How do you keep your fiancee from going to strip clubs if his friends are constantly pressuring him to go? He's been doing a good job staying out of them, but you know, peer pressure
2006-06-30 06:55:06 · 14 answers · asked by the*cellphone*chik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously you don't like the seen and he doesn't mind it, i think that if the problem isn't addressed then it will create more. Just tell him your perspective on the situation and why then see how he reacts. If you do NOT like his reaction, what i would do is wait a day or two sit back and think and then talk about it again then hopefully you guys can come to an agreement that will satisfy both of your wants.
FYI: Don't take this lightly! It is some what
of a big deal!
2006-06-30 07:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by 325ci 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought about this about 8 yrs ago and I came up with two possibilities, you might consider it 3.
1st: Is let him go, I have looked at other guys before and still do, I can't shut his eyes completely. It will be all good as long as he doesn't touch. He can window shop all he wants but do not go in to try something on. Also if you have a hesitation, go with him. I have done this and I have enjoyed it as much as he did. I got as much attention from the females as he did.
2nd: If there is a evening you really don't want him to go. Tell him so and be prepared to give him a show. I actually practiced while he was gone. When I performed for him he enjoyed it more that the shows at the strip clubs because he was able to touch and feal. Also he was touched a lot more.
This also helped me out by being more of a tease, flirt, exhibitionist.
2006-06-30 14:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by ...... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is hard to do. We moved from a town that didn't have any at the time to a town that had many. His new friends had raised kids and the wife worked outside of the home. We had young kids and we agreed until they both were in school I would stay at home.
I will put it this way. He started lieing to me about the money coming out of visa card each month. I was able to find out for sure what was going on and it caused a divorce. He couldn't communicate what he was feeling towards me and why. Everything was my fault when I suggested counceling. Hello it takes two in a relationship to make it.
2006-06-30 14:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by B D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you concerned that you cannot trust him in a strip club? If you are then there is a trust issue there already. (before the wedding)
I don't think YOU need to keep your fiancee from going anywhere he wants. That is controlling. If he likes to go to strip clubs, you need to think about if you can handle it before the wedding. Just because you get married does not mean that he won't want to go with his buddies to the strip club anymore. You don't want him lieing to you do you? He is an adult, no friends are pressuring him into doing something he doesn't want to do. That is an excuse.
2006-06-30 14:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by shelly v 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let him go and/or go with him. There is no harm whatsoever. Looking at other women has never been a relationship no'no. If he looks at other women at a pool or on TV why does a strip club matter? You can't keep him out. That is more than likely where he is going on his bachelor night. And if you make it a big deal then he will lie and say he didn't go and start your marriage out in a lie just to avoid you getting mad and starting a fight!
2006-06-30 14:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Going to strip clubs is not a problem. Spending too much time there, or spending too much money or hooking up with the dancers is a problem. Occasional visits for fun and friendship are not a problem. Don't be so jealous and controlling. Go out yourself once in a while too, what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
2006-06-30 14:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Him going to the strip club shouldn't be any of your concern, I;m sure that you do things that he may not want you to do. Let him hang out with his friends, because I'm sure you hang out with yours.
Sometimes we put to many demands on people (guys/girls) Let him live. He is getting ready to marry you, not the strippers. So that should tell you something. I go to the strip club every once in a while, but I know that my loving wife is at home as well.
You are not his mother or his wife yet, stop telling him what to do. Or one day you may push him out of your life for good.
Let him live and you live as well.
2006-06-30 14:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by BigTyme 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Strip clubs are no big deal. Most of them are pretty decent and there is no sex going on there. It's just a bunch of slutty women shaking their butts and boobs in guys faces and then taking their money and moving on to the next sucker. Not much contact anymore and it's safer than dance clubs.
2006-06-30 13:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by swaman33 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Once you realize that going to a strip club is like paying for a dinner and tipping the waiter just to watch someone else eat, it loses its luster.
Of course if you really want to shock him, go with them once. ;)
2006-06-30 13:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by Dante 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ahh who cares if he goes? I am female and ya know what, if my man wants to go, I say as long as he handles his business and acts like the man I know he is I have no worries.
Besides how would you feel if he TOLD you that you coudn't go somewhere?
2006-06-30 14:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by preciseonegirl28 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋