My 5 month old daughter LOVES to be "tossed" in the air, or spun around...she giggles her cute little butt off. BUT my mother-in-law has a COW when i do it, not that she is scared i'll drop her,(so she says), but she says ill "make her nervous and scared"... its not like this is my first time as a parent! i have a 10yr old, and an 8yr old (both boys)..its not like im throwing her 10 feet in the air, or spining a hundred miles per hour...so What is my mother-in-law's problem?
2006-06-30 07:09:25 · 14 answers · asked by ? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
people...im not "throwing her up in the air and taking my hands off her...im just holding her up there...**hard to explain** the toss without air thing.....and we spin together!! with her body next to mine, my hand on her head and back...not by the arms...legs all over the place! gezz.
2006-06-30 12:01:14 · update #1
I can see both sides of this story...I used to do the same thing, and most kids do like it; however, you should be aware that this can cause the same symptoms as "shaken baby syndrome". At 5 months, your daughter's neck and spine aren't all that strong yet. I am not lecturing you, just a reminder that even though she may love it, you can really cause some serious damage.
2006-06-30 07:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by funrdhdpeach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is worried and is trying to get you to stop. She loves her granddaughter and probably feels nervous about what you are doing. I haven't seen what you are doing, but 5 months sounds awfully young to be "tossed" and "spun" unless you are giving her spine and neck a lot of support. Perhaps she is also feeling a little more protective since she is a girl--you mentioned you have 2 boys.
If I were you I wouldn't do this around mom-in-law, and just be sure that you are careful to protect her head, neck, and spine. Debilitating accidents can happen so quickly and without intention.
2006-06-30 07:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by warehaus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She (your little girl) sounds a little young for such play unless you are supporting her head and neck. You mom in law is just worried (most are because that is part of their job) Remember she loves you both and only wants the best for everyone. If you want to put her nerves at rest talk to the baby's doctor about it and have him/her put it in writing that the baby is fine. All grandparents and some aunts and uncles do this. Remember it is all out of love.
2006-06-30 08:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by a1cat.rm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom did the same thing...she would shriek at me to stop. Not that I was being rough or anything, and there was no danger of dropping her. The concern here is that shaking her around, tossing her, flipping her (even though it's gentle) could damage her brain.
2006-06-30 14:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ignore your mother in law - my daughter loved the same kinds of things -she is two now and spins herself around and jumps around. As long as your careful and your daughter is laughing - she is fine. We all know when babies are scared, nervous, unhappy, etc. They have a way of telling us that loud and clear ;)
Tell the mil that you appreciate her concern, but you and your daughter enjoy playing this way and it is your decision as a parent.
2006-06-30 07:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows. all mother in laws like to put there two cents in just ignore her and do what u feel comfortable with i do the same with my 7 month old son
2006-06-30 08:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well listen my husband was doing the same with my daughter infront of her doctor and the DR got mad at him and said plz stop thats not good for her brain development. older people know this things.dont get mad at her cause she is worried about ur baby thats normal. tell her that u used to do the same with all of ur kids and nothing happend.good luck
2006-06-30 07:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by sasa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um. i know your daughter likes it, alot of kids do. but it does look a little scary to see an infant flying up in the air.
Give your mother-in-law a break.
2006-06-30 07:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called over-protective grandparenting. Most of the time, the grandparents become extremely protective of their grandchildren. I think it's because they can no longer have children so when their children have children they live through them vicariously. She is jealous and over-protective. I'd tell her that YOU are the baby's mother, not HER, and you will play with your child however you please and that she needs to mind her own business.
2006-06-30 07:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by i_hate_subway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her problem is she is your mother in law and needs to but out. Tell her it is a miracle any of your children have survived with out her help but all the same keep her opinions to herself.
2006-06-30 07:14:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋