why do we feel we have to have sleep with a man just to keep him interested?

Question

i was thinking about why we women always feel like we need to sleep with a man to keep him about.. I know in my past i've done that.. thinking that will be a good way to keep them around maybe get them to like me or something and it never turns out well..
when will we realize we are worth more!
i know not all women feel this way.. but deep down you know you've thought about it! aren't we better than that?
are ourself essteems that low?

hrm i am currently not having this issue.. but i've noticed i've done it before... also from some posts on here it seems the younger generation is following into thinking thats how to get a man

Answer 1

So many women have low self-esteem, and think that if she sleeps with a guy, it will keep him around. The problem there is, if that is the case, she is with the wrong guy! There is a lack of respect on both ends: self respect from her, and respect she is not getting from the guy. I think it is a maturity issue as well. Once a women grows into herself and has the confidence she should have, that school of thought tends to disappear.

Answer 2

I've read the comments here (some, not all cause they all seemed to go in the same place) but here is what I think/believe.
Irregardless of how far "women" have come in "equality", women still believe the myth that a man has a higher sexual drive then she does and that's all a man thinks about.

When you look at Western Culture, a woman has become a sexualized commodity. And because of it, some other woman could steal your man. He has eyes, a high sex drive....she's been told all he is interested in is sex so it could be that she feels she needs to do it in order to keep him. All those other girls out there-models, bikini girls, movie stars, p orn stars, the girls on the bus, the girls down the street, the ex gf, his new friend--could all be better than you for they all have SEX appeal and are eye candy to him. And you have seen him look but he professes that it's YOU that he cares about.
In a way, this is her insecurity but in a sad way, it's also competition. Catfights between women are common place in society, even televised. Why? Because women fighting is considered "sexy and hot" and could result the women having sex.

So because of the fear that he will have a roaming eye, she will have sex with him to keep him interested because she's been told that men are cheating b astards and all men cheat. She should know. Her dad cheated on her mother. Or her friend's father cheated on his wife.
She doesn't think about the women who have also cheated on men. That's not what's important because in her mind, it's irrelevant to the situation

She is thinking this: That with her, it's gonna be different because she knows how to keep her man interested. They just had sex and he didn't stop her so it verfies what she's been told. And if she believes that all men are like this, then why leave when it will be the same way with someone else? Might as well stay where she is.

He can say he loves her, wishes to be with her, marry her and have kids but she thinks that to him : Sex is the pinnacle of the relationship. She thinks this because of things she's been fed from her environment.

So, if Some women still "believe" that all men think about or are interested in is sex, then she believes he is not that emotionally involved in her. She might figure that having sex with him will establish and keep a connection with him.

And Irregardless of how far "women" say we have come in equality, a woman still feels she isn't worth anything unless a man finds her sexually attractive. And she feels it's her Responsibility to please him in every manner possible, even if she's not in the mood...Because He wants to.
And she thinks that if she doesn't, he will lose interest and go elsewhere.

There is still a sexual repression in women that is still ongoing today. Even though men have "sexualized" women does not mean that all women feel comfortable in their sexuality. Women who are stuck in this place have not come into their own yet. There are still many women that think that all men care about is sex. Is that a stereotype? Yes? Does knowing it's a stereotype make it go away? No, sadly, it does not. What can be done? A woman has to realize, either on her own or with help, that not all men only care about sex. There are emotionally involved men out there. These women need help to realize that they DESERVE an emotionally involved man, to know their own worth/what they deserve and in knowing this, might help stop this cycle and help her develop healthy emotional/sexual relationships.

Hope this helps with your question.
:)

Answer 3

Because you do have to sleep with a man to keep him interested. On top of many other things. Sex is just one of the many things you do in a relationship to keep it going. You can have the most stimulating conversations in the world but if there's no sex then there's no relationship. You just have to balance everything. If you feel like you have to have sex to keep a guys interest maybe you should step back and take a good look at yourself. Are you not capable of finding other ways to keep a mans attention? Maybe you're just a bore.

Answer 4

Because men are moronic self abosorbed pigs.And this is coming from a guy.Most men aren't interested in females unless they know can get sex out of the deal.And some females think they are in love and give in because deep in their hearts they do not want to be without that person and that is the only way they think they can keep a guy.Prove me wrong if that isnt correct.

Answer 5

i didnt know women felt that way i would assume as a guy that was the last means of resort to keep him. personally i dont know of anyone that is worth the trouble. not all men are pigs i would say dogs . like a dog loyal , faithful, fun to have around, some women would agree but those who say we are ungrateful dogs then being our counterpart will make them a b**ch. works both ways. A man truly after your heart will go to the ends of the world to win it . One who does not know the meaning of sacrifice is either still young or selfish.

Answer 6

It could be you? Maybe you are not very interesting? I had this situation once with a girl. She would come over a lot, not say very much and we would have sex. I thought thats what she wanted. It wasn't till she wrote me this long letter that she didn't want to see me anymore that I even knew she had a personality. I take some responsibility, but come on. Look at yourself too.

Answer 7

that feeling is actually centered around the insecure notion that that man only wants you for sex, if you are feeling that way with a guy then you shouldn't be with him, you have to realize that in all actuality females are somewhat psychologically stronger than men, guys base their insecurities around sexual dominance, it may not even be apparent to them, in order to satisfy their percieved shortcoming they will prey on females who feel the same. it takes time for a lot of people to realize what you have and some don't at all so you have made a big step.

Answer 8

are you really going to read this too..

ok , well , you answered your self, it is LOW self esteem that woman build inside her self, the way you think about your self is the way people/men would treat you or think of you, in order for you to raise this self esteem , you have to make peace with your self, and seek the greatest values in you and cherish it, you have to always concentrate on the great things in your personality.

you have to look at sex as mutual pleasure, not (i give you sex, you stay with me) , if you wanna have sex with your man, do it, if you DON"T, let him cry till moring, smash his head to a wall, he will sure will ask again, and YOU REACTE to his sex demands with exactly the way you feel, if you want it go for it, if you don't , say" come back later" if he wants YOU and no one put you, he will stick around, if he is only looking for a ***** to ***** well , you tell me, he better find him an animal..

ANIMALS mate, but human LOVE.

being a woman means weakness, its alright, and it's wonderful too, coz woman aren't woman unless they are soft, tender, beautifully weak, and delicate.. BAD men use this for their own benifit even if it hurts their women. decent good men appreciate this and protect it.

of course you are better than being a sex toy, or figure.

sex is the same with all men, all woman, but personalities are different. in order to get a man to like you, is:

1- Be your self
2- Be decent and honest
3- Care for your self, and love yourself
4- Care for the people in your life
5- Do not be afraid to show your self as a woman
6- Do not be an easy person , yet do not act like a man
7- Golden advise is : Be Firm but Nice.

the kind of men who would love you or want to be with you are those who think highly of a woman... you just stick to those points,, and you won't even see those ugly types of men, because you have changed yourself.

you seem to be a samrt girl.

Answer 9

The reason why God does not want us to have sex before marriage is because the marriage will be base on pure love for who you are and not just a sexual attraction. So if a man truly loves you, he will wait because he loves you from his heart and not from the lust of flesh.

Answer 10

How about both of you taking a dozen Cosmo compatibility tests before hopping in the sack. I read cuddling produces oxytocin in women by hugging. But in men it is produced just before orgasm.