2006-06-30 06:17:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Start from the beginning from when you first started dating. Go back to the place you met. Revisit old past times together. Start doing the things you used to do before your life became busy.
Don't forget to look back and find out what that person really means to you. Spice things up a little, do something that you would not ordinarily do. You may have become to predictable with your day in and day out routine. Do some new things.
Pray about it as well. It'll work, you have nothing to worry about.
2006-06-30 06:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by BigTyme 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The two of you should have "date nights" together. Once a month at least set up a date where the two of you can be alone.
It could be going out to dinner, a movie or even a romantic evening at home!
Before this though, go out to dinner together and just talk about the things the two of you used to do! Keep the talk very positive and remind each other of the fun things you did when you first met and when you were first married. After dinner, go home and you should remove all of his clothes then have him lay on the bed and watch as you slowly undress yourself. Now lay on the bed and start doing some of the things you talked about at dinner!
My wife and I have been married for 11 years now and we are happier and more passionate now than we were on the day we married! The date nights are fun and will help to put the spark and passion back into things. Good luck
2006-06-30 06:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the continuing to date advice. You can't just stop dating your spouse because you have children. You should have a date night at least once or twice a month. You can even do a date night without hiring a sitter. Just put the kids to bed early and plan a romantic dinner and just talk, or watch a movie together. Alot of people seem to lose that sense of "us" after they start adding the kids to the mix, but what they don't realize is the children will leave someday and then it's just the two of you again. Once the kids leave they stand there looking at eachother like "I don't even know you anymore" and then guess what? A divorce! Suprising? Not to me. You have to put your spouse first, your relationship comes first above everything. Don't take that as I'm telling you the kids are not important, because they are, but what kind of life do they end up having when mom and dad are emotionally disconnected and then suprise them with a divorce upon them moving out? Don't do them any favors. Do what you can now, don't forget about eachother.
2006-06-30 06:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
commonly do no longer examine long posts yet you're interior a similar place i'm. We have been seperated, temporarily even though it went horribly for the youngsters. the marriage works for us as a baby elevating and economic partnership and that i'm staying for now and made my peace with that. the large circumstances spent with the youngsters outweigh the negatives with the spouse. yet I do understand the no longer attracted section. we've intercourse at a million/2 the fee you do and in basic terms whilst she initiates it. the different attempt is rebuffed. i replaced into pissed and unhappy till now each and every thing yet I moved on. what's helped for me is i'm getting a masters and shifting directly to a sparkling occupation and household initiatives. My spouse has gotten interest (which i understand keeps to be a controversy for you) so as long as she retains it, financial independence from one yet another can finally happen. Counseling didnt artwork for us and that i'm unclear this is going to. To many stuff approximately me rub her the incorrect way and definitely we are too different-and obdurate-to alter i assume. Will issues exchange? Who is conscious. i'm waiting till the youngsters are in center college and the two one human beings have had jobs for some years till now making any adjustments. till then i'm basically preserving busy. Drop me a PM in case you desire...reliable luck in any different case
2016-11-01 00:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by fleitman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from the kids once a week. Get a babysitter. Take her to Vegas or Hedonism in Jamaica. Party with her like your in college again. Make life fun again, the passion will follow.
2006-06-30 06:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind each other why you fell in love in the first place. It can be hard sometimes with work and kids to have any energy left for your mate. Keep it simple, cuddle up on the sofa when you watch tv, take a bath together after along hard day, look into each others eyes and let nature take it's course.
2006-06-30 06:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time with each other. Make an effort to do the things you were first married or first dating. Send notes...go on dates, be sweet to each other.
Never leave without a kiss goodbye those kind of things...
flowers, phone calls, phone calls at work for no reason, etc, etc
2006-06-30 06:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by poor and in debt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have to be willing to work at it.
Start out dating again. Make the time. Meet somewhere after work. Do something that you did when you first met. Something special you did.
If it is one sided trying to bring it back it won't work. Communication works wonders.
2006-06-30 06:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on dates every week if you can. Do things that you use to do when you were dating before you two were married.
2006-06-30 06:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by strawberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out more just the two of you like you did when u were dating.Make is seem like you are still trying to get the relationship to the next level
2006-06-30 06:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by jpcbbc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋