Moving for a Marine, yes or no?

Question

This past September my boyfriend enlisted with the Marine Corps. I’m graduating from college in a few months and will be looking for a job and he has asked me to look near his duty station. The changes are slim I could find a job in my field (Equine Operations) and if I did it would very likely be a low paying one, which means placing my career on the back burner. I love my boyfriend and I want to be near him but we both know it’s only a matter of time before he is deployed. I don’t know if I should pick up and move everything just to be near him for at most a few months. He has a least another 3 years left in the service and neither of us wants to get married until he is done. In the mean time I’ll still have to earn a leaving somehow and breaking in to the industry will be much harder 15 hours way from all of my career contacts. I really just don’t know what to do.

btw we have been dating for a little over 3 years

Yeah actually he is in NC, Camp Lejeune

Answer 1

I'd really discourage you moving just to be near him. As you said, he'll likely be deployed soon and then you'd be left there by yourself. Since you aren't married you would have limited support and access to base resources. If it is meant to be, your relationship will survive this. If not...at least you will be moving forward in your career.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Camp Lejuene actually has a rather large equestrian center in which it would be possible for you to find work. Also, don't assume your boyfriend will be going anywhere. A lot of our troops are returning without replacements being sent out. I know an awful lot of Marines who have been in for years and have never been over. It all depends on your MOS and the needs of the Corps. Furthermore, many wive's return home to stay with family when their husbands deploy and that would always be an option for you. However, if the two of you have no plans to get married then I have to agree that moving there would be a bad decision. Most young, unmarried Marines aren't allowed to live out in town anyway (meaning even if you did, he would have to stay in a barracks room for field day every week and any nights when he's on duty). Of course, if the two of you are truly in love and have already been dating for years, I would have to wonder why you wouldn't want to get married in the near future. It can't be money, as the military provides quite nicely for married members. The two of you need to make some decisions about where your relationship is going, and you need to decide whether your career or your love is more important to you right now.

Answer 3

I would say no It is really hard to be left behind when he gets deployed. I know I was in the Marine corps . I would say get your job an when he gets out than get married. You don't want to be At a duty station by yourself it get tough. All be it their are group that are on base that help with coups that are in this situation. But most of all you need to ask yourself. How much to I love him? Am I willing to give up or put my career on hold for him? Think long an hard about this an do what is best for you. Good luck an God Bless your Boy friend

Answer 4

Don't put your career on hold for him. Just because he selected a course of action, doesn't mean you have to follow him everywhere. Most likely, he's going to some hell-hole. If you follow him to a duty station, you'll be left there alone. Stay home. Find a career and tell him you'll see him when he comes home.

Answer 5

Well sometimes you have to make scarfices for love. I just hope he isn't stuck in Jax, NC aka Camp Lejuene, that is a very hard place to find a decent job. If he gets stationed in Cali you might be suprised and land a better job.

Answer 6

I would have to go with what BigmommaCa said. Don't put your career on hold.

Answer 7

Sounds like you don't want to move, so don't.