We have been seperated for 9mo. our anniversary is this weekend, I feel like we are not seperated at all, we spend so much time togather, still have sexual relations and talk. I stay at his house all the time, even thou he says he doesnt' want to be back living togather, he says he is trying to figure things out. So I fully expect him to just blow off our anniversary, Just like he blew off xmas and Valentines day also my birthday. If he does I am going to be so hurt that I dont know if I will even be able to try anymore.
2006-06-30 05:21:28 · 9 answers · asked by kotysgrlxxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I want to appologize for not being more explicit, He is the one who always wants me here, thats whats so confuseing, but he doesnt want me to move in. I have stayed away but he always calls or comes to work to see how i am doing. He doesnt come to my place because I have roomates and he doesnt its a privacy issue and nothing more....
2006-06-30 05:43:37 · update #1
okay... he blew of xmas, your birthday, and vday... you expect him to forget your anniversary, too. he doesn't want to be "together", yet you're still having sex and talking... he has his own place... where is the "down side" in all of this for him?
sounds like he's USING YOU, sweetie. do yourself a favor, tell him that either he needs to live up to his commitments or he can find someone else.
just my opinion, i may be wrong. but don't you deserve better?
2006-06-30 05:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like what he is trying to figure out is how to get away from you without causing trouble. Does he come to your house ? It semms like you are following him around hoping he will change his feelings towards you. What you should be hurt by, is his inability to make a commitment to your relationship. Don't you get the message he is sending you ? He does not want to acknowledge any special days because he doesn't want to acknowledge you in his life. What you should try is to stay away from him for at least two weeks, just to see if he misses you, is worried about you, calls you. If he doesn't do either, then why would you want to be involved in a one-sided love affair? Tell him you are seeing another man, see what his reaction is.If it bothers him, then that means he still has some feelings for you, and there's hope. If he tells you to have fun, do it, have fun with another man. The chapter in that book is closed, open another book, start a new chapter in your life and be happy.
2006-06-30 05:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by the sealer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that s not him using you and the fact that he knows you still love him, then I don t know what it is. Your giving him everything he wants. Not what YOU want. Stay away from him, totally !! Let him go find himself some other stupid woman to take care of his sexual needs & friendship needs. See how he feels then ? Your being foolish. If you really want him back, the only way to go, is to make him desire you so much that he cannot live without you. And if he doesn t, then bye bye buster !! Either he shows appreciation for you on special days or he doesn t. You decide what s important to you. Some men will never show it the way we women want them to. Others do it but it means nothing to them. So you may get a card, but the very next day he ll be out screwing another woman. Believe me !! Cards are not everything, honey. It s what he does for you the rest of the year that counts !!
2016-10-28 18:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by Joanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant figure men out too. I think its best not to analyze them too much. This is your marraige and you'll need to work this out somehow. Your husband seems confused but if he comes to you, as you say, then he is probably trying to make this marraige work or has feelings for you. Dont make a big deal abt the 'special' days. Let things get back together slowly. Sex with him when he isnt completely sure, is that ok with you. Do you feel used when he comes and then doesnt want to acknowledge you.
2006-06-30 05:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by Doll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he will blow off your anniversary. If he needs time to sort out his feelings, why are you spending the night at his house?? That's not giving him time! If he wants to be alone, leave him be alone and maybe he will realize how much he wants to be with you. By doing what you're doing, you're allowing him to have his free time and when he wants some sex you're right there.......you're just making it harder on yourself, and he's getting exactly what he wants.
2006-06-30 05:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you split up if you are still playing the wife role? Yeah he is probably going to blow it off like he has everything else. You dont deserve to have to have a relationship like this anyway, you deserve much better.
2006-06-30 05:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he blew off the others, your bday being an important one, I would expect him to blow off your anniversary too. Sorry.
2006-06-30 05:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are seperated then their is no anniversary. Sorry.
2006-06-30 05:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE DAM WELL BETTER !! if not kick him to the curb !
2006-06-30 05:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by transplanted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋