautiful gifts youve been given even if you did want to wait...sometimes you can't help what happens and its best not to regret, im sure one day you'll be very proud you had your children...i know my mom was glad she had me...

Answer 9

I'm sure it all seemed like a good idea at the time.

Answer 10

can't change the past, so trust me, worrying about it will make it worse, so just don't waste your time and your energy put that energy into your children.