I Think I'm in love with my best friend.?

Question

im in love with my best friend and he knows i love him and he knows i like him more then as just bestfriends but i don't think that he knows i love him as more than just a bestfriend. and it's not helping that everyone agrees that we should hook up. at first before i found out i really liked him we went out. then since we didn't know each other that well,we broke it off mutually. and you know how you would go out with anyone just to forget about someone you really care about?that's what he's doing. i can tell.four girlfriends in a 3 month period after we went out?
but i think that him loving me as more than a brotherly affection is unknown to him..so he either doesn't know it yet or he does know it and he's afraid but still wants to stay as close as possible.we talk constantly. pretty much all day long. how can i let him reveal without being so blunt and obvious. when i told him that we shouldn't have broken up, he didn't really give me a correct, no he didn't give me a solid answer.

he's also the guy that all girls are after.
but their after his popularity and his body.
i actually know him and want him for who he is.

Answer 1

Okay. First and foremost, understand and accept this: Men are boneheads when it comes to the plain and obvious! Got it? Good. Let's move on. Men do not have shades of complexity like women. I don't know why nor will I try to pretend to be an expert at it. Don't speculate why he's had four girlfriends in a 3 month period. Maybe it was them. How can you let him know how you feel without being so blunt and obvious? You really can't. Again, go back to the fact men lack the levels of complexity. Women are like the deep blue sea with all it's beauty and secrets. Men are puddles. Plain and simple. You need to virtually grab him by the face and pull him to yours and say, "Hey, dipshit! I'm falling in love with you and don't know exactly why. I want to be with you but I don't know why. All I know is that I think of you all the time. Got it?"

That pretty much should do it.

Answer 2

Leave it as friends because clearly he is uncertain.
If he does not know how he feels then don't go there. You do not want anyone that does not want you as much as you want them. It might sound rational to say you can love him enough for you and him but trust me that s..hi..t gets old pretty quick and it will only be a matter of time before the relationship starts to deteriorate.

Simply live your life, go out have fun and date, if he should come to a decision and you are still available then perhaps. Before then just leave it be, do not set yourself up for heartache. Anyone you want must want you as much and with the same intensity.

Entering any relationship where there is ambiguity (uncertainty) on how each person feels can only undermine the relationship. It erodes your confidence because secretly you are always wondering, whatever insecurities you may feel about his feels for you will only get bigger, your self-esteem will plummet and it can distort the love you feel.

Answer 3

I understand. I have that same problem. Its hard being bestfriends with someone that is deeply in love with you. With me, that follows jealousy, regret, and sorrow. Anyway, if your heart is in the right place, you should tell him that you should get back together. Make him understand your situation. It may be hard to describe it, but it will eat at you if you don't. But don't come so blunt. Ease it out to where you are comfortable to talk about it. If you rush it, you'll probably scare him. Just take your time. IM me if you need more help. I'll be glad to.

Answer 4

You need to write him a letter and DON'T give it to him right away. Take a few days to write it and make changes if you need to. Be honest and tell him how you feel and ask where "he stands". He may like you that way too OR he may not. If he DOESN'T, that doesn't mean you're not attractive, it simply means the "spark" isn't there for him. And that's okay. I THINK boyfriends are alot easier to find then BEST friends. :-) You may be okay being just best friends with him. TELL HIm (letter) that you just want him to know but tell him too that you ARE willing to just be best friends if that's what he wants. Hope that helps! I wish you all a great future! Whether it's dating or just being best friends! My best friend is a guy! LOVE IT!

Answer 5

You'll have no choice but to be blunt, if not you'll be left out, ask him if he cares for you like a girlfriend rather than a sister, and if so could you guys give it another try, i'm sure the girls he's with now were bold and told him how they felt, so the next girl couldn't vut her throat. you guys have alot of things in common plan a day with just the two of you, like pool where he might have to touch you, or bumper cars, or go to the pool/beach and show him what cha workin with.

Answer 6

What do you mean he loves you and doesn't know it yet? I think his interest is primarily that of sex, not love. You do not need this man. You should move on with your life. The woman I married was my best friend before the marriage and now she is my very best friend. To be married to your best friend, in my opinion, is heaven on earth.

Answer 7

i think he is not serious about you and wants to be just a good friend of u. then also if u want to clear ur doubts, then there is only one way out - do or die. go and express ur feelings. if he confesses his love, b happy and party and if he says no then go for some1 else. all the best dear

Answer 8

go 4 it

Answer 9

my dear..!
i think we have a same story..!

i myself ..


i m in love with my bestfriend..!

well if ur in the place to give me advice what would u say?

Answer 10

one way is to confess your love for him.