For the Ladies?

Question

Imagine you met a man that was in your relative ecomical class, drove a car that was of similar value to your own and had a job that paid similar to what you make at your job. You start dating him, and fall in love and have a wonderful relationship with Him.

Over time, you get married, go on a honeymoon, then buy a house with a morgage.

Then one day a few days or weeks after you move in, He comes to you presenting you with a check from his own private bank account (that has been unknown to you the entire time you kave known him) for the amount of 1 million dollars and tells you that He is independantly wealthy and He wanted a wife that loved him not for his money, but for who He was.

He also tells you that He got his wealth from a trust fund and has been re-investing it for a number of years.

Would you be mad at him for hiding this fact from you while you were dating, or continue loving Him for who He is despite his (and now your) wealth?

Answer 1

I would love him no matter what.

I also would incourage him to keep it invested for his own good. Money does not make love but only helps support.

His wealth would not matter. I love someone for who they are not what they have.....

Answer 2

Well I'd be a little mad, but then it's prolly common. Mad and love are not opposites, u can still be in love even if ur mad a tad, it usually is. Unless ur really mad and end it. Why did u? I don't believe women are skanks or gold diggers, only a few are. It's pretty deceiving, and mean u all to think that girls are! I'm NOT. I do want a nice life, women have to have female products, have a trillion more choices, and we get paid less u know. U said the same car value, and same job. But as for the job, ur wrong! Even minimum wage, guys make more! I know so, my one friend had a more important job then her bf and still made less then him just because he has a small thing between him. Unless she's like a doctor, laywer or entertainer, she's making less. It's down to a 1,000 now maybe but it's still a lot, it adds up. And it's a full 1,000 more.

Answer 3

Well, since it wouldn't hurt our financial aspects I wouldn't be mad. If he came to me and said I'm in debt a million dollars and he didn't tell me about it then I'd be really mad.

The best part about the whole situation is that I fell in love with him because it was him, not his money. If I had known about the money before it could have made a difference. I'm not saying it would have, but when you know that you'll be secure you can have the wrong feelings at first. Also, a man is not a financial plan! Even if I end up with a guy that is wealthy I still plan on going to school and getting a degree. Money isn't forever and you must be prepared.

Nice description of the question. I couldn't stop reading it because of the way it led me to the end!

Answer 4

I think if only a few weeks or so have passed from the time of getting married, I wouldn't be mad at him. Now if he were holding out on that source of income at the same time I was trying to get bills paid, cover for unexpected expenses, or watching loved ones struggle over a financial setback, I would be more than miffed that he would be that selfish to wait to help a relative and step up to the plate, so to speak.

Answer 5

I would love him the same as I did before. I might get upset that he didn't trust me, but I would get over it because you know, I would have probably done the same thing. When you're sitting on that much money, you can not trust that someone will love you for who you are. They probably would be seeing $$ all over you!!! After finding out about the money, I would try and prove to him that it doesn't make a difference to me because money is not by far the most important thing in the world. I would still love him and treat him right!

Answer 6

I would be disappointed that he would not have been able to trust me but would understand him in doing what he did. I would tell him that despite his money I loved him just the same. I would also tell him to put the money back into his account because I don't like money. It just causes trouble. Maybe he would like to give it to people who really needed it. Also I don't think I could trust him again and ask for a divorce because he wasn't the man I married.

Answer 7

No, I wouldn't be mad at him. If I had money I would want to make sure that a guy loved me for me and not what I had. And because I loved him I would do my best to understand why he does anything. Personally, that is not bad at all. It's not like he lied about being married to someone else or anything. With as crazy as the world is and everyone in it now a days, we all have to take measures to protect ourselves.

Answer 8

when I met my present partner he was a farm worker with the knees out of his jeans and a busted down old truck..
he worked six days a week and lived in a flat on the farm...

I lived in a huge house with five bedrooms two bathrooms, had a big four wheel drive station wagon, my job paid better than his....

The money issue did not come into it at all...

As a matter of fact after about six weeks of dating he looked at me and said "You are the weirdest woman I have met."

I responded "Gee! Thanks." and just waited for his response.

He said you have never asked me how much I earn, how much I have in the bank, or when I am getting a new car. How come?"

I told him... "That is simple... I never ask because it is none of my business"

Besides he never asked me about my finances and later when I told him that the house I lived in was not mine, my car was repossessed and I lost my job.... he simply asked me to move in with him so that we could be together.

Some time later it transpired that he did have money in the bank... he did buy a new car with cash... and we went on a long holiday together...

I have always loved him for who he is..

He in turn has always loved me for who I am.

Answer 9

I think I would understand why he felt the need to hide it, but I'd also still be kinda pissed that he kept the information from me. Hopefully if he felt he could trust me enough to marry me, then he should be able to trust me enough to give me the information before we actually got married. That way I could go into the situation and make the best decisions based on the truth. But I can see why someone would hide the information, at least at first, until they established trust.

Answer 10

I am kind of a simple person I believe that more money brings more problems, but if he is able to keep his wealth hiden from me while i fall for him than the life he leads my not be that complicated after all. But i will get mad if his personality changes

Answer 11

Hmmm. It depends. Probably not for long, but if he was hiding anything else from me, I'd want to know that as well. I expect honesty from my partners because it shows they respect me and I give them the same thing. For instance, I adore my BF. He was married for nearly 20 years to another woman. He had cheated on her because he was interested in an alternative lifestyle. I didn't know that they were separated when we hooked up. I thought he was divorced. Thankfully as soon as I found out they weren't divorced he got off his a$$ and started divorce proceedings. However, part of me always wonders if he will cheat on me. There's no reason for him to be dishonest and I have told him the one thing that would piss me off is if he started relations with another without letting me know.